A new low was reached today

Yep. Massaged XH's feet and legs while watching tv.

Beatrix Kiddo wrote:Yep. Massaged XH's feet and legs while watching tv.

         

Does your XH conduct on-line workshop on how to be a successful husband? I will be interested.

Beatrix Kiddo wrote:Yep. Massaged XH's feet and legs while watching tv.

         

>>>You need to let go of this multitasking obsession. Why can't you just watch TV? What is the need to massage someone's feet simultaneously?

Kris wrote:

Beatrix Kiddo wrote:Yep. Massaged XH's feet and legs while watching tv.

         

>>>You need to let go of this multitasking obsession. Why can't you just watch TV? What is the need to massage someone's feet simultaneously?

Or just focus on massaging the feet and not watch tv?

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

Beatrix Kiddo wrote:Yep. Massaged XH's feet and legs while watching tv.

         

Does your XH conduct on-line workshop on how to be a successful husband? I will be interested.

Aww..sweet..can always go higher:)


All I can say is a man who has been massaged is very vulnerable. 


Got to agree with the Saami, he is doing something right!

Beatrix Kiddo wrote:Yep. Massaged XH's feet and legs while watching tv.

         

"A new low" is only a step towards "a new high." 

Beatrix Kiddo wrote:Yep. Massaged XH's feet and legs while watching tv.

         

Stop calling him XH now... which he's not.

southindian wrote:

Beatrix Kiddo wrote:Yep. Massaged XH's feet and legs while watching tv.

         

Stop calling him XH now... which he's not.

I am testing my new hypothesis here....these days....

BK "divorced" her husband and they are both living happily... Modi ji left his wife and both living happily. So...

I think once divorced, the old pre-marriage love takes over. The key is to "divorce but not divorce"

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

southindian wrote:

Beatrix Kiddo wrote:Yep. Massaged XH's feet and legs while watching tv.

         

Stop calling him XH now... which he's not.

I am testing my new hypothesis here....these days....

BK "divorced" her husband and they are both living happily... Modi ji left his wife and both living happily. So...

I think once divorced, the old pre-marriage love takes over.  The key is to "divorce but not divorce"

I think "X" in XH is made up. That's all.

BK has created a fictional character called "XH".

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

southindian wrote:

Beatrix Kiddo wrote:Yep. Massaged XH's feet and legs while watching tv.

         

Stop calling him XH now... which he's not.

I am testing my new hypothesis here....these days....

BK "divorced" her husband and they are both living happily... Modi ji left his wife and both living happily. So...

I think once divorced, the old pre-marriage love takes over.  The key is to "divorce but not divorce"

It's called "vipralamba shringara" in sanskrit (love in separation). They say that there are 8 types of naayikas, and vipralamba is one of them. I don't remember all the others, but they go like abhisaarika, vaasavasajjika, etc.

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

southindian wrote:

Beatrix Kiddo wrote:Yep. Massaged XH's feet and legs while watching tv.

         

Stop calling him XH now... which he's not.

I am testing my new hypothesis here....these days....

BK "divorced" her husband and they are both living happily... Modi ji left his wife and both living happily. So...

I think once divorced, the old pre-marriage love takes over.  The key is to "divorce but not divorce"

Buddha's wife was named Yashodara. Mahavir's wife was named Yashoda Devi. Modi's wife is named Yashodaben. They al left their wives and became great. Does your wife's name happen to be Yashodavalli or something like that? if so, you know what to do.

Kinnera wrote:

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

southindian wrote:

Beatrix Kiddo wrote:Yep. Massaged XH's feet and legs while watching tv.

         

Stop calling him XH now... which he's not.

I am testing my new hypothesis here....these days....

BK "divorced" her husband and they are both living happily... Modi ji left his wife and both living happily. So...

I think once divorced, the old pre-marriage love takes over.  The key is to "divorce but not divorce"

Buddha's wife was named Yashodara. Mahavir's wife was named Yashoda Devi. Modi's wife is named Yashodaben. They al left their wives and became great. Does your wife's name happen to be Yashodavalli or something like that? if so, you know what to do.

Excellent suggestion... that needs a title, "Path to greatness"

Note to self:- Need to change wife's name this week... something that has "Yashoda" in the name.

