opinion - jerk?

Tracy Whitney wrote:You are a woman out on drinks with someone. You are about to finish your second cosmo. He has less than half wine left in his glass (his first with you, but he has admitted that he had been ODing on wine that day). There is the last Spinach Florentine flatbread left on the plate, and neither one of you want to take it coz maybe you both are feeling too formal about it.

You are feeling a bit buzzed so you ask the bartender for water. He asks for it too. Then you chat more. You are having a nice time chatting, not even thinking about anything else while enjoying your mild buzz.

Then he signals to the bartender. You think he is also asking for a refill. But he asks for the check. What?

Shouldn't he ask you first if you wanted anything more? Is he a jerk or someone authoritative? Does he know only to think about himself, or can he correctly decide that ordering you a third drink would be a bad idea?

If this happens, what would you do? Say, 'oh are we done?', then gulp the rest of the cosmo and get out with him? Or feel offended and never talk to him again?

Rishi wrote:Tracy

There are better places to find decent men than bars.

A typical man thinks a woman who drinks and frequents bars is promiscuous.

Kinnera wrote:

Rishi wrote:Tracy

There are better places to find decent men than bars.

A typical man thinks a woman who drinks and frequents bars is promiscuous.

She didn't say she met him at the bar. Right?

Tracy Whitney wrote:

Kinnera wrote:

Rishi wrote:Tracy

There are better places to find decent men than bars.

A typical man thinks a woman who drinks and frequents bars is promiscuous.

She didn't say she met him at the bar. Right?

I didn't say it was *me* lol.. but if wanna set a venue, think any american restaurant.

Kinnera wrote:

Rishi wrote:Tracy

There are better places to find decent men than bars.

A typical man thinks a woman who drinks and frequents bars is promiscuous.

She didn't say she met him at the bar. Right?

seven wrote:i'd give him benefit of doubt and think he has poor social skills. if i was enjoying chatting with him, i'll tell him that and say sth like i really enjoyed talkin to you. we should do this again or sth like wish we could hangout a little longer.

too little info to label him a jerk.

Rishi wrote:

Kinnera wrote:

Rishi wrote:Tracy

There are better places to find decent men than bars.

A typical man thinks a woman who drinks and frequents bars is promiscuous.

She didn't say she met him at the bar. Right?

>>> I did not say it was her.

Read my post carefully. It was a general statement.

Rishi wrote:Tracy

There are better places to find decent men than bars.

A typical man thinks a woman who drinks and frequents bars is promiscuous.

Tracy Whitney wrote:

seven wrote:i'd give him benefit of doubt and think he has poor social skills. if i was enjoying chatting with him, i'll tell him that and say sth like i really enjoyed talkin to you. we should do this again or sth like wish we could hangout a little longer.

too little info to label him a jerk.

hmm, has poor social skills, is not a jerk. Would you want him to tune it a bit if you are planning to meet more, or take him as he is?

seven wrote:

Tracy Whitney wrote:

seven wrote:i'd give him benefit of doubt and think he has poor social skills. if i was enjoying chatting with him, i'll tell him that and say sth like i really enjoyed talkin to you. we should do this again or sth like wish we could hangout a little longer.

too little info to label him a jerk.

hmm, has poor social skills, is not a jerk. Would you want him to tune it a bit if you are planning to meet more, or take him as he is?

Well that depends on a lot of other things. If he's fun to be with n I like other things about him, this isn't a deal breaker for me. 
When we become good friends, maybe I'll tell the bar tender to hold the check n tell him to stay longer.

Tracy Whitney wrote:You are a woman out on drinks with someone. You are about to finish your second cosmo. He has less than half wine left in his glass (his first with you, but he has admitted that he had been ODing on wine that day). There is the last Spinach Florentine flatbread left on the plate, and neither one of you want to take it coz maybe you both are feeling too formal about it.

You are feeling a bit buzzed so you ask the bartender for water. He asks for it too. Then you chat more. You are having a nice time chatting, not even thinking about anything else while enjoying your mild buzz.

Then he signals to the bartender. You think he is also asking for a refill. But he asks for the check. What?

