mainstreet wrote:I finally have two job interviews this month after almost a month of applying. I'm so, so relieved. I want to return to my normal work life in a large city + socializing with a diverse group of urban and worldly people instead of living in a sprawling house all alone (with our digs) in the middle of nowhere while DH is working all day.

The only two glitches:

1. Mom. She won't stop nagging me and giving me unsolicited advice like: you can't leave your husband for "silly" reasons, living in a small town isn't the worst thing in the world, you need to take your seven feras and wedding vows seriously, DH has never treated you badly or said an unkind word to you, it will be very difficult to find another man as nice as he is, all he is doing is trying to provide for you and his future family in a small town, why do you need a career for yourself? (Never mind that my dear dad spent around $150K on my six years of college+grad school tuition).

2. Posts on this forum by Tracy and Maria on how difficult it is to find a good man later in life. This terrifies me. Having to weed through older divorced men and all their baggage (ex-wives, kids, bitterness). My husband is fundamentally a good guy, had only one ex-girlfriend when I met him, is completely devoted to me, and we would both be lost without each other. I'm seriously hoping he decides to follow me to the big city.

Thanks, mom, for being so negative.

Vidya Bagchi wrote:

mainstreet wrote:I finally have two job interviews this month after almost a month of applying. I'm so, so relieved. I want to return to my normal work life in a large city + socializing with a diverse group of urban and worldly people instead of living in a sprawling house all alone (with our digs) in the middle of nowhere while DH is working all day.

The only two glitches:

2. Posts on this forum by Tracy and Maria on how difficult it is to find a good man later in life. This terrifies me. Having to weed through older divorced men and all their baggage (ex-wives, kids, bitterness). My husband is fundamentally a good guy, had only one ex-girlfriend when I met him, is completely devoted to me, and we would both be lost without each other. I'm seriously hoping he decides to follow me to the big city.

Thanks, mom, for being so negative.

Ya, you got a good guy. What's a town for him? I would have lived with him happily. But then, I am an expert at getting bored. Mastered that art years ago. I can literally pass months doing absolutely nothing, and still be totally content with life.

Regarding my finding another man... will report in July. once, and voila, he happened. This time will be even different, coz I will post on bharatmatrimony.com, and I will chase profiles. Sounds daunting, but *I* *YAM* *REDDY* for it.

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

Vidya Bagchi wrote:

mainstreet wrote:I finally have two job interviews this month after almost a month of applying. I'm so, so relieved. I want to return to my normal work life in a large city + socializing with a diverse group of urban and worldly people instead of living in a sprawling house all alone (with our digs) in the middle of nowhere while DH is working all day.

The only two glitches:

2. Posts on this forum by Tracy and Maria on how difficult it is to find a good man later in life. This terrifies me. Having to weed through older divorced men and all their baggage (ex-wives, kids, bitterness). My husband is fundamentally a good guy, had only one ex-girlfriend when I met him, is completely devoted to me, and we would both be lost without each other. I'm seriously hoping he decides to follow me to the big city.

Thanks, mom, for being so negative.

Ya, you got a good guy. What's a town for him? I would have lived with him happily. But then, I am an expert at getting bored. Mastered that art years ago. I can literally pass months doing absolutely nothing, and still be totally content with life.

Regarding my finding another man... will report in July. once, and voila, he happened. This time will be even different, coz I will post on bharatmatrimony.com, and I will chase profiles. Sounds daunting, but *I* *YAM* *REDDY* for it.

Perhaps, you can move to the mainstreet - Heard one Doc will soon become available.

mainstreet wrote:My husband wouldn't date or marry a physician. His ex-girlfriend was one. He jokes with their mutual friends that he's "allergic to a female docs."

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

Vidya Bagchi wrote:

mainstreet wrote:I finally have two job interviews this month after almost a month of applying. I'm so, so relieved. I want to return to my normal work life in a large city + socializing with a diverse group of urban and worldly people instead of living in a sprawling house all alone (with our digs) in the middle of nowhere while DH is working all day.

The only two glitches:

2. Posts on this forum by Tracy and Maria on how difficult it is to find a good man later in life. This terrifies me. Having to weed through older divorced men and all their baggage (ex-wives, kids, bitterness). My husband is fundamentally a good guy, had only one ex-girlfriend when I met him, is completely devoted to me, and we would both be lost without each other. I'm seriously hoping he decides to follow me to the big city.

Thanks, mom, for being so negative.

Ya, you got a good guy. What's a town for him? I would have lived with him happily. But then, I am an expert at getting bored. Mastered that art years ago. I can literally pass months doing absolutely nothing, and still be totally content with life.

Regarding my finding another man... will report in July. once, and voila, he happened. This time will be even different, coz I will post on bharatmatrimony.com, and I will chase profiles. Sounds daunting, but *I* *YAM* *REDDY* for it.

Perhaps, you can move to the mainstreet - Heard one Doc will soon become available.

mainstreet wrote:My husband wouldn't date or marry a physician. His ex-girlfriend was one. He jokes with their mutual friends that he's "allergic to a female docs."

mainstreet wrote:All female docs.

southindian wrote:

mainstreet wrote:My husband wouldn't date or marry a physician. His ex-girlfriend was one. He jokes with their mutual friends that he's "allergic to a female docs."

VB is not a medico. Can you please introduce your to-be-ex to her when you move out. Thanks

mainstreet wrote:It's complicated. On one hand, leaving him and the dogs is very stressful for me. On the other hand, the thought of continuing to spend the rest of my life with nothing to do in this backward place with no Whole Foods, urban amenities, or similar like-minded people (black/white, uneducated, conservative, Bible-thumping hicks) is horrifying. I can't even think of raising kids in this place. They would be living in some 1950s-era time warp.

Nila wrote:Oh you must find someone who like to begg and kiss a$$...gotcha.

mainstreet wrote:I finally have two job interviews this month after almost a month of applying. I'm so, so relieved. I want to return to my normal work life in a large city + socializing with a diverse group of urban and worldly people instead of living in a sprawling house all alone (with our digs) in the middle of nowhere while DH is working all day.

The only two glitches:

1. Mom. She won't stop nagging me and giving me unsolicited advice like: you can't leave your husband for "silly" reasons, living in a small town isn't the worst thing in the world, you need to take your seven feras and wedding vows seriously, DH has never treated you badly or said an unkind word to you, it will be very difficult to find another man as nice as he is, all he is doing is trying to provide for you and his future family in a small town, why do you need a career for yourself? (Never mind that my dear dad spent around $150K on my six years of college+grad school tuition).

2. Posts on this forum by Tracy and Maria on how difficult it is to find a good man later in life. This terrifies me. Having to weed through older divorced men and all their baggage (ex-wives, kids, bitterness). My husband is fundamentally a good guy, had only one ex-girlfriend when I met him, is completely devoted to me, and we would both be lost without each other. I'm seriously hoping he decides to follow me to the big city.

Thanks, mom, for being so negative.

nenu wrote:Previously, I urged you to get out of that place. I meant that as a couple. If it comes to you divorcing him in order to move to a big city, forget it! Listen to your mom. She is right. Don't leave the good man.
Things may change eventually and he may be willing to move out. who knows! you guys may not be living in that place forever.