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Insecurity
How might one's spouse feel when his/her spouse's pursued guy/gal (Note not ex or no relationship at all) shows up after 15-17 years? That pursued being unmarried - how do one take it?
May be a month ago we bumped into this guy who happend to pursue me when I was like 18 or 19 - I don't remember. Actually my husband kinda recognized him and we said hi and bye and that's it. Looks like H is so researching him and he is not even shaving these days.
H seems to not over that and he brings that guys's name whenever we talk provided that we communicate very less.
I am so really annoyed and don't know how to put an end to this.
May be a month ago we bumped into this guy who happend to pursue me when I was like 18 or 19 - I don't remember. Actually my husband kinda recognized him and we said hi and bye and that's it. Looks like H is so researching him and he is not even shaving these days.
H seems to not over that and he brings that guys's name whenever we talk provided that we communicate very less.
I am so really annoyed and don't know how to put an end to this.
Nila- Posts : 1485
Join date : 2011-05-03
Age : 45
Re: Insecurity
sasthi ,
reading ur post was so very difficult
but i got the gist
a guy who was fascinated by you many years ago shows up on ur doorstep ..both u and ur husband are speechless
he in particular brings it up all the time since
what should u do .
im sure u are pleased secretly ..ur inner flame might even have been rekindled
but the trick is todeny deny deny and then ignore ignore ignore
if u want to meet this guy on the sly u could ..but remember discretion being the better part of valour
go for it
let the husband feel insecure ..for a change he he
reading ur post was so very difficult
but i got the gist
a guy who was fascinated by you many years ago shows up on ur doorstep ..both u and ur husband are speechless
he in particular brings it up all the time since
what should u do .
im sure u are pleased secretly ..ur inner flame might even have been rekindled
but the trick is todeny deny deny and then ignore ignore ignore
if u want to meet this guy on the sly u could ..but remember discretion being the better part of valour
go for it
let the husband feel insecure ..for a change he he
chameli- Posts : 1073
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Age : 39
Location : Dallas USA
Re: Insecurity
Yes, I was like I din't know how to describe this...but you got the gist! But not on the door step...we met him at the Mall.
I am not pleased...oh pls! I got better things to get pleased. I think H is overreacting. Next time he brings his name I will pretend as such I haven't heard it.
Also, If at all I want it...I will do it the right way! First divorce and then date....LOL
Thanks for your advice, anyway.
I am not pleased...oh pls! I got better things to get pleased. I think H is overreacting. Next time he brings his name I will pretend as such I haven't heard it.
Also, If at all I want it...I will do it the right way! First divorce and then date....LOL
Thanks for your advice, anyway.
Nila- Posts : 1485
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Re: Insecurity
Also, my H may not be a good husband but he is a good dad and he is a keeper. LOL *touch wood*
May be when the kids hit college I might think of divorce.
My problem solved. Posting here always helps me! Sigh!
May be when the kids hit college I might think of divorce.
My problem solved. Posting here always helps me! Sigh!
Nila- Posts : 1485
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Re: Insecurity
Sasthi wrote:Yes, I was like I din't know how to describe this...but you got the gist! But not on the door step...we met him at the Mall.
I am not pleased...oh pls! I got better things to get pleased. I think H is overreacting. ...
>>> I think H may be worried this guy is an Amway salesman. If he followed you all the way around the world to make this "chance" encounter happen, I am starting to think this is a distinct possibility.
Kris- Posts : 5460
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Re: Insecurity
Sasthi wrote:Also, my H may not be a good husband but he is a good dad and he is a keeper. LOL *touch wood*
May be when the kids hit college I might think of divorce.
My problem solved. Posting here always helps me! Sigh!
There...you gave the answer yourself. Just tell your H that you are not planning to OR will never divorce till kids leave apart. Till then he can rest easy.
P.S. Are you sure that he is not searching for your former flame to beg and take you back?...
Marathadi-Saamiyaar- Posts : 17675
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Re: Insecurity
His drama is very surprising for me! Kidachathey chancennu pugai, thanni, uncontrol match watchingnnu aathulaEllam Kurai Illama Nanathaan poiyittirukku.
Indha dramaKku Pennala Enakku Theriyama something yetho Irukku?
Indha dramaKku Pennala Enakku Theriyama something yetho Irukku?
Nila- Posts : 1485
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Sasthi wrote:His drama is very surprising for me! Kidachathey chancennu pugai, thanni, uncontrol match watchingnnu aathulaEllam Kurai Illama Nanathaan poiyittirukku.
