the embarrasing mom

by Guest Sat Jun 22, 2013 9:10 am

Son had field day in school yesterday. Was a bright sunny day. I took the sunscreen out for him, and went upstairs to get ready, telling him that papa or I will spray it on him depending on whoever was dropping him, and told him to remind K in case K was.

Well, as it turned out, he didn't remind K. So now when I came downstairs, I got on K's case. Asked him to take it with him when he goes to see son's field day. K wasn't sure if he would go. So I asked if he could go to the school right then and put the sunscreen there. K refused, of course. I was like, 'Ok then I am going, I can't have him out in the sun all day w/o a sunscreen on'. K was like, 'It's only for two hours, and get over it already. It's not a big deal if he has a sunscreen on or not'.

But I didn't get over it, and went to the school on the way to work. The lady at the entrance called in son's class, and said on the speaker in his classroom, "Can you send Sagar down here, mom wants to put sunscreen on". I had obviously not thought this through. I didn't know this would happen, and I realized what I had done the moment she said it. I suspect she was also trying to suppress a grin.

Son came out smiling sheepishly, 'Why did you come, the kids were laughing'. So anyway, right in the middle of the school hallway, I sprayed the sunscreen on him. Luckily, he wasn't upset. He took it matter-of-factly. Just said how some kids were laughing. None of the kids saw this anyway, and luckily, no one gave him grief over it later. Daughter was more mortified when she heard it later. She was like, 'oh mommy, how could you?'

Thinking back, I never thought I would be this kind of mom, I used to LAUGH at over-protective parents. But I think I now get what drives them in doing what they do. Having said that, will make sure I either don't do this again, or I make up some other story so that when they are calling him out in school, something cool gets announced like 'Mom wants the gold medal back', and not, 'mom wants to put sunscreen on him'.

by southindian Sat Jun 22, 2013 9:45 am

Vidya Bagchi wrote:Son had field day in school yesterday. Was a bright sunny day. I took the sunscreen out for him, and went upstairs to get ready, telling him that papa or I will spray it on him depending on whoever was dropping him, and told him to remind K in case K was.

Well, as it turned out, he didn't remind K. So now when I came downstairs, I got on K's case. Asked him to take it with him when he goes to see son's field day. K wasn't sure if he would go. So I asked if he could go to the school right then and put the sunscreen there. K refused, of course. I was like, 'Ok then I am going, I can't have him out in the sun all day w/o a sunscreen on'. K was like, 'It's only for two hours, and get over it already. It's not a big deal if he has a sunscreen on or not'.

But I didn't get over it, and went to the school on the way to work. The lady at the entrance called in son's class, and said on the speaker in his classroom, "Can you send Sagar down here, mom wants to put sunscreen on". I had obviously not thought this through. I didn't know this would happen, and I realized what I had done the moment she said it. I suspect she was also trying to suppress a grin.

Son came out smiling sheepishly, 'Why did you come, the kids were laughing'. So anyway, right in the middle of the school hallway, I sprayed the sunscreen on him. Luckily, he wasn't upset. He took it matter-of-factly. Just said how some kids were laughing. None of the kids saw this anyway, and luckily, no one gave him grief over it later. Daughter was more mortified when she heard it later. She was like, 'oh mommy, how could you?'

Thinking back, I never thought I would be this kind of mom, I used to LAUGH at over-protective parents. But I think I now get what drives them in doing what they do. Having said that, will make sure I either don't do this again, or I make up some other story so that when they are calling him out in school, something cool gets announced like 'Mom wants the gold medal back', and not, 'mom wants to put sunscreen on him'.

K is right.

It's beauty, copycat, following others pressure for Indians. That's all.

by Jebediah Mburuburu Sat Jun 22, 2013 9:54 am

southindian wrote:
Vidya Bagchi wrote:Son had field day in school yesterday. Was a bright sunny day. I took the sunscreen out for him, and went upstairs to get ready, telling him that papa or I will spray it on him depending on whoever was dropping him, and told him to remind K in case K was.

