Beatrix Kiddo wrote:Controlling people scout for nice and polite people who seem agreeable. Once they find such a person they begin trying to influence their thoughts and actions, like how to behave with others, who to talk to, etc... maybe they get a little success initially. But if this nice person was just being a positive and polite person so far, and won't dance to every tune of this controlling person, that's when trouble begins. Either the association goes sour, or the controlling person can become abusive. Abusive doesn't ofcourse mean cursing or beating up. It can be done in many other ways, like constant taunts and putdowns, unfortunately for the same characteristics that earlier attracted this bully to this victim. Maybe the goal is to still control the person's feelings? Or maybe the goal is to simply torment as they treat this as a failure?

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

Beatrix Kiddo wrote:Controlling people scout for nice and polite people who seem agreeable. Once they find such a person they begin trying to influence their thoughts and actions, like how to behave with others, who to talk to, etc... maybe they get a little success initially. But if this nice person was just being a positive and polite person so far, and won't dance to every tune of this controlling person, that's when trouble begins. Either the association goes sour, or the controlling person can become abusive. Abusive doesn't ofcourse mean cursing or beating up. It can be done in many other ways, like constant taunts and putdowns, unfortunately for the same characteristics that earlier attracted this bully to this victim. Maybe the goal is to still control the person's feelings? Or maybe the goal is to simply torment as they treat this as a failure?

To better understand take SuCH fas an example, and fit in names that fit your theory.

Beatrix Kiddo wrote:

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

Beatrix Kiddo wrote:Controlling people scout for nice and polite people who seem agreeable. Once they find such a person they begin trying to influence their thoughts and actions, like how to behave with others, who to talk to, etc... maybe they get a little success initially. But if this nice person was just being a positive and polite person so far, and won't dance to every tune of this controlling person, that's when trouble begins. Either the association goes sour, or the controlling person can become abusive. Abusive doesn't ofcourse mean cursing or beating up. It can be done in many other ways, like constant taunts and putdowns, unfortunately for the same characteristics that earlier attracted this bully to this victim. Maybe the goal is to still control the person's feelings? Or maybe the goal is to simply torment as they treat this as a failure?

To better understand take SuCH fas an example, and fit in names that fit your theory.

no names. just theories.

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

Beatrix Kiddo wrote:

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

Beatrix Kiddo wrote:Controlling people scout for nice and polite people who seem agreeable. Once they find such a person they begin trying to influence their thoughts and actions, like how to behave with others, who to talk to, etc... maybe they get a little success initially. But if this nice person was just being a positive and polite person so far, and won't dance to every tune of this controlling person, that's when trouble begins. Either the association goes sour, or the controlling person can become abusive. Abusive doesn't ofcourse mean cursing or beating up. It can be done in many other ways, like constant taunts and putdowns, unfortunately for the same characteristics that earlier attracted this bully to this victim. Maybe the goal is to still control the person's feelings? Or maybe the goal is to simply torment as they treat this as a failure?

To better understand take SuCH fas an example, and fit in names that fit your theory.

no names. just theories.

If only you could understand my signature, you would sympathize with me for not understanding your theory clearly.

Beatrix Kiddo wrote:Controlling people scout for nice and polite people who seem agreeable. Once they find such a person they begin trying to influence their thoughts and actions, like how to behave with others, who to talk to, etc... maybe they get a little success initially. But if this nice person was just being a positive and polite person so far, and won't dance to every tune of this controlling person, that's when trouble begins. Either the association goes sour, or the controlling person can become abusive. Abusive doesn't ofcourse mean cursing or beating up. It can be done in many other ways, like constant taunts and putdowns, unfortunately for the same characteristics that earlier attracted this bully to this victim. Maybe the goal is to still control the person's feelings? Or maybe the goal is to simply torment as they treat this as a failure?

b_A wrote:My idle musings:
Should mauni re-read the first post and see if it is applicable to the Sherni and herself ?

