'A bad marriage is like bad food': Kamal Hassan

The relationship remained under wraps for a couple of years largely because of Kamal Haasan’s own complicated love life: he was married to one woman and involved in a serious (and fairly public) relationship with a second. Though she and Kamal Haasan had their ups and downs (they once did not speak for eight months), Sarika will concede that the love story was strong and intense. (“It was magic,” she says.) Somewhere along the way, she got pregnant. He was ambivalent but she insisted on keeping the baby. As she was ready to fly off to London for the delivery, he asked her to come to Madras. He was ready, he said, to now come clean about the relationship. As the film press went into overdrive (she was called a marriagewrecker etc.), she went to his side and became a proud unwed mother (an even bigger deal in the 1980s). He offered to marry her. She refused. She wanted another child, she said. And she would not tolerate any difference in status between the two. It was only after the second child was born that they got married.

Sarika gave up acting. She learnt Tamil, became close to Kamal Haasan’s extended family, did the costumes for his films and built a new life in Madras.

It was this perfect love story that the couple broadcast, most notably on Rendezvous With Simi Garewal where their attachment to each other seemed almost too good to be true. Which, of course, it was.

Who can tell – from the outside – why a marriage breaks up? It is hard enough to tell from the inside which partner has the genuine grievance; which partner was the philanderer; and which partner was uncaring.

The Tamil press, which sold millions of extra copies because of the Kamal Haasan-Sarika break-up, has it own version which goes like this: shortly after Sarika got pregnant, Kamal Haasan embarked on another affair, with the actress Gautami. Sarika did not know about it and even went on to become great friends with Gautami.

Then, Gautami got tired of playing second fiddle and wandered off to get married. Kamal Haasan was devastated and tried to woo her back. And perhaps Gautami relented but by then, Kamal Haasan was seeing someone else anyway. Eventually he made it clear to Sarika that she was no longer required. (About the breakup of his first marriage, Kamal Haasan had told an interviewer: “It is like bad food. If your body rejects it then it will be passed out of your system.” Presumably, the same biology applied to his marriage to Sarika.) Sarika moved out. Kamal Haasan told the press that he had been treated badly at home. (The food was never ready on time!) Journalists “sympathetic to him” (as good a euphemism as any) wrote that Sarika was demanding huge amounts of alimony. And soon his girlfriend moved in with him.

It was at that stage that Sarika, at 43, moved back to Bombay, rented an apartment in Bandra, and tried to start life all over again, going back to where she had begun in 1964: as an actress looking for work. Sarika’s rented flat in Bombay, 2006. It is late in the night. A screening of Parzania has just ended at the nearby Dimple preview theatre. Some members of the audience and the director, Rahul Dholakia, have ended up at Sarika’s home for coffee and to discuss the film and her performance in it.

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wow he is too rasik for that short a man.

and dances like women. it's funny and he's too complicated for my liking. acha hua uski movie flop ho gai.

Rashmun wrote:The relationship remained under wraps for a couple of years largely because of Kamal Haasan’s own complicated love life: he was married to one woman and involved in a serious (and fairly public) relationship with a second. Though she and Kamal Haasan had their ups and downs (they once did not speak for eight months), Sarika will concede that the love story was strong and intense. (“It was magic,” she says.) Somewhere along the way, she got pregnant. He was ambivalent but she insisted on keeping the baby. As she was ready to fly off to London for the delivery, he asked her to come to Madras. He was ready, he said, to now come clean about the relationship. As the film press went into overdrive (she was called a marriagewrecker etc.), she went to his side and became a proud unwed mother (an even bigger deal in the 1980s). He offered to marry her. She refused. She wanted another child, she said. And she would not tolerate any difference in status between the two. It was only after the second child was born that they got married.

Sarika gave up acting. She learnt Tamil, became close to Kamal Haasan’s extended family, did the costumes for his films and built a new life in Madras.

It was this perfect love story that the couple broadcast, most notably on Rendezvous With Simi Garewal where their attachment to each other seemed almost too good to be true. Which, of course, it was.

Who can tell – from the outside – why a marriage breaks up? It is hard enough to tell from the inside which partner has the genuine grievance; which partner was the philanderer; and which partner was uncaring.

The Tamil press, which sold millions of extra copies because of the Kamal Haasan-Sarika break-up, has it own version which goes like this: shortly after Sarika got pregnant, Kamal Haasan embarked on another affair, with the actress Gautami. Sarika did not know about it and even went on to become great friends with Gautami.