Well, as it turned out, he didn't remind K. So now when I came downstairs, I got on K's case. Asked him to take it with him when he goes to see son's field day. K wasn't sure if he would go. So I asked if he could go to the school right then and put the sunscreen there. K refused, of course. I was like, 'Ok then I am going, I can't have him out in the sun all day w/o a sunscreen on'. K was like, 'It's only for two hours, and get over it already. It's not a big deal if he has a sunscreen on or not'.

But I didn't get over it, and went to the school on the way to work. The lady at the entrance called in son's class, and said on the speaker in his classroom, "Can you send Sagar down here, mom wants to put sunscreen on". I had obviously not thought this through. I didn't know this would happen, and I realized what I had done the moment she said it. I suspect she was also trying to suppress a grin.

Son came out smiling sheepishly, 'Why did you come, the kids were laughing'. So anyway, right in the middle of the school hallway, I sprayed the sunscreen on him. Luckily, he wasn't upset. He took it matter-of-factly. Just said how some kids were laughing. None of the kids saw this anyway, and luckily, no one gave him grief over it later. Daughter was more mortified when she heard it later. She was like, 'oh mommy, how could you?'

Thinking back, I never thought I would be this kind of mom, I used to LAUGH at over-protective parents. But I think I now get what drives them in doing what they do. Having said that, will make sure I either don't do this again, or I make up some other story so that when they are calling him out in school, something cool gets announced like 'Mom wants the gold medal back', and not, 'mom wants to put sunscreen on him'.

K is right.

It's beauty, copycat, following others pressure for Indians. That's all.

what does "it's copycat for indians" mean?

by MaxEntropy_Man Sat Jun 22, 2013 9:54 am

southindian wrote:
K is right.

It's beauty, copycat, following others pressure for Indians. That's all.

hindi mein bolo, hindi mein bolo. mushkil se angrezi mein likhne ki koyi zaroorat nahin.

by Jebediah Mburuburu Sat Jun 22, 2013 10:22 am

MaxEntropy_Man wrote:
southindian wrote:
K is right.

It's beauty, copycat, following others pressure for Indians. That's all.

hindi mein bolo, hindi mein bolo. mushkil se angrezi mein likhne ki koyi zaroorat nahin.

what's "zaroorat?"

by Rishi Sat Jun 22, 2013 10:28 am

VB,

I found a good man for you.

Not only he will be a great husband for you but also an excellent dad for your kids.

Let me know if you are interested.

by southindian Sat Jun 22, 2013 10:33 am

MaxEntropy_Man wrote:
southindian wrote:
K is right.

It's beauty, copycat, following others pressure for Indians. That's all.

hindi mein bolo, hindi mein bolo. mushkil se angrezi mein likhne ki koyi zaroorat nahin.

Sorry Max, I didn't get your Tamil

by Marathadi-Saamiyaar Sat Jun 22, 2013 10:34 am

Vidya Bagchi wrote:Son had field day in school yesterday. Was a bright sunny day. I took the sunscreen out for him, and went upstairs to get ready, telling him that papa or I will spray it on him depending on whoever was dropping him, and told him to remind K in case K was.

Well, as it turned out, he didn't remind K. So now when I came downstairs, I got on K's case. Asked him to take it with him when he goes to see son's field day. K wasn't sure if he would go. So I asked if he could go to the school right then and put the sunscreen there. K refused, of course. I was like, 'Ok then I am going, I can't have him out in the sun all day w/o a sunscreen on'. K was like, 'It's only for two hours, and get over it already. It's not a big deal if he has a sunscreen on or not'.

....

Thinking back, I never thought I would be this kind of mom, I used to LAUGH at over-protective parents. But I think I now get what drives them in doing what they do. Having said that, will make sure I either don't do this again, or I make up some other story so that when they are calling him out in school, something cool gets announced like 'Mom wants the gold medal back', and not, 'mom wants to put sunscreen on him'.