Aren't there legal issues in living together after divorce?
yearly tax returns, sharing of living expenses, children's expenses, medical, auto, and home insurance etc. Then there is the question of daily chores.
if two people can amicably resolve these issues, why do they need a divorce?
there are lot of unanswered questions. Bk is outspoken on many issues. but never mentioned about any of the above topics.
not passing judgements but there are gaps in the story.

truthbetold wrote:Aren't there legal issues in living together after divorce?
yearly tax returns, sharing of living expenses, children's expenses, medical, auto, and home insurance etc. Then there is the question of daily chores.
if two people can amicably resolve these issues, why do they need a divorce?
there are lot of unanswered questions. Bk is outspoken on many issues. but never mentioned about any of the above topics.
not passing judgements but there are gaps in the story.

In one of the episodes of BBC's Sherlock Holmes, Holmes and Watson stumble upon a clue on the usage of ex. They deduct that there exists a current to justify the use of ex.
All these ex-this, ex-that is boring. Time to hear about CB and CH.

b_A wrote:

truthbetold wrote:Aren't there legal issues in living together after divorce?
yearly tax returns, sharing of living expenses, children's expenses, medical, auto, and home insurance etc. Then there is the question of daily chores.
if two people can amicably resolve these issues, why do they need a divorce?
there are lot of unanswered questions. Bk is outspoken on many issues. but never mentioned about any of the above topics.
not passing judgements but there are gaps in the story.

In one of the episodes of BBC's Sherlock Holmes, Holmes and Watson stumble upon a clue on the usage of ex. They deduct that there exists a current to justify the use of ex.
All these ex-this, ex-that is boring. Time to hear about CB and CH.

http://www.thehindu.com/thehindu/edu/2003/04/22/stories/2003042200100203.htm

b_A wrote:

b_A wrote:

truthbetold wrote:Aren't there legal issues in living together after divorce?
yearly tax returns, sharing of living expenses, children's expenses, medical, auto, and home insurance etc. Then there is the question of daily chores.
if two people can amicably resolve these issues, why do they need a divorce?
there are lot of unanswered questions. Bk is outspoken  on many issues. but never mentioned about any of the above topics.
not passing judgements but there are gaps in the story.

In one of the episodes of BBC's Sherlock Holmes, Holmes and Watson stumble upon a clue on the usage of ex. They deduct that there exists a current to justify the use of ex.
All these ex-this, ex-that is boring. Time to hear about CB and CH.

http://www.thehindu.com/thehindu/edu/2003/04/22/stories/2003042200100203.htm

Typical BS from the city famous for it - from Sadhguru and Sadhaguru...

Nah we are not husband and wife. We did flirt with the idea of becoming a couple again late last year into middle this year - w/o kids knowing of course - but I realized timely enough that it'd be a huge mistake and cut it off. He sulked for days but is all settled now. To be honest seks doesn't factor in my life anymore, at all. It's funny what a 180 degree it has been for me. It has always complicated things for me, and so far whenever I have gone seeking it, it's always led to newer problems.

Last night I had closed and put away the laptop to go upstairs to sleep. Then I thought of staying back for the Seinfeld episode to finish. Soon enough he stretched a leg on my lap and was like please please please. Like a good person that I try to be sometimes, I did it. Thassall. Do it to kids. Would do it to any good friend. But anyway, while I was massaging his feet/lower legs, and watching tv, and generally looking across the partially dark house, the oddity of the whole situation struck me again, like it always does.

tbt, when we had separated 5 years ago, we had chalked out all financial stuff with a mediation lawyer. Then when we finalized the divorce 2 years ago, we used the same document, with additional changes. We are following it. Of course there are some blurring lines here and there on how we manage daily expenses, but it has not caused any major fight so far.

Why can't we be called husband and wife? Coz the word marriage signifies certain things, and people's behaviour changes based on that. I am not very receptive of that notion and of the expectations that come along with it. More importantly, life to me is all about the kids, and XH has a part to play in fulfilling that. My own wishes for myself are a very small percentage of my short and long term plans, and I fulfill them if they don't hinder with overall dream of my life. I care about XH's wishes like a good friend would, but it's not of prime importance to me any more. Things are good as long as they are good, and I am willing to compromise in the name of peace, but I can no longer be tied to an institution for the sake of it. It has hurt me a lot, and I have moved on.

Bk
considering the information you gave us, your current arrangement is an exceptionally rare one. in my opinion a good one for children. hopefully you can keep it working long enough for children to stand on their own.
Did not mean to probe into your affairs but this is an unusual situation. Good luck.