are you attracted to non-indians?

by Guest Sat Feb 09, 2013 11:59 am

not the movie stars, but in real life. As in, wanting to date them or have a relationship with them?

Dunno, for me it's always been just Indians so far. No matter how good looking someone (non Indian) is, never felt the attraction. Also, how can you be with someone with whom you can't talk in your language, or go see a Hindi movie with? Or someone who don't understand where you coming from.

by Guest Sat Feb 09, 2013 12:06 pm

you should hook up with rashmun. he suffers from the same malaise. for him it is the looks, for you the non-looks. i think opposite poles react.

by Rishi Sat Feb 09, 2013 12:09 pm

Vidya Bagchi wrote:not the movie stars, but in real life. As in, wanting to date them or have a relationship with them?

Dunno, for me it's always been just Indians so far. No matter how good looking someone (non Indian) is, never felt the attraction. Also, how can you be with someone with whom you can't talk in your language, or go see a Hindi movie with? Or someone who don't understand where you coming from.

That leaves out millions of non-hindians like me or KV.

by Guest Sat Feb 09, 2013 12:18 pm

Rishi wrote:
Vidya Bagchi wrote:not the movie stars, but in real life. As in, wanting to date them or have a relationship with them?

Dunno, for me it's always been just Indians so far. No matter how good looking someone (non Indian) is, never felt the attraction. Also, how can you be with someone with whom you can't talk in your language, or go see a Hindi movie with? Or someone who don't understand where you coming from.

That leaves out millions of non-hindians like me or KV.

not really. I don't crave to talk in Hindi all the time. But even if someone can understand a few words, it's fine... or at least they would know where I am coming from, and vice versa. But someone, say white, a German American. Would you date them?

by truthbetold Sat Feb 09, 2013 12:23 pm

Vb,
Have you ever looked at sports illustrated swim suit issue?

by Guest Sat Feb 09, 2013 12:26 pm

truthbetold wrote:Vb,
Have you ever looked at sports illustrated swim suit issue?

that's what my question is... not drool over some star, but to have a real relationship with.

by Marathadi-Saamiyaar Sat Feb 09, 2013 12:26 pm

Vidya Bagchi wrote:not the movie stars, but in real life. As in, wanting to date them or have a relationship with them?

Dunno, for me it's always been just Indians so far. No matter how good looking someone (non Indian) is, never felt the attraction. Also, how can you be with someone with whom you can't talk in your language, or go see a Hindi movie with? Or someone who don't understand where you coming from.

I knew this weekend would be bad. What a start.

Ok. I will focus on Iyerinis, Iyengarinis, and Pseudo tamilians.

by truthbetold Sat Feb 09, 2013 12:46 pm

Vidya Bagchi wrote:
truthbetold wrote:Vb,
Have you ever looked at sports illustrated swim suit issue?

that's what my question is... not drool over some star, but to have a real relationship with.

Vb,
A desirable mate could be from any of the human races. Few practical issues such as money makes things difficult but not impossible.

by Marathadi-Saamiyaar Sat Feb 09, 2013 1:02 pm

Vidya Bagchi wrote:
truthbetold wrote:Vb,
Have you ever looked at sports illustrated swim suit issue?

that's what my question is... not drool over some star, but to have a real relationship with.

It will take a little longer. To overcome the added constraints of unfamiliar external appearance and mentally formed stereotypical views. Of course, it is doubly difficult as similar constraints exist on the other side as well. Just look at the numerous ABCD girls of all colors and white boys. To them, the mental barriers are broken and physical attraction is the result of years of being togetherness in high schools. Funny, the ABCD girls look at desi boys as some kind of Phoreners. (Exceptions exist).

So, it is possible to like someone from the other world.

P.S. So what is cooking.... Wink

by Guest Sat Feb 09, 2013 1:06 pm

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

P.S. So what is cooking....

lol.... bff trying to hook me up with people who she thinks are perfect fits. and i am backing out big time.

by Marathadi-Saamiyaar Sat Feb 09, 2013 1:21 pm

Vidya Bagchi wrote:
Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

P.S. So what is cooking....

lol.... bff trying to hook me up with people who she thinks are perfect fits. and i am backing out big time.