Then, Gautami got tired of playing second fiddle and wandered off to get married. Kamal Haasan was devastated and tried to woo her back. And perhaps Gautami relented but by then, Kamal Haasan was seeing someone else anyway. Eventually he made it clear to Sarika that she was no longer required. (About the breakup of his first marriage, Kamal Haasan had told an interviewer: “It is like bad food. If your body rejects it then it will be passed out of your system.” Presumably, the same biology applied to his marriage to Sarika.) Sarika moved out. Kamal Haasan told the press that he had been treated badly at home. (The food was never ready on time!) Journalists “sympathetic to him” (as good a euphemism as any) wrote that Sarika was demanding huge amounts of alimony. And soon his girlfriend moved in with him.

It was at that stage that Sarika, at 43, moved back to Bombay, rented an apartment in Bandra, and tried to start life all over again, going back to where she had begun in 1964: as an actress looking for work. Sarika’s rented flat in Bombay, 2006. It is late in the night. A screening of Parzania has just ended at the nearby Dimple preview theatre. Some members of the audience and the director, Rahul Dholakia, have ended up at Sarika’s home for coffee and to discuss the film and her performance in it.

http://www.hindustantimes.com/News-Feed/Entertainment/Girl-Interrupted/Article1-571742.aspx

There is one difference this "moron" is forgetting. Everyone will smell bad food BEFORE eating, while marriages become bad afterwards wonly. The cook did not stir the pot well and prevent it from going bad... and he use the same stirrer to mix different pots and thus the original food gets spoiled.

*YAWN*

There is one difference this "moron" is forgetting. Everyone will smell bad food BEFORE eating, while marriages become bad afterwards wonly. The cook did not stir the pot well and prevent it from going bad... and he use the same stirrer to mix different pots and thus the original food gets spoiled.

+1

This stupid actor has loads of money and he can be live-in relationships with any number of women he wants. He does not have to care about what anyone thinks.

I wonder how many men or women in Chennai who belong to the middle class can afford to do that. The neighbors and relatives will shun them.

Rishi wrote:This stupid actor has loads of money and he can be live-in relationships with any number of women he wants. He does not have to care about what anyone thinks.

I wonder how many men or women in Chennai who belong to the middle class can afford to do that. The neighbors and relatives will shun them.

jealous neighbours and relatives :p

j/k

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

Rashmun wrote:The relationship remained under wraps for a couple of years largely because of Kamal Haasan’s own complicated love life: he was married to one woman and involved in a serious (and fairly public) relationship with a second. Though she and Kamal Haasan had their ups and downs (they once did not speak for eight months), Sarika will concede that the love story was strong and intense. (“It was magic,” she says.) Somewhere along the way, she got pregnant. He was ambivalent but she insisted on keeping the baby. As she was ready to fly off to London for the delivery, he asked her to come to Madras. He was ready, he said, to now come clean about the relationship. As the film press went into overdrive (she was called a marriagewrecker etc.), she went to his side and became a proud unwed mother (an even bigger deal in the 1980s). He offered to marry her. She refused. She wanted another child, she said. And she would not tolerate any difference in status between the two. It was only after the second child was born that they got married.

Sarika gave up acting. She learnt Tamil, became close to Kamal Haasan’s extended family, did the costumes for his films and built a new life in Madras.

It was this perfect love story that the couple broadcast, most notably on Rendezvous With Simi Garewal where their attachment to each other seemed almost too good to be true. Which, of course, it was.

Who can tell – from the outside – why a marriage breaks up? It is hard enough to tell from the inside which partner has the genuine grievance; which partner was the philanderer; and which partner was uncaring.

The Tamil press, which sold millions of extra copies because of the Kamal Haasan-Sarika break-up, has it own version which goes like this: shortly after Sarika got pregnant, Kamal Haasan embarked on another affair, with the actress Gautami. Sarika did not know about it and even went on to become great friends with Gautami.

Then, Gautami got tired of playing second fiddle and wandered off to get married. Kamal Haasan was devastated and tried to woo her back. And perhaps Gautami relented but by then, Kamal Haasan was seeing someone else anyway. Eventually he made it clear to Sarika that she was no longer required. (About the breakup of his first marriage, Kamal Haasan had told an interviewer: “It is like bad food. If your body rejects it then it will be passed out of your system.” Presumably, the same biology applied to his marriage to Sarika.) Sarika moved out. Kamal Haasan told the press that he had been treated badly at home. (The food was never ready on time!) Journalists “sympathetic to him” (as good a euphemism as any) wrote that Sarika was demanding huge amounts of alimony. And soon his girlfriend moved in with him.

