Should she have told her husband?

by Rishi Sun May 25, 2014 11:13 am

Q. Brother-in-Law’s Confession Could Destroy Family: My husband’s sister “Beth,” her husband “Eric,” and their 2-year-old daughter recently came into town. Eric and I have never seen eye-to-eye, but we are civil. After hosting a big family party in our sun room, everyone went to bed. Eric offered to help me clean up, which I agreed to. Initially, he complimented my outfit and hair, which I thanked him for. Then, he implied that Beth no longer has sex with him. I wasn’t positive if that was what he meant, so I chose not to say anything further. That was when he mentioned that he had always thought that I was beautiful, then laughed as he mentioned that “no one” would hear us if we had sex together out in the sun room. Thinking that he was drunk, I said, “Well, we’re both married, and your wife is probably waiting for you in the guest room.” He answered, “I’ve already had to have a little fun on the side.” I turned around to leave and found him standing with everything on display. I didn’t say anything, just hurried into the house and went to bed. I avoided them until they left, then asked my husband what he and Eric drank; he told me that Eric was completely sober. I didn’t mention what happened. While I know my husband would side with me if I came forward, I know it could rip him apart from the rest of the family. But I’m also scared that if I keep quiet, Eric might tell the family that I came onto him, which could be even more damaging. What should I do?

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2014/05/dear_prudence_my_brother_in_law_hit_on_me_should_i_tell_someone.html

by Rishi Sun May 25, 2014 11:21 am

Re: Brother-in-law confession addition: I forgot to add: my concern stems from the fact that Eric is a professing Christian and takes every opportunity to bring up his piousness, and my in-laws adore him. Meanwhile, I am the liberal atheist. I get the impression that most of the in-laws tolerate me and are likely not to believe the accusation anyway. Not because they want to protect an obviously troubled person, but because they believe his act. I have decided to tell my husband regardless and hopefully Beth will leave this guy. If not, I’ve washed my hands of the situation. Thanks for your clear-headed advice, Prudie!

>>>Interesting. It is the very pious ones you have to watch out for. This applies to all religions Hindu or Christian.

by bw Sun May 25, 2014 7:14 pm

rishi, you have to find an online course pronto! if you don't have time for that, watch the new "cosmos" series presented by neil degrasse tyson. it is very well made. all episodes are available online.

http://www.cosmosontv.com/

on another note, here's cs lewis on sexual morality and the pursuit of happiness.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XBp8M8M4DMs

by Rishi Sun May 25, 2014 8:37 pm

bw wrote:rishi, you have to find an online course pronto! if you don't have time for that, watch the new "cosmos" series presented by neil degrasse tyson. it is very well made. all episodes are available online.

http://www.cosmosontv.com/

on another note, here's cs lewis on sexual morality and the pursuit of happiness.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XBp8M8M4DMs

BW,

Good advice.

I have a better project in mind. I am going to learn carnatic music. Master it then go to Chennai each winter and give concerts at Narada Gana Sabha, come back and go to Cleveland and sing Thyagaraja Kirtanas there and then have a back and forth discussion about Sanjay Subramanian with Max and Impy.

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