You and K are an ideal Couple...

When I "predict" what one would do...(like MAX deriding me how I could be so CONFIDENT and sure)...it is based on my 103 years of experience. What I notice is there is a remarkable conditioning of people by culture, and they all tend to behave in a very similar way. We may all be different and yet we are all similar.

Do this to your son again in another 5 years...and surely a couple of great girls will come after him - while the rest will make fun of him...

by Marathadi-Saamiyaar Sat Jun 22, 2013 10:35 am

southindian wrote:
MaxEntropy_Man wrote:

hindi mein bolo, hindi mein bolo. mushkil se angrezi mein likhne ki koyi zaroorat nahin.

Sorry Max, I didn't get your Tamil

I have a strong suspicion that MAX is teaching his dog hindi.

by Jebediah Mburuburu Sat Jun 22, 2013 10:37 am

Rishi wrote:VB,

I found a good man for you.

Not only he will be a great husband for you but also an excellent dad for your kids.

Let me know if you are interested.

edited second sentence: "not only will he be a great husband for you, but he will also be an excellent dad for your kids."

by southindian Sat Jun 22, 2013 10:40 am

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:
southindian wrote:
MaxEntropy_Man wrote:

hindi mein bolo, hindi mein bolo. mushkil se angrezi mein likhne ki koyi zaroorat nahin.

Sorry Max, I didn't get your Tamil

I have a strong suspicion that MAX is teaching his dog hindi.

LOL!

Oh no. Max following JM now?

So he's teaching Hindi, so his dog can snoop on Hindi conversations. Nice!

by confuzzled dude Sat Jun 22, 2013 11:06 am

Vidya Bagchi wrote:Son had field day in school yesterday. Was a bright sunny day. I took the sunscreen out for him, and went upstairs to get ready, telling him that papa or I will spray it on him depending on whoever was dropping him, and told him to remind K in case K was.

Well, as it turned out, he didn't remind K. So now when I came downstairs, I got on K's case. Asked him to take it with him when he goes to see son's field day. K wasn't sure if he would go. So I asked if he could go to the school right then and put the sunscreen there. K refused, of course. I was like, 'Ok then I am going, I can't have him out in the sun all day w/o a sunscreen on'. K was like, 'It's only for two hours, and get over it already. It's not a big deal if he has a sunscreen on or not'.

But I didn't get over it, and went to the school on the way to work. The lady at the entrance called in son's class, and said on the speaker in his classroom, "Can you send Sagar down here, mom wants to put sunscreen on". I had obviously not thought this through. I didn't know this would happen, and I realized what I had done the moment she said it. I suspect she was also trying to suppress a grin.

Son came out smiling sheepishly, 'Why did you come, the kids were laughing'. So anyway, right in the middle of the school hallway, I sprayed the sunscreen on him. Luckily, he wasn't upset. He took it matter-of-factly. Just said how some kids were laughing. None of the kids saw this anyway, and luckily, no one gave him grief over it later. Daughter was more mortified when she heard it later. She was like, 'oh mommy, how could you?'

Thinking back, I never thought I would be this kind of mom, I used to LAUGH at over-protective parents. But I think I now get what drives them in doing what they do. Having said that, will make sure I either don't do this again, or I make up some other story so that when they are calling him out in school, something cool gets announced like 'Mom wants the gold medal back', and not, 'mom wants to put sunscreen on him'.

I thought schools are out for the summer!! I think what you've done is silly :)I suggest you not to repeat this.

by Guest Sat Jun 22, 2013 11:19 am

Rishi wrote:VB,

I found a good man for you.

Not only he will be a great husband for you but also an excellent dad for your kids.

Let me know if you are interested.

lol, that's cute Rishi. But you don't even know me...anyway, is he into big women?

by Marathadi-Saamiyaar Sat Jun 22, 2013 11:31 am

confuzzled dude wrote:
I thought schools are out for the summer!! I think what you've done is silly :)I suggest you not to repeat this.

