Perks and Perils of interfaith marriages

by Petrichor Fri May 25, 2012 7:28 pm

http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/05/25/when-hindu-meets-catholic-and-the-children-that-follow/?hp

"For our children, we try repeatedly to pray together at home, but it feels forced. We try discussing our views, but can never find a common ground for child rearing. Should we baptize, should we not? Go to church and temple alternately or choose one place as the primary and visit the other occasionally? Which then should be the primary? My religion because it is the one they’ll see practiced more often or their dad’s because we live in the U.S.A.? Will they be grounded? Won’t they be confused?"

Oh...I did say perks right?...hmm...did not see any. Wink

by Bittu Fri May 25, 2012 7:35 pm

F religion. F god. Both are man-made.

If you raised them in a loving, secure home, you did well. Nothing more to worry about.

by Kris Fri May 25, 2012 9:31 pm

atcg wrote:http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/05/25/when-hindu-meets-catholic-and-the-children-that-follow/?hp

"For our children, we try repeatedly to pray together at home, but it feels forced. We try discussing our views, but can never find a common ground for child rearing. Should we baptize, should we not? Go to church and temple alternately or choose one place as the primary and visit the other occasionally? Which then should be the primary? My religion because it is the one they’ll see practiced more often or their dad’s because we live in the U.S.A.? Will they be grounded? Won’t they be confused?"

Oh...I did say perks right?...hmm...did not see any.

>>>> If some sort of religious belief is a must for an inter-faith couple, it is best to just keep it broad- something along the lines of 'there is a higher power','things will work out if you do the right thing', that sort of thing. This getting down to gods and religious rites can indeed be confusing and could also take its toll on the relationship.

by Marathadi-Saamiyaar Sat May 26, 2012 2:09 pm

Kris wrote:
atcg wrote:http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/05/25/when-hindu-meets-catholic-and-the-children-that-follow/?hp

"For our children, we try repeatedly to pray together at home, but it feels forced. We try discussing our views, but can never find a common ground for child rearing. Should we baptize, should we not? Go to church and temple alternately or choose one place as the primary and visit the other occasionally? Which then should be the primary? My religion because it is the one they’ll see practiced more often or their dad’s because we live in the U.S.A.? Will they be grounded? Won’t they be confused?"

Oh...I did say perks right?...hmm...did not see any.

>>>> If some sort of religious belief is a must for an inter-faith couple, it is best to just keep it broad- something along the lines of 'there is a higher power','things will work out if you do the right thing', that sort of thing. This getting down to gods and religious rites can indeed be confusing and could also take its toll on the relationship.

This is the comment I liked most:

"Kids aren't as stupid as they look. They'll figure it out if you try to get them to believe in something you don't really believe in. And it's not really necessary---the countries that rank best on the corruption index are ones that are not religious---Scandinavian ones. So teach them good moral, and help them celebrate American festivals. It will turn out okay, and they won't come to believe you're hypocrites for presenting something as a unified belief when it isn't."

India - supposedly the most religious (read that somewhere based on some index) - filled with corruption, daily discomfort, decreasing compassion, increasing violence, and increasingly selfish and materialistic.

Sweeden - one of the least religious, but least corrupt, and opposite in every way.

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