kinnera wrote:what do i do?

kinnera wrote:Scenario: My big shot cousin's daughter has a 3 yr old son. A very pampered and spoit brat already. They employed a 11-13 yr old boy whose duty is to accompany the kiddo during his wakeful hrs: playing with him, feeding him, having an eye on him all the time. I find it so depressing. What a boring thing to do for a 12 yr old. He should be going to school, having fun with his friends, playing video games and worrying abt homeworks and exams at this age, not taking care of a 3 yr old all through the day, seven days a week. His future is getting ruined as he isn't getting any education. It seems so cruel!

This doesn't seem to bother anyone, even the ones in the family who talk abt 'sama samajam': equality and justice for all, etc. It would seem ridiculous  if i go talk to the cousin abt the unfairness of it all and putting the poor kid in school. what do i do?

smArtha wrote:Are you going to fund an ipad for him? You can only talk of his future only if you can take care of his present i.e. food, clothing, shelter, health and then education. If you can afford, what is stopping you from enrolling this boy into a school and taking care of the expenses?

Side issue, this 11-13yr old will sexually molest the 3 yr old boy soon. Eventually your super rich cousin will find out and beat the crap out of the 11-13 yr old boy before kicking him out. The 3 yr old will spend most of his adult life in therapy. Life goes on.

kinnera wrote:yes, i am ready to sponsor the kid. i already do that with my mom's domestic help's son. i told you what the problem is: the last but one line of the OP.

kinnera wrote:

smArtha wrote:Are you going to fund an ipad for him? You can only talk of his future only if you can take care of his present i.e. food, clothing, shelter, health and then education. If you can afford, what is stopping you from enrolling this boy into a school and taking care of the expenses?

yes, i am ready to sponsor the kid. i already do that with my mom's domestic help's son. i told you what the problem is: the last but one line of the OP.

smArtha wrote:

kinnera wrote:yes, i am ready to sponsor the kid. i already do that with my mom's domestic help's son. i told you what the problem is: the last but one line of the OP.

Don't highlight to your cousin his/her 'unfairness' and hint your 'magnanimity'. If your idea is just to help the kid, whichever way, then make her a partner in your good deed i.e. drive her to the point in a way she arrives at the schooling idea herself, you applaud that gesture and say you want to fund the same, let her share the credit for schooling him (even though you are funding it all) or even steal the entire credit for the same. That is generally an incentive enough for her to let him join school. You ensure that he is enrolled into a school, send checks to the school and open a communication line with the teacher of his class or the principal of the school for periodic updates.

FluteHolder wrote:You can tell her that you came across some post here or in any forum about the labor laws (no child labor) and tell her any of her 'close' relatives might tell authorities to get her in trouble:)  You can suggest that you both can share the cost of sending the kid to school.

Kris wrote:

FluteHolder wrote:You can tell her that you came across some post here or in any forum about the labor laws (no child labor) and tell her any of her 'close' relatives might tell authorities to get her in trouble:)  You can suggest that you both can share the cost of sending the kid to school.

>>>>Like that's going to happen in India.