I dont think so.... She did what any (good) mom would do naturally for her kids (Desi mom - and that too one that is divorced). It sends a message to those who saw this - the school office, teacher, other kids and son -that this kid has a caring mom and the will be "watched" and taken just a little extra care all the time.

1. That teacher and kids would have spread word about VB by now
2. School knows mom cares and if the kid does any hanky panky, they will call her.
3. Sonny will remember this for a long time and repeat it to his kids - dont be surprised if he did the same to his kid.
4. who knows...some single dad with kids might end up winking at VB... Wink

5. VB can beat the crap out of her son for some reason, and even if the cops come after her, she will have numerous witnesses to come to her aid.

I once heard that a mom drove 200 miles to a class and put balloons in the class for her son's birthday before he walked in. This was some college Senior classroom (22, 23 yr olds) and quite a few girls looked at him with envy. This one was apparently an Amerikaan mom.

Well done VB. You did the right thing. Continue this (alter the method with age), and you will keep the kids connected to you.

by southindian Sat Jun 22, 2013 11:59 am

Vidya Bagchi wrote:
Rishi wrote:VB,

I found a good man for you.

Not only he will be a great husband for you but also an excellent dad for your kids.

Let me know if you are interested.

lol, that's cute Rishi. But you don't even know me...anyway, is he into big women?

109 pounds is not big. Too confusing?

by Guest Sat Jun 22, 2013 12:05 pm

by Rishi Sat Jun 22, 2013 12:32 pm

Vidya Bagchi wrote:
Rishi wrote:VB,

I found a good man for you.

Not only he will be a great husband for you but also an excellent dad for your kids.

Let me know if you are interested.

lol, that's cute Rishi. But you don't even know me...anyway, is he into big women?

VB,

Good news and bad news.

I talked to him. I told him all the great things you have going for you.

Good News: He is very much interested.

Bad News: He is a beedi worker. He wants $500K as dowry.

Please let me know.

by confuzzled dude Sat Jun 22, 2013 12:37 pm

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:
confuzzled dude wrote:
I thought schools are out for the summer!! I think what you've done is silly :)I suggest you not to repeat this.

I dont think so.... She did what any (good) mom would do naturally for her kids (Desi mom - and that too one that is divorced). It sends a message to those who saw this - the school office, teacher, other kids and son -that this kid has a caring mom and the will be "watched" and taken just a little extra care all the time.

1. That teacher and kids would have spread word about VB by now
2. School knows mom cares and if the kid does any hanky panky, they will call her.
3. Sonny will remember this for a long time and repeat it to his kids - dont be surprised if he did the same to his kid.
4. who knows...some single dad with kids might end up winking at VB...
5. VB can beat the crap out of her son for some reason, and even if the cops come after her, she will have numerous witnesses to come to her aid.

I once heard that a mom drove 200 miles to a class and put balloons in the class for her son's birthday before he walked in. This was some college Senior classroom (22, 23 yr olds) and quite a few girls looked at him with envy. This one was apparently an Amerikaan mom.

Well done VB. You did the right thing. Continue this (alter the method with age), and you will keep the kids connected to you.

I don't know man, as bad as tiger moms are they demand their kids to stand up for themselves OTOH overprotective parents make their kids depend on their parents for even trivial tasks thus make them less independent and probably setting them for a failure.

Schools will call whoever they can reach out to, in case of hanky-panky. The county I live in Police officer makes the judgment call on child abuse, if he sees any evidence of physical abuse or feels such, will put them behind the bars.

by Guest Sat Jun 22, 2013 1:12 pm

If it were me, I wouldn't have worried so much about the kiddo not having his sun screen on. I would've probably worried if he didn't take his cap or helmet, something to protect his head from the scotching sun for two hours. Don't want him to get a sun stroke and all.

by Guest Sat Jun 22, 2013 2:36 pm

he refused to wear the hat. the only thing from the list that he readily took was the water bottle, as he knows he gets thirsty often, and also coz they let them refill the bottles with lemonade there.

by Marathadi-Saamiyaar Sat Jun 22, 2013 2:45 pm

Vidya Bagchi wrote:he refused to wear the hat. the only thing from the list that he readily took was the water bottle, as he knows he gets thirsty often, and also coz they let them refill the bottles with lemonade there.

and you caved in????