Mauni wrote:

b_A wrote:My idle musings:
Should mauni re-read the first post and see if it is applicable to the Sherni and herself ?

ya, should I?

b_A wrote:

Mauni wrote:

b_A wrote:My idle musings:
Should mauni re-read the first post and see if it is applicable to the Sherni and herself ?

ya, should I?

A prudent person would. And think, if sharing personal info with someone who wouldn't think twice about revealing it after a couple of drinks, is worth it.

Kinnera wrote:Oh please! give this 'vids shared kinn's pic' thing a rest. Enough is enough! It's no big deal. Srsly! Yeah, vids has a weakness to keep secrets or personal info. We know that. she's working on it, i'm sure .  Don't we have our own weaknesses? Who's perfect? The thing is, she's not vicious. If she were, i wouldn't have been her friend. She's very plain-hearted and i like that about her.

Kinnera wrote:Oh please! give this 'vids shared kinn's pic' thing a rest. Enough is enough! It's no big deal. Srsly! Yeah, vids has a weakness to keep secrets or personal info. We know that. she's working on it, i'm sure .  Don't we have our own weaknesses? Who's perfect? The thing is, she's not vicious. If she were, i wouldn't have been her friend. She's very plain-hearted and i like that about her.

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

Kinnera wrote:Oh please! give this 'vids shared kinn's pic' thing a rest. Enough is enough! It's no big deal. Srsly! Yeah, vids has a weakness to keep secrets or personal info. We know that. she's working on it, i'm sure .  Don't we have our own weaknesses? Who's perfect? The thing is, she's not vicious. If she were, i wouldn't have been her friend. She's very plain-hearted and i like that about her.

I am very good in keeping secrets...

Send me your latest pics...

Beatrix Kiddo wrote:

Kinnera wrote:Oh please! give this 'vids shared kinn's pic' thing a rest. Enough is enough! It's no big deal. Srsly! Yeah, vids has a weakness to keep secrets or personal info. We know that. she's working on it, i'm sure .  Don't we have our own weaknesses? Who's perfect? The thing is, she's not vicious. If she were, i wouldn't have been her friend. She's very plain-hearted and i like that about her.

 
Yep working. I simply don't talk to anyone and no one talks to me. So that helps  Infact now I am scared to talk to people offline. I get only disturbing news. 

The disadvantage of earning a reputation like this, other than the obvious ones are:

1) get blamed for any kind of info sharing going around. Any other pic? Tracy shared it. Facebook page? Yep tracy shared it. It doesn't matter who really shared what. Just slap it on tracy and make it believable. No am not making this up. Hard to go and defend everything to everyone. Coz then it's easy to counter that with, 'Tracy is lying'. Just sit back and let the drama play.

2) if you seriously don't tell something private to someone and they know you know it, they take it too personally. Yep this has happened too. Gone through all sorts of emotional appeals and blackmails on this one. 

But there can be advantages too. I can easily lie about not knowing something and they will believe me. Coz if I knew it I would easily tell, ya?

Anyway hopefully this is the last I let a troll make me write this much.

b_A wrote:

Beatrix Kiddo wrote:

Kinnera wrote:Oh please! give this 'vids shared kinn's pic' thing a rest. Enough is enough! It's no big deal. Srsly! Yeah, vids has a weakness to keep secrets or personal info. We know that. she's working on it, i'm sure .  Don't we have our own weaknesses? Who's perfect? The thing is, she's not vicious. If she were, i wouldn't have been her friend. She's very plain-hearted and i like that about her.

 
Yep working. I simply don't talk to anyone and no one talks to me. So that helps  Infact now I am scared to talk to people offline. I get only disturbing news. 

The disadvantage of earning a reputation like this, other than the obvious ones are:

1) get blamed for any kind of info sharing going around. Any other pic? Tracy shared it. Facebook page? Yep tracy shared it. It doesn't matter who really shared what. Just slap it on tracy and make it believable. No am not making this up. Hard to go and defend everything to everyone. Coz then it's easy to counter that with, 'Tracy is lying'. Just sit back and let the drama play.