What you face - most people face - is physical barriers (only the bar hoppers and one-nighters are often free from this constraint.) To break through the physical barriers, one needs to connect mentally and psychologically with them (even slightly), which will then easily break the physical barriers. Start with coffee or lunch and get used to non-desis. Most desis (in IT world) hardly come across or encounter whites, blacks, and hispanics.

But, cutting across "pary lines" at this stage in life has its repercussions.

by Guest Sat Feb 09, 2013 1:28 pm

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:
Vidya Bagchi wrote:
Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

P.S. So what is cooking....

lol.... bff trying to hook me up with people who she thinks are perfect fits. and i am backing out big time.

What you face - most people face - is physical barriers (only the bar hoppers and one-nighters are often free from this constraint.) To break through the physical barriers, one needs to connect mentally and psychologically with them (even slightly), which will then easily break the physical barriers. Start with coffee or lunch and get used to non-desis. Most desis (in IT world) hardly come across or encounter whites, blacks, and hispanics.

But, cutting across "pary lines" at this stage in life has its repercussions.

I have come across other races, but I could never think of them that way.

by Rishi Sat Feb 09, 2013 1:30 pm

Long ago when I lived in a small town in MN, a white woman whom I considered as my sister tried to hook me up with a white girl. I almost agreed to go out with that girl. Then when I found out that the girl had been married three times and had children through all of her three ex-husbands, I realized that I have been stabbed in the back.

by Guest Sat Feb 09, 2013 1:33 pm

Rishi wrote:Long ago when I lived in a small town in MN, a white woman whom I considered as my sister tried to hook me up with a white girl. I almost agreed to go out with that girl. Then when I found out that the girl had been married three times and had children through all of her three ex-husbands, I realized that I have been stabbed in the back.

yes rishi. you and i share the same phoren phobia, lol.

by Rekz Sat Feb 09, 2013 1:47 pm

Why not?
Hindi movie!! Is that so very important in life?
Infact dating phoren guy would be ideal..
Indians/Hindians are big time MCPs.
Now that u r settled there for long..u should srsly consider dating that german american..

Im attracted to all races who are good at heart.

by truthbetold Sat Feb 09, 2013 1:49 pm

Rishi wrote:Long ago when I lived in a small town in MN, a white woman whom I considered as my sister tried to hook me up with a white girl. I almost agreed to go out with that girl. Then when I found out that the girl had been married three times and had children through all of her three ex-husbands, I realized that I have been stabbed in the back.

rishi,
you meant to say your sister stabbed her friend in the back. Correct?

by Guest Sat Feb 09, 2013 2:09 pm

Rekz wrote:Why not?
Hindi movie!! Is that so very important in life?
Infact dating phoren guy would be ideal..
Indians/Hindians are big time MCPs.
Now that u r settled there for long..u should srsly consider dating that german american..

Im attracted to all races who are good at heart.

hmm, when she was telling me about him (and some other guy before that), I thought she's just telling me another story of someone. then when she said i shd meet him, i took a double take, and said no pretty strongly. my first reaction. so guess that story is over now. let's see...

by Marathadi-Saamiyaar Sat Feb 09, 2013 2:12 pm

Vidya Bagchi wrote:
Rishi wrote:Long ago when I lived in a small town in MN, a white woman whom I considered as my sister tried to hook me up with a white girl. I almost agreed to go out with that girl. Then when I found out that the girl had been married three times and had children through all of her three ex-husbands, I realized that I have been stabbed in the back.

yes rishi. you and i share the same phoren phobia, lol.

Wait.... Why do desis always see everything through the glass of marriage ? When someone tries to hook you up with someone it is just a "hook up." Only when parents hook you up with someone, you worry about marriageability factor. What if the guy/gals is 3 times married with kids from different fathers?

Two completely different sets of criteria.

by Guest Sat Feb 09, 2013 2:18 pm

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:
Vidya Bagchi wrote:
Rishi wrote:Long ago when I lived in a small town in MN, a white woman whom I considered as my sister tried to hook me up with a white girl. I almost agreed to go out with that girl. Then when I found out that the girl had been married three times and had children through all of her three ex-husbands, I realized that I have been stabbed in the back.

yes rishi. you and i share the same phoren phobia, lol.

