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Post by Guest Sun Dec 04, 2016 9:19 am

http://www.storypick.com/rant-on-being-traditional/

I’m from a large conservative Hindu family. I was raised to be the perfect submissive daughter and I grudgingly still am.

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Post by garam_kuta Sun Dec 04, 2016 11:00 am

Scarlet O'Hara wrote:http://www.storypick.com/rant-on-being-traditional/

I’m from a large conservative Hindu family. I was raised to be the perfect submissive daughter and I grudgingly still am.

haven't read the article..but choosing more like yielding and non-argumentative mode is an admirable choice, at this time, ie., at your present age and the parents', IMO.

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Post by Guest Sun Dec 04, 2016 11:07 am

garam_kuta wrote:
Scarlet O'Hara wrote:http://www.storypick.com/rant-on-being-traditional/

I’m from a large conservative Hindu family. I was raised to be the perfect submissive daughter and I grudgingly still am.

haven't read the article..but choosing more like yielding and non-argumentative mode is an admirable choice, at this time, ie., at your present age and the parents', IMO.

I think she explained it well further: 

Some of you might say “move out, be financially independent and fuck em.” Not easy. I’m not even living with them right now and I make money, but I’m kind of emotionally stunted, not prepared. 

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Post by pravalika nanda Sun Dec 04, 2016 8:29 pm

Scarlet O'Hara wrote:
garam_kuta wrote:
Scarlet O'Hara wrote:http://www.storypick.com/rant-on-being-traditional/

I’m from a large conservative Hindu family. I was raised to be the perfect submissive daughter and I grudgingly still am.

haven't read the article..but choosing more like yielding and non-argumentative mode is an admirable choice, at this time, ie., at your present age and the parents', IMO.

I think she explained it well further: 

Some of you might say “move out, be financially independent and fuck em.” Not easy. I’m not even living with them right now and I make money, but I’m kind of emotionally stunted, not prepared. 
i think all of us are just very pampered.

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Post by MaxEntropy_Man Sun Dec 04, 2016 8:50 pm

http://m.legacy.com/obituaries/sfgate/obituary.aspx?n=shyamala-g-harris&pid=125330757&referrer=0&preview=false
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Post by confuzzled dude Sun Dec 04, 2016 9:47 pm

Looks like she was raised by a typical NRI patriot.

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Post by swapna Mon Dec 05, 2016 2:46 am

MaxEntropy_Man wrote:http://m.legacy.com/obituaries/sfgate/obituary.aspx?n=shyamala-g-harris&pid=125330757&referrer=0&preview=false
why?

to contrast the southern indian shyamala harris's high-achieving, socially conscious life with those of the complaining, harem-dancing, perfumed, lehnga-clad, northindian women of charlotte's reddit link?

it would be enormously revealing to find out how these whining young women will free and perhaps encourage their own daughters and sons to spread their wings and fly off on their own.

or will their cashTu, sub-cashTu, and gothram stop them from walking the talk?

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Post by Guest Mon Dec 05, 2016 7:49 am

MaxEntropy_Man wrote:http://m.legacy.com/obituaries/sfgate/obituary.aspx?n=shyamala-g-harris&pid=125330757&referrer=0&preview=false

If you are suggesting not ALL girls were suppressed, I totally agree with you. I have octogenarian women in my family who were medical doctors or PhDs, and studied in different cities. But if you are trying to hint a ni and si divide by bringing up a shyamala harris, then just remember that first Indian woman doctor was a maharashtrian. First Indian woman pilot was Sarla Thakral. First Indian woman in space was Kalpana Chawla, and Kiran Bedi needs no introduction. You can google the rest. 

I don't know much about Chennai culture. But the fact that most of them wore saris starting high school or college, as late as 80s and 90s, can't be a 'choice' thing.

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Post by MaxEntropy_Man Mon Dec 05, 2016 7:58 am

There are a lot of women like Shyamala Gopalan Harris from that generation who stepped outside of bounds imposed by society and did whatever they wanted to do. I'm personally familiar with quite a few of them in my extended family. It's a little difficult to take this kind of whining from a contemporary young Indian woman. Spoilt whiny brat comes to mind.

SGH is the mother of California senator elect, previously attorney general of California, and possible future leader of the Democratic Party, Kamala Harris. SGP raised her and sister Maya as a single mother while pursuing a highly successful academic career with parallel goals uplifting the lives of women of color. An enormously inspiring life.
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Post by garam_kuta Mon Dec 05, 2016 10:41 am

swapna wrote:
MaxEntropy_Man wrote:http://m.legacy.com/obituaries/sfgate/obituary.aspx?n=shyamala-g-harris&pid=125330757&referrer=0&preview=false
why?

to contrast the southern indian shyamala harris's high-achieving, socially conscious life with those of the complaining, harem-dancing, perfumed, lehnga-clad, northindian women of charlotte's reddit link?

it would be enormously revealing to find out how these whining young women will free and perhaps encourage their own daughters and sons to spread their wings and fly off on their own.

or will their cashTu, sub-cashTu, and gothram stop them from walking the talk?

ouch...still hurts, eh? twice bitten, but never learnt; convinced that it's a transmitted-trait? Crying or Very sad No

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