2) if you seriously don't tell something private to someone and they know you know it, they take it too personally. Yep this has happened too. Gone through all sorts of emotional appeals and blackmails on this one. 

But there can be advantages too. I can easily lie about not knowing something and they will believe me. Coz if I knew it I would easily tell, ya?

Anyway hopefully this is the last I let a troll make me write this much.

Didn't you expose a veteran who has built up a facade painstakingly for over a decade? And you made it crumble just like that. The funny thing is that the said veteran seems oblivious to the fact that his facade has crumbled and your role in it.

Beatrix Kiddo wrote:

b_A wrote:

Beatrix Kiddo wrote:

Kinnera wrote:Oh please! give this 'vids shared kinn's pic' thing a rest. Enough is enough! It's no big deal. Srsly! Yeah, vids has a weakness to keep secrets or personal info. We know that. she's working on it, i'm sure .  Don't we have our own weaknesses? Who's perfect? The thing is, she's not vicious. If she were, i wouldn't have been her friend. She's very plain-hearted and i like that about her.

 
Yep working. I simply don't talk to anyone and no one talks to me. So that helps  Infact now I am scared to talk to people offline. I get only disturbing news. 

The disadvantage of earning a reputation like this, other than the obvious ones are:

1) get blamed for any kind of info sharing going around. Any other pic? Tracy shared it. Facebook page? Yep tracy shared it. It doesn't matter who really shared what. Just slap it on tracy and make it believable. No am not making this up. Hard to go and defend everything to everyone. Coz then it's easy to counter that with, 'Tracy is lying'. Just sit back and let the drama play.

2) if you seriously don't tell something private to someone and they know you know it, they take it too personally. Yep this has happened too. Gone through all sorts of emotional appeals and blackmails on this one. 

But there can be advantages too. I can easily lie about not knowing something and they will believe me. Coz if I knew it I would easily tell, ya?

Anyway hopefully this is the last I let a troll make me write this much.

Didn't you expose a veteran who has built up a facade painstakingly for over a decade? And you made it crumble just like that. The funny thing is that the said veteran seems oblivious to the fact that his facade has crumbled and your role in it.

hainji? I guess I am oblivious to the fact too, lol.

b_A wrote:

Beatrix Kiddo wrote:

b_A wrote:

Beatrix Kiddo wrote:

Kinnera wrote:Oh please! give this 'vids shared kinn's pic' thing a rest. Enough is enough! It's no big deal. Srsly! Yeah, vids has a weakness to keep secrets or personal info. We know that. she's working on it, i'm sure .  Don't we have our own weaknesses? Who's perfect? The thing is, she's not vicious. If she were, i wouldn't have been her friend. She's very plain-hearted and i like that about her.

 
Yep working. I simply don't talk to anyone and no one talks to me. So that helps  Infact now I am scared to talk to people offline. I get only disturbing news. 

The disadvantage of earning a reputation like this, other than the obvious ones are:

1) get blamed for any kind of info sharing going around. Any other pic? Tracy shared it. Facebook page? Yep tracy shared it. It doesn't matter who really shared what. Just slap it on tracy and make it believable. No am not making this up. Hard to go and defend everything to everyone. Coz then it's easy to counter that with, 'Tracy is lying'. Just sit back and let the drama play.

2) if you seriously don't tell something private to someone and they know you know it, they take it too personally. Yep this has happened too. Gone through all sorts of emotional appeals and blackmails on this one. 

But there can be advantages too. I can easily lie about not knowing something and they will believe me. Coz if I knew it I would easily tell, ya?

Anyway hopefully this is the last I let a troll make me write this much.

Didn't you expose a veteran who has built up a facade painstakingly for over a decade? And you made it crumble just like that. The funny thing is that the said veteran seems oblivious to the fact that his facade has crumbled and your role in it.

hainji? I guess I am oblivious to the fact too, lol.

ignorance is bliss. Or is it pleading ignorance ?