Wait.... Why do desis always see everything through the glass of marriage ? When someone tries to hook you up with someone it is just a "hook up." Only when parents hook you up with someone, you worry about marriageability factor. What if the guy/gals is 3 times married with kids from different fathers?

Two completely different sets of criteria.

don't think he was looking from marriage pov. nor am i.

by Kris Sat Feb 09, 2013 3:45 pm

Vidya Bagchi wrote:not the movie stars, but in real life. As in, wanting to date them or have a relationship with them?

Dunno, for me it's always been just Indians so far. No matter how good looking someone (non Indian) is, never felt the attraction. Also, how can you be with someone with whom you can't talk in your language, or go see a Hindi movie with? Or someone who don't understand where you coming from.

>>>> Ok, rules me out I guess. Smile

, but to wax serious for a moment, this whole thing boils down to gut feel, be it a dating relationship or matrimony. It may not be the perfect indicator, but probably the best. Obviously, mileages vary with individual.

by Marathadi-Saamiyaar Sat Feb 09, 2013 4:07 pm

Kris wrote:
Vidya Bagchi wrote:not the movie stars, but in real life. As in, wanting to date them or have a relationship with them?

Dunno, for me it's always been just Indians so far. No matter how good looking someone (non Indian) is, never felt the attraction. Also, how can you be with someone with whom you can't talk in your language, or go see a Hindi movie with? Or someone who don't understand where you coming from.

>>>> Ok, rules me out I guess. , but to wax serious for a moment, this whole thing boils down to gut feel, be it a dating relationship or matrimony. It may not be the perfect indicator, but probably the best. Obviously, mileages vary with individual.

There was some recent study that said decisions made on gut feeling were mostly successful than the ones made after analyzing (which scored less than 30% success). Guess gut feeling is made at lightening speed when the problem and factors involved are fresh and unaffected by "fudging" and bias. This gut decisions cut across different fields.

by Kris Sat Feb 09, 2013 4:19 pm

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:
Kris wrote:
Vidya Bagchi wrote:not the movie stars, but in real life. As in, wanting to date them or have a relationship with them?

Dunno, for me it's always been just Indians so far. No matter how good looking someone (non Indian) is, never felt the attraction. Also, how can you be with someone with whom you can't talk in your language, or go see a Hindi movie with? Or someone who don't understand where you coming from.

>>>> Ok, rules me out I guess. , but to wax serious for a moment, this whole thing boils down to gut feel, be it a dating relationship or matrimony. It may not be the perfect indicator, but probably the best. Obviously, mileages vary with individual.

There was some recent study that said decisions made on gut feeling were mostly successful than the ones made after analyzing (which scored less than 30% success). Guess gut feeling is made at lightening speed when the problem and factors involved are fresh and unaffected by "fudging" and bias. This gut decisions cut across different fields.

>>>> Yep, I believe that. Your subconscious picks up on cues and in the case of human relationships, it has a strong idea as to who you are and quickly does the matchmaking.

by MaxEntropy_Man Sat Feb 09, 2013 4:20 pm

wait aren't you tracey whitney (your earlier handle). i thought you were married. what happened to mr.k? confused.

by Marathadi-Saamiyaar Sat Feb 09, 2013 4:25 pm

MaxEntropy_Man wrote:wait aren't you tracey whitney (your earlier handle). i thought you were married. what happened to mr.k? confused.

O M G ...

Not again....

by MaxEntropy_Man Sat Feb 09, 2013 4:26 pm

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:
MaxEntropy_Man wrote:wait aren't you tracey whitney (your earlier handle). i thought you were married. what happened to mr.k? confused.

O M G ...

Not again....

not again what?

by Hellsangel Sat Feb 09, 2013 5:31 pm

MaxEntropy_Man wrote:
Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:
MaxEntropy_Man wrote:wait aren't you tracey whitney (your earlier handle). i thought you were married. what happened to mr.k? confused.

O M G ...

