Nila wrote:Last week the H wasn’t well with sore throat and was acting like a 2 year old; took 2 days off and was sleeping with heavy blanket and I didn’t see any improvements …over the weekend I got tired of his drama and was taking care of it with soups, ginger+honey+pepper teas and making him gargle with warm salt water every hour. He was able to speak clearly on Monday and thanked me by saying…”Thank you for taking care of your husband”

P.S: I was thinking…yeah! About that, I had to convince my conscience that - would you do the same if he weren’t your husband? Would you really have to go out? Would you really do this for your kids?

Anyways, I told him…”Please treat me like your friend next time when I am sick….please don’t treat me like your wife”

Anyways,…just sharing my wisdom.

Vidya Bagchi wrote:

Nila wrote:Last week the H wasn’t well with sore throat and was acting like a 2 year old; took 2 days off and was sleeping with heavy blanket and I didn’t see any improvements …over the weekend I got tired of his drama and was taking care of it with soups, ginger+honey+pepper teas and making him gargle with warm salt water every hour. He was able to speak clearly on Monday and thanked me by saying…”Thank you for taking care of your husband”

P.S: I was thinking…yeah! About that, I had to convince my conscience that - would you do the same if he weren’t your husband? Would you really have to go out? Would you really do this for your kids?

Anyways, I told him…”Please treat me like your friend next time when I am sick….please don’t treat me like your wife”

Anyways,…just sharing my wisdom.

"Thank you for taking care of your husband", funny kinda statement, but I guess cute too. men are such babies.

Nila wrote:Last week the H wasn’t well with sore throat and was acting like a 2 year old; took 2 days off and was sleeping with heavy blanket and I didn’t see any improvements …over the weekend I got tired of his drama and was taking care of it with soups, ginger+honey+pepper teas and making him gargle with warm salt water every hour. He was able to speak clearly on Monday and thanked me by saying…”Thank you for taking care of your husband”

P.S: I was thinking…yeah! About that, I had to convince my conscience that - would you do the same if he weren’t your husband? Would you really have to go out? Would you really do this for your kids?

Anyways, I told him…”Please treat me like your friend next time when I am sick….please don’t treat me like your wife”

Anyways,…just sharing my wisdom.

Vidya Bagchi wrote:

Nila wrote:Last week the H wasn’t well with sore throat and was acting like a 2 year old; took 2 days off and was sleeping with heavy blanket and I didn’t see any improvements …over the weekend I got tired of his drama and was taking care of it with soups, ginger+honey+pepper teas and making him gargle with warm salt water every hour. He was able to speak clearly on Monday and thanked me by saying…”Thank you for taking care of your husband”

P.S: I was thinking…yeah! About that, I had to convince my conscience that - would you do the same if he weren’t your husband? Would you really have to go out? Would you really do this for your kids?

Anyways, I told him…”Please treat me like your friend next time when I am sick….please don’t treat me like your wife”

Anyways,…just sharing my wisdom.

"Thank you for taking care of your husband", funny kinda statement, but I guess cute too. men are such babies.

Nila wrote:Last week the H wasn’t well with sore throat and was acting like a 2 year old; took 2 days off and was sleeping with heavy blanket and I didn’t see any improvements …over the weekend I got tired of his drama and was taking care of it with soups, ginger+honey+pepper teas and making him gargle with warm salt water every hour. He was able to speak clearly on Monday and thanked me by saying…”Thank you for taking care of your husband”

P.S: I was thinking…yeah! About that, I had to convince my conscience that - would you do the same if he weren’t your husband? Would you really have to go out? Would you really do this for your kids?

Anyways, I told him…”Please treat me like your friend next time when I am sick….please don’t treat me like your wife”

Anyways,…just sharing my wisdom.

Maria S wrote:"YOUR" can be interpreted as "I am YOURS" - as we say in tamil giving that "urimai" and offering ownership..

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

Nila wrote:Last week the H wasn’t well with sore throat and was acting like a 2 year old; took 2 days off and was sleeping with heavy blanket and I didn’t see any improvements …over the weekend I got tired of his drama and was taking care of it with soups, ginger+honey+pepper teas and making him gargle with warm salt water every hour. He was able to speak clearly on Monday and thanked me by saying…”Thank you for taking care of your husband”

P.S: I was thinking…yeah! About that, I had to convince my conscience that - would you do the same if he weren’t your husband? Would you really have to go out? Would you really do this for your kids?

Anyways, I told him…”Please treat me like your friend next time when I am sick….please don’t treat me like your wife”

Anyways,…just sharing my wisdom.

Niliamma - stop whining.

We put up with you Eeewwwwery month for 1 week...Nothing can be worse than that....you have to be a man to understand your torture.....

Maria S wrote:

Nila wrote:Last week the H wasn’t well with sore throat and was acting like a 2 year old; took 2 days off and was sleeping with heavy blanket and I didn’t see any improvements …over the weekend I got tired of his drama and was taking care of it with soups, ginger+honey+pepper teas and making him gargle with warm salt water every hour. He was able to speak clearly on Monday and thanked me by saying…”Thank you for taking care of your husband”

P.S: I was thinking…yeah! About that, I had to convince my conscience that - would you do the same if he weren’t your husband? Would you really have to go out? Would you really do this for your kids?

Anyways, I told him…”Please treat me like your friend next time when I am sick….please don’t treat me like your wife”

Anyways,…just sharing my wisdom.

Oh.. "the" wise Sasthi-Nila!

It's all about the person and context:) Why just a "friend?" Why not something which aims much higher.."Don't treat me like your wife, treat me like a lover, a boss, like your queen, first lady..or if the husband is an ADMK party member.."treat me like your Amma"..or a member of the Cong party.."treat me like Mother Sonia"..etc.

Seriously, find it quite real and endearing..it's all interpretation.. "YOUR" can be interpreted as "I am YOURS" - as we say in tamil giving that "urimai" and offering ownership..wonder why being polite and thankful is seen as calculating and artificial. And never understood why good manners and simple gratitude is seen as fake and silly, while rough and rude is seen as 'real' in this place..that is odd, imo. While you know "your" husband and interpret it, better than anyone can, I know all "the husbands" are big kids..when they are sick are kind of vulnerable and say more..want the wives to be like "their" Moms when it comes to care giving and you certainly seem to have taken excellent care..which has to be exhausting.

In India, caregiving is much easier when someone is sick in the family..there is plenty of support/help..here we (wife, mom) have do it all by ourselves, which is not easy..can expect only a few friends to offer even limited help..everyone is "busy", and rare are friends who say "take the urimai"..call me anytime and they really do help.
Hope you are doing well. Nice to see you!