Indha dramaKku Pennala Enakku Theriyama something yetho Irukku?
I don't think so. This is called mid-life crisis and self-doubt. Took you for granted all this time, and now puli varudhu puli vardudhu kadhai, and Ayyavukku ippo bayum.
Marundavanukku Irundathellam pei.
Marathadi-Saamiyaar- Posts : 17675
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Re: Insecurity
Sasthi wrote:His drama is very surprising for me! Kidachathey chancennu pugai, thanni, uncontrol match watchingnnu aathulaEllam Kurai Illama Nanathaan poiyittirukku.
Indha dramaKku Pennala Enakku Theriyama something yetho Irukku?
perhaps you need to let him get more involved with kid's activities. persuade your kids to bother him more than usual and that'd be a good enlightening involvement and diversion. thumbA react mAdubEdi.. neengaLum jaasthi adhai paththi yochanai pannaadheengO.. divert your attention..this anxiety from both sides will settle down soon...
garam_kuta- Posts : 3768
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Re: Insecurity
garam_kuta wrote:Sasthi wrote:His drama is very surprising for me! Kidachathey chancennu pugai, thanni, uncontrol match watchingnnu aathulaEllam Kurai Illama Nanathaan poiyittirukku.
Indha dramaKku Pennala Enakku Theriyama something yetho Irukku?
perhaps you need to let him get more involved with kid's activities. persuade your kids to bother him more than usual and that'd be a good enlightening involvement and diversion. thumbA react mAdubEdi.. neengaLum jaasthi adhai paththi yochanai pannaadheengO.. divert your attention..this anxiety from both sides will settle down soon...
Sigh. Okay.
Nila- Posts : 1485
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Re: Insecurity
Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:Sasthi wrote:His drama is very surprising for me! Kidachathey chancennu pugai, thanni, uncontrol match watchingnnu aathulaEllam Kurai Illama Nanathaan poiyittirukku.
Indha dramaKku Pennala Enakku Theriyama something yetho Irukku?
I don't think so. This is called mid-life crisis and self-doubt. Took you for granted all this time, and now puli varudhu puli vardudhu kadhai, and Ayyavukku ippo bayum.
Marundavanukku Irundathellam pei.
Yennamo?! I am not gonna think about it anymore.
Nila- Posts : 1485
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Re: Insecurity
Well, there is nothing much to discuss further. You can relax.
Nila- Posts : 1485
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Re: Insecurity
Sasthi wrote:Yes, I was like I din't know how to describe this...but you got the gist! But not on the door step...we met him at the Mall.
I am not pleased...oh pls! I got better things to get pleased. I think H is overreacting. Next time he brings his name I will pretend as such I haven't heard it.
Also, If at all I want it...I will do it the right way! First divorce and then date....LOL
Thanks for your advice, anyway.
>>>If this sullen behavior is for real, call him aside and tell him this is getting ridiculous. Ask him to think back to his early youth and if this play a part in his life now, to put things in perspective. Life is stressful as it is and to add on more noise seems unwise. Nip this in the bud.
Kris- Posts : 5460
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Re: Insecurity
Tracy Whitney wrote:I wanna butt in, but andray-pondray much in this thread.
May be I am touchy this morning, but was that necessary?
You could have said, tamil/kannada or whatever.
doofus_maximus- Posts : 1903
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Re: Insecurity
doofus_maximus wrote:Tracy Whitney wrote:I wanna butt in, but andray-pondray much in this thread.
May be I am touchy this morning, but was that necessary?
You could have said, tamil/kannada or whatever.
Oh man. I'm pms'ing big time, but even I'm in a much better mood than this. Chill dude. It's all in fun.
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Re: Insecurity
Tracy Whitney wrote:doofus_maximus wrote:Tracy Whitney wrote:I wanna butt in, but andray-pondray much in this thread.
May be I am touchy this morning, but was that necessary?
You could have said, tamil/kannada or whatever.
Oh man. I'm pms'ing big time, but even I'm in a much better mood than this. Chill dude. It's all in fun.
So was that in Jest. You should put a disclaimer like Trashmun does.
doofus_maximus- Posts : 1903
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Re: Insecurity
sasthi,
its rare that husbands are on the receiving end this is one instance .make the most of it
wirte secret love notes to uself as if it the guy who wrote it and drop them all over the hous e.
husbands need to appreciate us a little
a golden opportunity has arisen madam !
its rare that husbands are on the receiving end this is one instance .make the most of it
wirte secret love notes to uself as if it the guy who wrote it and drop them all over the hous e.
husbands need to appreciate us a little
a golden opportunity has arisen madam !
chameli- Posts : 1073
Join date : 2011-10-07
Age : 39
Location : Dallas USA
Re: Insecurity
doofus_maximus wrote:Tracy Whitney wrote:doofus_maximus wrote:Tracy Whitney wrote:I wanna butt in, but andray-pondray much in this thread.