Whatever happened to your "Look" You are losing your "powers"

by Guest Sat Jun 22, 2013 3:02 pm

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:
Vidya Bagchi wrote:he refused to wear the hat. the only thing from the list that he readily took was the water bottle, as he knows he gets thirsty often, and also coz they let them refill the bottles with lemonade there.

and you caved in????

Whatever happened to your "Look" You are losing your "powers"

Oh, he is very stubborn. He is very sweet, but he is downright stubborn. And he does make me look like one of those helpless moms. e.g. if it was raining, and I would be dropping them at the bus stop, and say they needed my umbrella that day, with daughter it used to be simple. I would come out, she would come out, I would hold the umbrella, and we would walk together. All poised and nice. In his case, he waits for me, gets out of the car with me, and then he RUNS. Not to tease me or anything. That's his normal pace. So what do I do? I run too! Trying to keep pace with him, and trying to cover him all the while. Feeling stupid doing that, and I am sure looking funny too. And ya, both of us would get wet too.

by Kris Sat Jun 22, 2013 10:26 pm

Vidya Bagchi wrote:...Thinking back, I never thought I would be this kind of mom, I used to LAUGH at over-protective parents. But I think I now get what drives them in doing what they do. Having said that, will make sure I either don't do this again, or I make up some other story so that when they are calling him out in school, something cool gets announced like 'Mom wants the gold medal back', and not, 'mom wants to put sunscreen on him'.

>>>>Comes with the territory. Here is the deal-io-- let the small battles slide. Lack of sunscreen for a couple of hours is not the end of the world. Save your strength for the bigger battles. More importantly, the secret to success in this overprotection game is do it in way they don't realize it. Keep working on it, you will fine-tune it if you make the effort Smile

by MaxEntropy_Man Sun Jun 23, 2013 6:02 am

Jebediah Mburuburu wrote:
MaxEntropy_Man wrote:
southindian wrote:
K is right.

It's beauty, copycat, following others pressure for Indians. That's all.

hindi mein bolo, hindi mein bolo. mushkil se angrezi mein likhne ki koyi zaroorat nahin.
what's "zaroorat?"

did you change your handle or is this an impostor? zaroorat means necessity.

by Jebediah Mburuburu Sun Jun 23, 2013 10:09 am

MaxEntropy_Man wrote:
Jebediah Mburuburu wrote:
MaxEntropy_Man wrote:
southindian wrote:
K is right.

It's beauty, copycat, following others pressure for Indians. That's all.

hindi mein bolo, hindi mein bolo. mushkil se angrezi mein likhne ki koyi zaroorat nahin.
what's "zaroorat?"

did you change your handle or is this an impostor? zaroorat means necessity.

ah, thanks for the answer to my Q.

yes, i changed my handle. my laptop was disabled for a few days by "lot many 'virii'" - that's like 'penii,' the plural of 'penius' - which then had to be "deviriied" by a computer professional sporting lot many tattoos on his arm. by then, "jer-ji's" password, which i didn't remember anymore, had been wiped out, and it was easier to register again as jebediah. those who want to express faux respect towards me may now call me "jeb-ji," and to express fondness, "jebby" or "jebu."

did you post a photo of the puppy? if you did, give me a link.

by Hellsangel Sun Jun 23, 2013 9:11 pm

Jebediah Mburuburu wrote:

yes, i changed my handle. my laptop was disabled for a few days by "lot many 'virii'"

Achachan Jebz, when you have a one-night-stand with strange websites, it is always advisable to use protection. Are you sure the Arlington Public Library was not closed for renovations?

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