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Post by FluteHolder on Fri Apr 12, 2019 9:11 pm


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Post by sulu on Fri Apr 12, 2019 10:03 pm

the best way to move on? take some time out until you feel the need for a change of pace, and then go out with someone else. At best, you have a chill time; at worst, this trauma will replace that one haha. Either way, it will hurt less. 

i don't know why, but i watched his video, and it looks like his style of loving is pragma.... 

mine is a combo of Storge, Pragma, Eros, and Agape... I am drawn towards the idea of Eros internally, but my basic style is Storge and hence i keep my Pragma style up (or atleast did that when i was younger and looking to marry). Once I am in a secure relationship i am full-on Agape styled, like i was with XH and kids. I guess most mothers are of agape style with their kids. For a very short while i had brought out my mania style, but then i was a possessed woman trying to save my marriage, not realizing how it may further backfire; i snapped out of it soon though and i personally hate that style, especially in friendships. While I have never been a Ludus, (which funnily is anti-loving, but hey it's a style too), who knows what midlife crisis can spring upon you. 


https://www.yourtango.com/experts/rik-foote/6-love-styles-ways-show-love-relationships

https://www.lifehacker.com.au/2017/02/there-are-six-styles-of-love-which-one-best-describes-you/

Eros

This style is typically experienced as a romantic, fairytale-type love. Physical beauty is important to this love style. Attraction is intense and immediate (“head over heels”), and the Eros lover feels an urgent drive to deepen the relationship emotionally and physically.

Because these individuals love the feeling of being in love, they tend to be serial monogamists, staying in a relationship as long as it feels fresh and compelling, then moving on so they can experience those same feelings again with someone new.

Storge

Storgic types tend to be stable and committed in their relationships. They value companionship, psychological closeness and trust. For these individuals, love relationships can sometimes grow out of friendships, so that love sneaks up on the pair. This love style is enduring, and these individuals are in it for the long haul.


Ludus

People with a ludic style view love as a game that they are playing to win. Often this can be a multiplayer game! Ludic individuals are comfortable with deception and manipulation in their relationships. They tend to be low on commitment and are often emotionally distant.

Because ludic individuals are more focused on the short term, they tend to place greater importance on the physical characteristics of their mate than do the other love styles. They are also more likely to engage in sexual hookups.

Pragma

Practicality rules for this type. Logic is used to determine compatibility and future prospects. This doesn’t mean that these individuals use an emotionless, Spock-like approach to their relationships, rather they a place a high importance on whether a potential mate will be suited to meeting their needs.

These needs might be social or financial. Pragmatists might wonder if their prospective partner would be accepted by family and friends, or whether they’re good with money. The might also evaluate their emotional assets; for example, does a would-be partner have the skills to be calm in times of stress?

Mania

This refers to an obsessive love style. These individuals tend to be emotionally dependent and to need fairly constant reassurance in a relationship. Someone with this love style is likely to experience peaks of joy and troughs of sorrow, depending on the extent to which their partner can accommodate their needs.

Because of the possessiveness associated with this style, jealousy can be an issue for these individuals.

Agape

Agapic individuals are giving and caring, and are centred on their partner’s needs. This is largely a selfless and unconditional love. An agapic partner will love you just as you are. But they will also be particularly appreciative of acts of care and kindness that they receive back from their partner.

Perhaps because these individuals are so accepting, they tend to have very high levels of relationship satisfaction.

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