Not again....

not again what?

are you attracted to non-indians? MV5BMTI1NDExMTA0MF5BMl5BanBnXkFtZTcwODA0NzMyMQ@@._V1_SY317_CR3,0,214,317_

by Guest Sat Feb 09, 2013 7:01 pm

MaxEntropy_Man wrote:wait aren't you tracey whitney (your earlier handle). i thought you were married. what happened to mr.k? confused.

I am (now) divorced.

by Rishi Sat Feb 09, 2013 7:11 pm

VB,

If you ever want a man in your life, please don't date Chinese men.

They have bad breath and shamelessly fart at the work place.

by Guest Sat Feb 09, 2013 7:19 pm

Rishi wrote:VB,

If you ever want a man in your life, please don't date Chinese men.

They have bad breath and shamelessly fart at the work place.

lol sure. any tips on gults?

by MaxEntropy_Man Sat Feb 09, 2013 7:29 pm

Vidya Bagchi wrote:
MaxEntropy_Man wrote:wait aren't you tracey whitney (your earlier handle). i thought you were married. what happened to mr.k? confused.

I am (now) divorced.

oops. sorry totally missed that thread if you mentioned here.

by goodcitizn Sun Feb 10, 2013 1:19 am

Rishi wrote:VB,

If you ever want a man in your life, please don't date Chinese men.

They have bad breath and shamelessly fart at the work place.

Bigotry alert!

by Idéfix Sun Feb 10, 2013 1:38 am

Rishi wrote:VB,

If you ever want a man in your life, please don't date Chinese men.

They have bad breath and shamelessly fart at the work place.

Rishi, this is what I meant in my message to you.

by Idéfix Sun Feb 10, 2013 1:44 am

Attraction is different from compatibility or wanting to spend the rest of your life with someone. Sure, I can find non-Indian women attractive. But I can't contemplate being happy with a non-Indian partner for life, or even as my partner for an extended period of time. The irony is that "Indian" is not the only identity I subscribe to. The same feeling that I have about a "non-Indian partner for life" may be had by others about a "not-from-my-region-and-subcaste partner for life." I have one constraint but not the other, but that's just how I feel.

by Marathadi-Saamiyaar Sun Feb 10, 2013 1:54 am

panini press wrote:
Rishi wrote:VB,

If you ever want a man in your life, please don't date Chinese men.

They have bad breath and shamelessly fart at the work place.
Rishi, this is what I meant in my message to you.

I will come in Rishi's support. we are all molded by our personal experiences to a large extent. Even if one relies on studies, ppl tend to verify them thro personal exp. We all generalize, but prefer to be politically acceptable - right there a bad quality made honorable by society which swears by freedom of "speech"

Rishi's comment on Chinese men is based on his personal Statistical analysis, and he sure will not say this in public (and rather lie). I also have such generalized views and use that as a default and then make exceptions to those rules.

Your own generalization that you can never live with non-Indian partners is indeed bigotry to some. You can say it is a personal choice...and in fact everything is personal choice in some form.

by Guest Sun Feb 10, 2013 2:04 am

Vidya Bagchi wrote:
Rishi wrote:VB,

If you ever want a man in your life, please don't date Chinese men.

They have bad breath and shamelessly fart at the work place.

lol sure. any tips on gults?

why this sudden obsession with gults and reddys? bollywood aunty side me koi lafda chal raha hai kya? Razz

you can tell me over PM -- i am good at keeping secrets.

by Kris Sun Feb 10, 2013 2:06 am

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:
panini press wrote:
Rishi wrote:VB,

If you ever want a man in your life, please don't date Chinese men.

They have bad breath and shamelessly fart at the work place.
Rishi, this is what I meant in my message to you.

I will come in Rishi's support. we are all molded by our personal experiences to a large extent. Even if one relies on studies, ppl tend to verify them thro personal exp. We all generalize, but prefer to be politically acceptable - right there a bad quality made honorable by society which swears by freedom of "speech"

Rishi's comment on Chinese men is based on his personal Statistical analysis, and he sure will not say this in public (and rather lie). I also have such generalized views and use that as a default and then make exceptions to those rules.

Your own generalization that you can never live with non-Indian partners is indeed bigotry to some. You can say it is a personal choice...and in fact everything is personal choice in some form.

