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by Guest Sat Mar 07, 2015 10:59 pm
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/gracie-x/compersion-a-polyamorous-principle-that-can-strengthen-any-relationship_b_6803868.html
"Baby," I told him genuinely, "I am so happy for you!"
What brought on these feelings of joy in both of us? To be honest, he'd just had sex -- with another woman. And, yep, I was stoked for him.
There's actually a word for the joyful feeling that a polyamorous person has when his or her lover or spouse walks through the door after spending the afternoon making love to his or her new girlfriend or boyfriend: compersion. Compersion is such a novel concept that you won't even find the word in the dictionary (unless you look in the Urban dictionary).
Feeling all warm and gooey because your spouse had a great time banging someone else is not something we're socialized to feel. We can be thrilled for our partner if they get a raise or promotion or receive some kind of unexpected windfall, but why can't we be happy for our partners who find joy in bed with someone else?
"Baby," I told him genuinely, "I am so happy for you!"
What brought on these feelings of joy in both of us? To be honest, he'd just had sex -- with another woman. And, yep, I was stoked for him.
There's actually a word for the joyful feeling that a polyamorous person has when his or her lover or spouse walks through the door after spending the afternoon making love to his or her new girlfriend or boyfriend: compersion. Compersion is such a novel concept that you won't even find the word in the dictionary (unless you look in the Urban dictionary).
Feeling all warm and gooey because your spouse had a great time banging someone else is not something we're socialized to feel. We can be thrilled for our partner if they get a raise or promotion or receive some kind of unexpected windfall, but why can't we be happy for our partners who find joy in bed with someone else?
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Re: polyamorous
by Guest Sun Mar 08, 2015 1:43 pm
I am Kinnera and I approve this life style 
. I am happy that someone is beyond petty jealousies and possessiveness and is open minded. That's great!
. I am happy that someone is beyond petty jealousies and possessiveness and is open minded. That's great!
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Re: polyamorous
by Guest Sun Mar 08, 2015 2:47 pm
looking back at many stories (and movies), and lifestyles of some people who I knew growing up, i am sure this is not a new concept. couples have done it through the ages, discretely ofcourse. guess it's only now when a supposedly common middle class person is writing about it that can add to the shock factor, if any.
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Re: polyamorous
by seven Sun Mar 08, 2015 2:48 pm
what's next - watching ur partner have sex with someone else :eyeroll
how can they compare being happy for partner's promotion at work with happiness from emotional intimacy.
too much open mindedness may not be a good thing always...
how can they compare being happy for partner's promotion at work with happiness from emotional intimacy.
too much open mindedness may not be a good thing always...
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Re: polyamorous
by Marathadi-Saamiyaar Sun Mar 08, 2015 4:50 pm
seven wrote:what's next - watching ur partner have sex with someone else :eyeroll
how can they compare being happy for partner's promotion at work with happiness from emotional intimacy.
too much open mindedness may not be a good thing always...
Read carefully....it was "knowing" that your partner....not "watching"....
Pinnoil your dirty mind ... This is a high class family forum....
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Re: polyamorous
by seven Sun Mar 08, 2015 5:05 pm
Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:seven wrote:what's next - watching ur partner have sex with someone else :eyeroll
how can they compare being happy for partner's promotion at work with happiness from emotional intimacy.
too much open mindedness may not be a good thing always...
Read carefully....it was "knowing" that your partner....not "watching"....
Pinnoil your dirty mind ... This is a high class family forum....
Today knowing makes you happy. I said the next logical step would be watching.
If knowing makes you happy, then you are friends. Marriage is infinitely more intimate. How can you be happy knowing your partner enjoyed banging somone else in bed. Unless ofcoz you don't love them.
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Re: polyamorous
by Marathadi-Saamiyaar Sun Mar 08, 2015 6:50 pm
seven wrote:Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:seven wrote:what's next - watching ur partner have sex with someone else :eyeroll
how can they compare being happy for partner's promotion at work with happiness from emotional intimacy.
too much open mindedness may not be a good thing always...
Read carefully....it was "knowing" that your partner....not "watching"....
Pinnoil your dirty mind ... This is a high class family forum....
Today knowing makes you happy. I said the next logical step would be watching.
If knowing makes you happy, then you are friends. Marriage is infinitely more intimate. How can you be happy knowing your partner enjoyed banging somone else in bed. Unless ofcoz you don't love them.
I am now thinking of retiring from marriage discussions as well....
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Re: polyamorous
by Seva Lamberdar Mon Mar 09, 2015 10:09 am
Did someone steal Kinnera's account info.?
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Re: polyamorous
by Guest Mon Mar 09, 2015 10:36 am
LOL! no it's me. Different stokes for different ppl, Seva ji. Who's anyone to judge the personal choices of anyone. There's nothing negative in what the author wrote. All i see is selfless love, freedom, happiness, non-conformity to the man-made rules/values, and a higher state of being which is free of jealousy, possessiveness, insecurity and such.Seva Lamberdar wrote:Did someone steal Kinnera's account info.?
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Re: polyamorous
by Guest Mon Mar 09, 2015 10:40 am
It's the other way around, seven. You love your partner so much that you are happy for him/her when he/she is happy, even if it meant that he/she slept with another person.seven wrote:Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:seven wrote:what's next - watching ur partner have sex with someone else :eyeroll
how can they compare being happy for partner's promotion at work with happiness from emotional intimacy.
too much open mindedness may not be a good thing always...
Read carefully....it was "knowing" that your partner....not "watching"....
Pinnoil your dirty mind ... This is a high class family forum....
Today knowing makes you happy. I said the next logical step would be watching.
If knowing makes you happy, then you are friends. Marriage is infinitely more intimate. How can you be happy knowing your partner enjoyed banging somone else in bed. Unless ofcoz you don't love them.
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Re: polyamorous
by Seva Lamberdar Mon Mar 09, 2015 2:19 pm
No, I was wondering about the earlier politicians-like declaration /ad "I am Kinnera and I approve this... "Kinnera wrote:LOL! no it's me. Different stokes for different ppl, Seva ji. Who's anyone to judge the personal choices of anyone. There's nothing negative in what the author wrote. All i see is selfless love, freedom, happiness, non-conformity to the man-made rules/values, and a higher state of being which is free of jealousy, possessiveness, insecurity and such.Seva Lamberdar wrote:Did someone steal Kinnera's account info.?
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