Shouldn't he ask you first if you wanted anything more? Is he a jerk or someone authoritativte? Does he know only to think about himself, or can he correctly decide that ordering you a third drink would be a bad idea?

If this happens, what would you do? Say, 'oh are we done?', then gulp the rest of the cosmo and get out with him? Or feel offended and never talk to him again?

Kris wrote:

Tracy Whitney wrote:You are a woman out on drinks with someone. You are about to finish your second cosmo. He has less than half wine left in his glass (his first with you, but he has admitted that he had been ODing on wine that day). There is the last Spinach Florentine flatbread left on the plate, and neither one of you want to take it coz maybe you both are feeling too formal about it.

You are feeling a bit buzzed so you ask the bartender for water. He asks for it too. Then you chat more. You are having a nice time chatting, not even thinking about anything else while enjoying your mild buzz.

Then he signals to the bartender. You think he is also asking for a refill. But he asks for the check. What?

Shouldn't he ask you first if you wanted anything more? Is he a jerk or someone authoritativte? Does he know only to think about himself, or can he correctly decide that ordering you a third drink would be a bad idea?

If this happens, what would you do? Say, 'oh are we done?', then gulp the rest of the cosmo and get out with him? Or feel offended and never talk to him again?

>>> There is not enough data here. Was he a Dikshitar? If so, were you in the bar area when you ordered the mojito and if so, was the order placed in Sanskrit? The answers to the above questions will determine the guilt or innocence of the relevant parties. Thanks.

Tracy Whitney wrote:

Kris wrote:

Tracy Whitney wrote:You are a woman out on drinks with someone. You are about to finish your second cosmo. He has less than half wine left in his glass (his first with you, but he has admitted that he had been ODing on wine that day). There is the last Spinach Florentine flatbread left on the plate, and neither one of you want to take it coz maybe you both are feeling too formal about it.

You are feeling a bit buzzed so you ask the bartender for water. He asks for it too. Then you chat more. You are having a nice time chatting, not even thinking about anything else while enjoying your mild buzz.

Then he signals to the bartender. You think he is also asking for a refill. But he asks for the check. What?

Shouldn't he ask you first if you wanted anything more? Is he a jerk or someone authoritativte? Does he know only to think about himself, or can he correctly decide that ordering you a third drink would be a bad idea?

If this happens, what would you do? Say, 'oh are we done?', then gulp the rest of the cosmo and get out with him? Or feel offended and never talk to him again?

>>> There is not enough data here. Was he a Dikshitar? If so, were you in the bar area when you ordered the mojito and if so, was the order placed in Sanskrit? The answers to the above questions will determine the guilt or innocence of the relevant parties. Thanks.

is it too late in the game to ask what does a dikshitar mean?

Tracy Whitney wrote:

Kris wrote:

Tracy Whitney wrote:You are a woman out on drinks with someone. You are about to finish your second cosmo. He has less than half wine left in his glass (his first with you, but he has admitted that he had been ODing on wine that day). There is the last Spinach Florentine flatbread left on the plate, and neither one of you want to take it coz maybe you both are feeling too formal about it.

You are feeling a bit buzzed so you ask the bartender for water. He asks for it too. Then you chat more. You are having a nice time chatting, not even thinking about anything else while enjoying your mild buzz.

Then he signals to the bartender. You think he is also asking for a refill. But he asks for the check. What?

Shouldn't he ask you first if you wanted anything more? Is he a jerk or someone authoritativte? Does he know only to think about himself, or can he correctly decide that ordering you a third drink would be a bad idea?

If this happens, what would you do? Say, 'oh are we done?', then gulp the rest of the cosmo and get out with him? Or feel offended and never talk to him again?

>>> There is not enough data here. Was he a Dikshitar? If so, were you in the bar area when you ordered the mojito and if so, was the order placed in Sanskrit? The answers to the above questions will determine the guilt or innocence of the relevant parties. Thanks.

is it too late in the game to ask what does a dikshitar mean?

Tracy Whitney wrote:so ok.. the marathi migrant temple pundits who chant in sanskrit in TN.

I did try to follow the other thread. Looks like I will need to learn sanskrit to have my prayers answered. Someone should have advised me this like 8 years ago.