>>>>I will have to differ with you. There is a difference. If PP had said all non-Indians are unhygienic/ stupid/ pick any other negative and therefore, he will not date them or marry them, you can equate his perspective to Rishi's. As stated PP's position is simply a personal preference.

by Marathadi-Saamiyaar Sun Feb 10, 2013 2:16 am

Kris wrote:
Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:
panini press wrote:
Rishi wrote:VB,

If you ever want a man in your life, please don't date Chinese men.

They have bad breath and shamelessly fart at the work place.
Rishi, this is what I meant in my message to you.

I will come in Rishi's support. we are all molded by our personal experiences to a large extent. Even if one relies on studies, ppl tend to verify them thro personal exp. We all generalize, but prefer to be politically acceptable - right there a bad quality made honorable by society which swears by freedom of "speech"

Rishi's comment on Chinese men is based on his personal Statistical analysis, and he sure will not say this in public (and rather lie). I also have such generalized views and use that as a default and then make exceptions to those rules.

Your own generalization that you can never live with non-Indian partners is indeed bigotry to some. You can say it is a personal choice...and in fact everything is personal choice in some form.

>>>>I will have to differ with you. There is a difference. If PP had said all non-Indians are unhygienic/ stupid/ pick any other negative and therefore, he will not date them or marry them, you can equate his perspective to Rishi's. As stated PP's position is simply a personal preference.

That is PP's rule which may be different from your rule on some issues. Rishi has his set of rules.

And Rishi's warning about Chinkus farting is related to her conditions for "good husband" which had farting as a no-no. So Per Rishi's experience, he might have seen quite a few Chinkus farting (he may have had roomies). I had a Chinku roomie who ate cockroaches which hardly eaten in any other part of the world. So I will not cook in a vessel used by any chinku. so ????

My rule is people may have prejudices and express even their "negative" views openly. But, when they APPLY these in a way to hurt them in profession or personal safety that is when it crosses the line. If Rish refused to help a chinku with a glass of water or in sickness, or work with him, promote him etc...that is when he is crossing the line into racism.

by Idéfix Sun Feb 10, 2013 2:41 am

Huzefa Kapasi wrote:
Vidya Bagchi wrote:
Rishi wrote:VB,

If you ever want a man in your life, please don't date Chinese men.

They have bad breath and shamelessly fart at the work place.

lol sure. any tips on gults?
why this sudden obsession with gults and reddys? bollywood aunty side me koi lafda chal raha hai kya? you can tell me over PM -- i am good at keeping secrets.

by Marathadi-Saamiyaar Sun Feb 10, 2013 3:25 am

Huzefa Kapasi wrote:
Vidya Bagchi wrote:
Rishi wrote:VB,

If you ever want a man in your life, please don't date Chinese men.

They have bad breath and shamelessly fart at the work place.

lol sure. any tips on gults?
why this sudden obsession with gults and reddys? bollywood aunty side me koi lafda chal raha hai kya? you can tell me over PM -- i am good at keeping secrets.

This claim certainly competes with those often made by Rashmun Sir ji and KV ji.

by Obnoxious Sun Feb 10, 2013 3:27 am

Vidya Bagchi wrote:not the movie stars, but in real life. As in, wanting to date them or have a relationship with them?

Dunno, for me it's always been just Indians so far. No matter how good looking someone (non Indian) is, never felt the attraction. Also, how can you be with someone with whom you can't talk in your language, or go see a Hindi movie with? Or someone who don't understand where you coming from.

I know a few non-indian folks who watch hindi movies. Also a few cross-cultural happy marriages.

by Kris Sun Feb 10, 2013 3:30 am

Silk Smitha wrote:
Vidya Bagchi wrote:not the movie stars, but in real life. As in, wanting to date them or have a relationship with them?

Dunno, for me it's always been just Indians so far. No matter how good looking someone (non Indian) is, never felt the attraction. Also, how can you be with someone with whom you can't talk in your language, or go see a Hindi movie with? Or someone who don't understand where you coming from.

I know a few non-indian folks who watch hindi movies. Also a few cross-cultural happy marriages.

>>> Masochism is a universal phenomenon evidently. Smile

by goodcitizn Sun Feb 10, 2013 3:31 am

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:
Kris wrote:
Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:
panini press wrote:
Rishi wrote:VB,

If you ever want a man in your life, please don't date Chinese men.