It was at that stage that Sarika, at 43, moved back to Bombay, rented an apartment in Bandra, and tried to start life all over again, going back to where she had begun in 1964: as an actress looking for work. Sarika’s rented flat in Bombay, 2006. It is late in the night. A screening of Parzania has just ended at the nearby Dimple preview theatre. Some members of the audience and the director, Rahul Dholakia, have ended up at Sarika’s home for coffee and to discuss the film and her performance in it.

http://www.hindustantimes.com/News-Feed/Entertainment/Girl-Interrupted/Article1-571742.aspx

There is one difference this "moron" is forgetting. Everyone will smell bad food BEFORE eating, while marriages become bad afterwards wonly. The cook did not stir the pot well and prevent it from going bad... and he use the same stirrer to mix different pots and thus the original food gets spoiled.

LOL can't he afford a cook. He is really a psychopath. Gives stupid analogies about bad marriages and shoots crappy movies. I wasted $15 for that stupid crappy movie.

I join this motley group of aunties to condemn kamal hasan who appears to be a major douche.

Rishi wrote:This stupid actor has loads of money and he can be live-in relationships with any number of women he wants. He does not have to care about what anyone thinks.

I wonder how many men or women in Chennai who belong to the middle class can afford to do that. The neighbors and relatives will shun them.

And he chooses women who got no family back up...Sarika had no parents...same with Gauthami...so that they won't run away soon. Very manipulative man. Bad hubby..bad father..irresponsible son...total waste!!

Rekz wrote:

Rishi wrote:This stupid actor has loads of money and he can be live-in relationships with any number of women he wants. He does not have to care about what anyone thinks.

I wonder how many men or women in Chennai who belong to the middle class can afford to do that. The neighbors and relatives will shun them.

And he chooses women who got no family back up...Sarika had no parents...same with Gauthami...so that they won't run away soon. Very manipulative man. Bad hubby..bad father..irresponsible son...total waste!!

why do you say he is a bad father? He seems to have a good relationship with his daughters.

Rashmun wrote:

Rekz wrote:

Rishi wrote:This stupid actor has loads of money and he can be live-in relationships with any number of women he wants. He does not have to care about what anyone thinks.

I wonder how many men or women in Chennai who belong to the middle class can afford to do that. The neighbors and relatives will shun them.

And he chooses women who got no family back up...Sarika had no parents...same with Gauthami...so that they won't run away soon. Very manipulative man. Bad hubby..bad father..irresponsible son...total waste!!

why do you say he is a bad father? He seems to have a good relationship with his daughters.

His marriage suffered cos of his jollu behaviour.It must have caused pain to his kids na..
Moreover being a famous/successful persona/father he is now inculcating ideas in their mind on marriage and god ..so it's a life of suffering and confusion for them. Marriage might be a boring concept but then human being needs a speed breaker at one point of time.

Rekz wrote:

Rashmun wrote:

Rekz wrote:

Rishi wrote:This stupid actor has loads of money and he can be live-in relationships with any number of women he wants. He does not have to care about what anyone thinks.

I wonder how many men or women in Chennai who belong to the middle class can afford to do that. The neighbors and relatives will shun them.

And he chooses women who got no family back up...Sarika had no parents...same with Gauthami...so that they won't run away soon. Very manipulative man. Bad hubby..bad father..irresponsible son...total waste!!

why do you say he is a bad father? He seems to have a good relationship with his daughters.

His marriage suffered cos of his jollu behaviour.It must have caused pain to his kids na..
Moreover being a famous/successful persona/father he is now inculcating ideas in their mind on marriage and god ..so it's a life of suffering and confusion for them. Marriage might be a boring concept but then human being needs a speed breaker at one point of time.

Do you mean to say that marriage also needs a real acceleration sometimes?...

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

Rekz wrote:

Rashmun wrote:

Rekz wrote:

Rishi wrote:This stupid actor has loads of money and he can be live-in relationships with any number of women he wants. He does not have to care about what anyone thinks.

I wonder how many men or women in Chennai who belong to the middle class can afford to do that. The neighbors and relatives will shun them.

And he chooses women who got no family back up...Sarika had no parents...same with Gauthami...so that they won't run away soon. Very manipulative man. Bad hubby..bad father..irresponsible son...total waste!!

why do you say he is a bad father? He seems to have a good relationship with his daughters.

His marriage suffered cos of his jollu behaviour.It must have caused pain to his kids na..
Moreover being a famous/successful persona/father he is now inculcating ideas in their mind on marriage and god ..so it's a life of suffering and confusion for them. Marriage might be a boring concept but then human being needs a speed breaker at one point of time.

Do you mean to say that marriage also needs a real acceleration sometimes?...

Like a downhill slope?