May be I am touchy this morning, but was that necessary?
You could have said, tamil/kannada or whatever.
Oh man. I'm pms'ing big time, but even I'm in a much better mood than this. Chill dude. It's all in fun.
So was that in Jest. You should put a disclaimer like Trashmun does.
Well, whenever I'm quoting any one else and/or repeating a much used phrase/term, it's in a jest by default.
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Re: Insecurity
Tracy Whitney wrote:doofus_maximus wrote:Tracy Whitney wrote:doofus_maximus wrote:Tracy Whitney wrote:I wanna butt in, but andray-pondray much in this thread.
May be I am touchy this morning, but was that necessary?
You could have said, tamil/kannada or whatever.
Oh man. I'm pms'ing big time, but even I'm in a much better mood than this. Chill dude. It's all in fun.
So was that in Jest. You should put a disclaimer like Trashmun does.
Well, whenever I'm quoting any one else and/or repeating a much used phrase/term, it's in a jest by default.
Just . it next time and we will understand.
Hellsangel- Posts : 14721
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Re: Insecurity
Tracy Whitney wrote:doofus_maximus wrote:Tracy Whitney wrote:doofus_maximus wrote:Tracy Whitney wrote:I wanna butt in, but andray-pondray much in this thread.
May be I am touchy this morning, but was that necessary?
You could have said, tamil/kannada or whatever.
Oh man. I'm pms'ing big time, but even I'm in a much better mood than this. Chill dude. It's all in fun.
So was that in Jest. You should put a disclaimer like Trashmun does.
Well, whenever I'm quoting any one else and/or repeating a much used phrase/term, it's in a jest by default.
Often used or repeatedly used phrases are in jest. Okay. I am all clarified now.
doofus_maximus- Posts : 1903
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chameli wrote:sasthi,
its rare that husbands are on the receiving end this is one instance .make the most of it
wirte secret love notes to uself as if it the guy who wrote it and drop them all over the hous e.
husbands need to appreciate us a little
a golden opportunity has arisen madam !
LOL at writing secret love notes to self. It is so fun! Thanks chameli...hugs!
I wrote a note and it will brighten my days forever:P
Nila- Posts : 1485
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Re: Insecurity
there u go !
any other mischief you want to happen ...get in touch with me please lol
and and huggz back
any other mischief you want to happen ...get in touch with me please lol
and and huggz back
chameli- Posts : 1073
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Age : 39
Location : Dallas USA
Re: Insecurity
Sasthi wrote:How might one's spouse feel when his/her spouse's pursued guy/gal (Note not ex or no relationship at all) shows up after 15-17 years? That pursued being unmarried - how do one take it?
May be a month ago we bumped into this guy who happend to pursue me when I was like 18 or 19 - I don't remember. Actually my husband kinda recognized him and we said hi and bye and that's it. Looks like H is so researching him and he is not even shaving these days.
H seems to not over that and he brings that guys's name whenever we talk provided that we communicate very less.
I am so really annoyed and don't know how to put an end to this.
Why nothing like this happens in my life? Big *sigh*!! yennamo po maa
Rekz- Posts : 1086
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Re: Insecurity
rekz sweetie ,
been missing you
i can make it happen for you ..needs a lot of plotting and putting heads together
but i will have to start charging a fee
been missing you
i can make it happen for you ..needs a lot of plotting and putting heads together
but i will have to start charging a fee
chameli- Posts : 1073
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Location : Dallas USA
Re: Insecurity
Rekz wrote:
Why nothing like this happens in my life? Big *sigh*!! yennamo po maa
For everything else, there is net and CHAT.
Marathadi-Saamiyaar- Posts : 17675
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Re: Insecurity
[quote="Rekz"]
Wait. You telling me that there was no reaction from your hubby when he sees your DMFC activities. You need to take it up a notch on the DMFC front, to make him jealous.
Sasthi wrote:How might one's spouse feel when his/her spouse's pursued guy/gal (Note not ex or no relationship at all) shows up after 15-17 years? That pursued being unmarried - how do one take it?
May be a month ago we bumped into this guy who happend to pursue me when I was like 18 or 19 - I don't remember. Actually my husband kinda recognized him and we said hi and bye and that's it. Looks like H is so researching him and he is not even shaving these days.