They have bad breath and shamelessly fart at the work place.
Rishi, this is what I meant in my message to you.

I will come in Rishi's support. we are all molded by our personal experiences to a large extent. Even if one relies on studies, ppl tend to verify them thro personal exp. We all generalize, but prefer to be politically acceptable - right there a bad quality made honorable by society which swears by freedom of "speech"

Rishi's comment on Chinese men is based on his personal Statistical analysis, and he sure will not say this in public (and rather lie). I also have such generalized views and use that as a default and then make exceptions to those rules.

Your own generalization that you can never live with non-Indian partners is indeed bigotry to some. You can say it is a personal choice...and in fact everything is personal choice in some form.

>>>>I will have to differ with you. There is a difference. If PP had said all non-Indians are unhygienic/ stupid/ pick any other negative and therefore, he will not date them or marry them, you can equate his perspective to Rishi's. As stated PP's position is simply a personal preference.

That is PP's rule which may be different from your rule on some issues. Rishi has his set of rules.

And Rishi's warning about Chinkus farting is related to her conditions for "good husband" which had farting as a no-no. So Per Rishi's experience, he might have seen quite a few Chinkus farting (he may have had roomies). I had a Chinku roomie who ate cockroaches which hardly eaten in any other part of the world. So I will not cook in a vessel used by any chinku. so ????

My rule is people may have prejudices and express even their "negative" views openly. But, when they APPLY these in a way to hurt them in profession or personal safety that is when it crosses the line. If Rish refused to help a chinku with a glass of water or in sickness, or work with him, promote him etc...that is when he is crossing the line into racism.

Kindly publish your book, "Saamiyaar's Guide To Crossing The Line!" so we sishyas could better understand the degrees of allowable bigotry (including when Chinku replaces Chinese). TIA.

by Idéfix Sun Feb 10, 2013 3:32 am

Kris wrote:
Silk Smitha wrote:
Vidya Bagchi wrote:not the movie stars, but in real life. As in, wanting to date them or have a relationship with them?

Dunno, for me it's always been just Indians so far. No matter how good looking someone (non Indian) is, never felt the attraction. Also, how can you be with someone with whom you can't talk in your language, or go see a Hindi movie with? Or someone who don't understand where you coming from.

I know a few non-indian folks who watch hindi movies. Also a few cross-cultural happy marriages.

>>> Masochism is a universal phenomenon evidently.

One of the multiplexes in Emeryville started showing desi movies lately. I always see a few non-desi drifters who make their way in to these movies. I don't know if they really get much out of them. One of these days I am going to interview some of them on their way out.

by Idéfix Sun Feb 10, 2013 3:39 am

goodcitizn wrote:
Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:
Kris wrote:
Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:
panini press wrote:Rishi, this is what I meant in my message to you.

I will come in Rishi's support. we are all molded by our personal experiences to a large extent. Even if one relies on studies, ppl tend to verify them thro personal exp. We all generalize, but prefer to be politically acceptable - right there a bad quality made honorable by society which swears by freedom of "speech"

Rishi's comment on Chinese men is based on his personal Statistical analysis, and he sure will not say this in public (and rather lie). I also have such generalized views and use that as a default and then make exceptions to those rules.

Your own generalization that you can never live with non-Indian partners is indeed bigotry to some. You can say it is a personal choice...and in fact everything is personal choice in some form.

>>>>I will have to differ with you. There is a difference. If PP had said all non-Indians are unhygienic/ stupid/ pick any other negative and therefore, he will not date them or marry them, you can equate his perspective to Rishi's. As stated PP's position is simply a personal preference.

That is PP's rule which may be different from your rule on some issues. Rishi has his set of rules.

And Rishi's warning about Chinkus farting is related to her conditions for "good husband" which had farting as a no-no. So Per Rishi's experience, he might have seen quite a few Chinkus farting (he may have had roomies). I had a Chinku roomie who ate cockroaches which hardly eaten in any other part of the world. So I will not cook in a vessel used by any chinku. so ????

My rule is people may have prejudices and express even their "negative" views openly. But, when they APPLY these in a way to hurt them in profession or personal safety that is when it crosses the line. If Rish refused to help a chinku with a glass of water or in sickness, or work with him, promote him etc...that is when he is crossing the line into racism.

Kindly publish your book, "Saamiyaar's Guide To Crossing The Line!" so we sishyas could better understand the degrees of allowable bigotry (including when Chinku replaces Chinese). TIA.

LOL. Saamiyaar and Rishi are from a different generation, perhaps not chronologically, but certainly in terms of thought processes.

by Kris Sun Feb 10, 2013 3:43 am

panini press wrote:
Kris wrote:
Silk Smitha wrote:
Vidya Bagchi wrote:not the movie stars, but in real life. As in, wanting to date them or have a relationship with them?

Dunno, for me it's always been just Indians so far. No matter how good looking someone (non Indian) is, never felt the attraction. Also, how can you be with someone with whom you can't talk in your language, or go see a Hindi movie with? Or someone who don't understand where you coming from.

I know a few non-indian folks who watch hindi movies. Also a few cross-cultural happy marriages.

>>> Masochism is a universal phenomenon evidently.

One of the multiplexes in Emeryville started showing desi movies lately. I always see a few non-desi drifters who make their way in to these movies. I don't know if they really get much out of them. One of these days I am going to interview some of them on their way out.

>>>>I think this is happening around the Bay area in other theaters as well. Guess they want to capitalize on the demographics. I can see if you are a student of cinema and going to check out this particular genre, but otherwise I am not sure what the attraction would be.

by Merlot Daruwala Sun Feb 10, 2013 8:42 am

Vidya Bagchi wrote:not the movie stars, but in real life. As in, wanting to date them or have a relationship with them?

Dunno, for me it's always been just Indians so far. No matter how good looking someone (non Indian) is, never felt the attraction. Also, how can you be with someone with whom you can't talk in your language, or go see a Hindi movie with? Or someone who don't understand where you coming from.

Nope. Atleast not Caucasians or Blacks. Forget about compatibility and deeper stuff which comes later on, I just don't feel those stirrings of physical attraction. Latinas and Chinese - maybe, but never tried.

by Propagandhi711 Sun Feb 10, 2013 9:45 am

Vidya Bagchi wrote:not the movie stars, but in real life. As in, wanting to date them or have a relationship with them?

Dunno, for me it's always been just Indians so far. No matter how good looking someone (non Indian) is, never felt the attraction. Also, how can you be with someone with whom you can't talk in your language, or go see a Hindi movie with? Or someone who don't understand where you coming from.

I can't understand lot of desi women I know either. given a choice, I would like to stay single...or at least like not cohabit. Ppl in general and women in particular can be tiresome to have around all the time with their silly tastes and mood swings among other things...i dont see why anyone would want them around if not for the Thing but this is the great cruelty of nature..man gives up so much for few mins of pleasure and rest of the time hes doing shit for her while wondering why he's doing all that. Regarding attraction, slants and slopes take the cake for me. Recently there is this Colombian mamacita and I can't help getting woody in her presence the whole time..Latin bitches just ooze sex but can be demanding. Conclusion: all women are expensive, slants good coz they have fine skin, tight clams, take good care of you and don't eat much. Cohabitation is painful and should be limited to the time a women is looking good or cooking.

by Guest Sun Feb 10, 2013 10:04 am

yeah nothing like meeting someone while living single. slopes = japs?

md and pp collectively described my own constraints. Let's see if I could change them.

by Propagandhi711 Sun Feb 10, 2013 10:22 am

Vidya Bagchi wrote:yeah nothing like meeting someone while living single. slopes = japs?

md and pp collectively described my own constraints. Let's see if I could change them.

What is meeting someone..god women and their media driven cliches slay me on early Sunday mornings

by Guest Sun Feb 10, 2013 10:36 am

Propagandhi711 wrote:
Vidya Bagchi wrote:yeah nothing like meeting someone while living single. slopes = japs?

md and pp collectively described my own constraints. Let's see if I could change them.

What is meeting someone..god women and their media driven cliches slay me on early Sunday mornings

lol. meant fooling around and then living alone in your own house.

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