H seems to not over that and he brings that guys's name whenever we talk provided that we communicate very less.
I am so really annoyed and don't know how to put an end to this.[/quote
Why nothing like this happens in my life? Big *sigh*!! yennamo po maa
Wait. You telling me that there was no reaction from your hubby when he sees your DMFC activities. You need to take it up a notch on the DMFC front, to make him jealous.
doofus_maximus- Posts : 1903
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Re: Insecurity
doofus_maximus wrote:
Wait. You telling me that there was no reaction from your hubby when he sees your DMFC activities. You need to take it up a notch on the DMFC front, to make him jealous.
ippo puriyudhu..dhobi-aaneenga..thOttakAranAneenga..goorkha aagha ready-aayittaapola..
garam_kuta- Posts : 3768
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@ chameli - Chat is always empty when i login...How is it going for u?
@ Samiyar:farao: -yenna chat-u yenna net-u..ellam bore-u
@Doofus -DMFC has been inactive for a while now...why don't you post pictures of u doing chores at home? May be then i can show to hubby and say "swaami,ekkada choodu swaami ..he is the one for whom i created a fan club which later brought down a mega forum called sulekha coffeehouse"I know u r good purushan DM but why don't u be a udharanapurushan on CH
@ Samiyar:farao: -yenna chat-u yenna net-u..ellam bore-u
@Doofus -DMFC has been inactive for a while now...why don't you post pictures of u doing chores at home? May be then i can show to hubby and say "swaami,ekkada choodu swaami ..he is the one for whom i created a fan club which later brought down a mega forum called sulekha coffeehouse"I know u r good purushan DM but why don't u be a udharanapurushan on CH
Rekz- Posts : 1086
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Rekz wrote:@ chameli - Chat is always empty when i login...How is it going for u?
@ Samiyar:farao: -yenna chat-u yenna net-u..ellam bore-u
@Doofus -DMFC has been inactive for a while now...why don't you post pictures of u doing chores at home? May be then i can show to hubby and say "swaami,ekkada choodu swaami ..he is the one for whom i created a fan club which later brought down a mega forum called sulekha coffeehouse"I know u r good purushan DM but why don't u be a udharanapurushan on CH
kavuththeetingalE....niraiya udhaar vidara purshan is udhaaranapurushan..
garam_kuta- Posts : 3768
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Re: Insecurity
rekzie,
can u arrange to sleep during the day and keep up at night so u and i can chat ?
not too much to ask is it ?
can u arrange to sleep during the day and keep up at night so u and i can chat ?
not too much to ask is it ?
chameli- Posts : 1073
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Re: Insecurity
garam_kuta wrote:Rekz wrote:@ chameli - Chat is always empty when i login...How is it going for u?
@ Samiyar:farao: -yenna chat-u yenna net-u..ellam bore-u
@Doofus -DMFC has been inactive for a while now...why don't you post pictures of u doing chores at home? May be then i can show to hubby and say "swaami,ekkada choodu swaami ..he is the one for whom i created a fan club which later brought down a mega forum called sulekha coffeehouse"I know u r good purushan DM but why don't u be a udharanapurushan on CH
kavuththeetingalE....niraiya udhaar vidara purshan is udhaaranapurushan..
Dei pasangala, yennai vechi kaamedy keemedy onnum pannalaiye??
doofus_maximus- Posts : 1903
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Re: Insecurity
Impedimenta wrote:psssttt.......DMFC = ?
Anna Fan Club
Hellsangel- Posts : 14721
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Re: Insecurity
Hellsangel wrote:Impedimenta wrote:psssttt.......DMFC = ?
Anna Fan Club
Aha... Hellsu mama,
You were waiting for this. Velaya paarunga.
Affy,
DM.
doofus_maximus- Posts : 1903
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Re: Insecurity
Cha! Idhukellam Karanam Impy thaan!
MudalLiye...DMa AnnaNu Oru clue kuduthirundha...Iwlo Pirachchinae IrundirukKathu....
Parunga...Impykku AnnaNa...Enakkum AnnaThaan. Impy Madhri oru Nathanaar yaarukKavathu Theviya?!
Still I think DMFC is blah! LOL
MudalLiye...DMa AnnaNu Oru clue kuduthirundha...Iwlo Pirachchinae IrundirukKathu....
Parunga...Impykku AnnaNa...Enakkum AnnaThaan. Impy Madhri oru Nathanaar yaarukKavathu Theviya?!
Still I think DMFC is blah! LOL
Nila- Posts : 1485
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