telugu-kansan in insular california

Propagandhi711 wrote:coca isnt any telugu lastname I'm familiar with or heard of before, could be kannadiga. this douche is excessively sentimental & over sensitive..also probably lactates and has monthly mood swings.

MaxEntropy_Man wrote:how about koka subba rao the former chief justice of india?

MaxEntropy_Man wrote:http://www.8asians.com/2013/06/25/double-minority-south-indian-in-a-predominantly-north-indian-minority-community/

confuzzled dude wrote:

MaxEntropy_Man wrote:http://www.8asians.com/2013/06/25/double-minority-south-indian-in-a-predominantly-north-indian-minority-community/

I'd say majority of Telugus brought up in residual A.P would've felt similarly (about Naan, Garba); at least was the case 10-15 years ago,

Propagandhi711 wrote:

confuzzled dude wrote:

MaxEntropy_Man wrote:http://www.8asians.com/2013/06/25/double-minority-south-indian-in-a-predominantly-north-indian-minority-community/

I'd say majority of Telugus brought up in residual A.P would've felt similarly (about Naan, Garba); at least was the case 10-15 years ago,

majority of telugus brought up in residual A.P would feel even more disconnected to the culture of hyd with the language, food and customs even though it's supposed to be filled with majority telugu speakers. that would be true even now. so?

confuzzled dude wrote:

Propagandhi711 wrote:

confuzzled dude wrote:

MaxEntropy_Man wrote:http://www.8asians.com/2013/06/25/double-minority-south-indian-in-a-predominantly-north-indian-minority-community/

I'd say majority of Telugus brought up in residual A.P would've felt similarly (about Naan, Garba); at least was the case 10-15 years ago,

majority of telugus brought up in residual A.P would feel even more disconnected to the culture of hyd with the language, food and customs even though it's supposed to be filled with majority telugu speakers. that would be true even now. so?

Would it be fair to ask those errabassu guys to prove their teluguness to Hyderabadis? I guess that was the author's point. Whatever happened to bhinnatvam lo ekatvam?

confuzzled dude wrote:

Propagandhi711 wrote:

confuzzled dude wrote:

MaxEntropy_Man wrote:http://www.8asians.com/2013/06/25/double-minority-south-indian-in-a-predominantly-north-indian-minority-community/

I'd say majority of Telugus brought up in residual A.P would've felt similarly (about Naan, Garba); at least was the case 10-15 years ago,

majority of telugus brought up in residual A.P would feel even more disconnected to the culture of hyd with the language, food and customs even though it's supposed to be filled with majority telugu speakers. that would be true even now. so?

Would it be fair to ask those errabassu guys to prove their teluguness to Hyderabadis? I guess that was the author's point. Whatever happened to bhinnatvam lo ekatvam?

Kinnera wrote:

confuzzled dude wrote:

Propagandhi711 wrote:

confuzzled dude wrote:

MaxEntropy_Man wrote:http://www.8asians.com/2013/06/25/double-minority-south-indian-in-a-predominantly-north-indian-minority-community/

I'd say majority of Telugus brought up in residual A.P would've felt similarly (about Naan, Garba); at least was the case 10-15 years ago,

majority of telugus brought up in residual A.P would feel even more disconnected to the culture of hyd with the language, food and customs even though it's supposed to be filled with majority telugu speakers. that would be true even now. so?

Would it be fair to ask those errabassu guys to prove their teluguness to Hyderabadis? I guess that was the author's point. Whatever happened to bhinnatvam lo ekatvam?

Most errabassu ppl are smart and savvy. They learn and adapt, not whine and whine. If they keep whining they remain the erranassu guys forever and whine forever. Btw, this kid is an ABC(yeah C)D kid from Kansas, not from some remote region in AP

MaxEntropy_Man wrote:

confuzzled dude wrote:

Propagandhi711 wrote:

confuzzled dude wrote:

MaxEntropy_Man wrote:http://www.8asians.com/2013/06/25/double-minority-south-indian-in-a-predominantly-north-indian-minority-community/

I'd say majority of Telugus brought up in residual A.P would've felt similarly (about Naan, Garba); at least was the case 10-15 years ago,

majority of telugus brought up in residual A.P would feel even more disconnected to the culture of hyd with the language, food and customs even though it's supposed to be filled with majority telugu speakers. that would be true even now. so?

Would it be fair to ask those errabassu guys to prove their teluguness to Hyderabadis? I guess that was the author's point. Whatever happened to bhinnatvam lo ekatvam?

bhinna - fraction, division etc. eka - one, unity etc. so bhinnatvam lo ekatvam is 'unity in diversity'?

it's interesting that a fellow whose parents have grounded him well in their culture is being called a ghetto resident, but similar standards and terms are never applied to northindians who can't even figure out the difference between various southern indian languages when they are spoken around them.

Kinnera wrote:

confuzzled dude wrote:

Propagandhi711 wrote:

confuzzled dude wrote:

MaxEntropy_Man wrote:http://www.8asians.com/2013/06/25/double-minority-south-indian-in-a-predominantly-north-indian-minority-community/

I'd say majority of Telugus brought up in residual A.P would've felt similarly (about Naan, Garba); at least was the case 10-15 years ago,

majority of telugus brought up in residual A.P would feel even more disconnected to the culture of hyd with the language, food and customs even though it's supposed to be filled with majority telugu speakers. that would be true even now. so?

Would it be fair to ask those errabassu guys to prove their teluguness to Hyderabadis? I guess that was the author's point. Whatever happened to bhinnatvam lo ekatvam?

Most errabassu ppl are smart and savvy. They learn and adapt, not whine and whine. If they keep whining they remain the erranassu guys forever and whine forever. Btw, this kid is an ABC(yeah C)D kid from Kansas, not from some remote region in AP

confuzzled dude wrote:

Kinnera wrote:

confuzzled dude wrote:

Propagandhi711 wrote:

confuzzled dude wrote:
I'd say majority of Telugus brought up in residual A.P would've felt similarly (about Naan, Garba); at least was the case 10-15 years ago,

majority of telugus brought up in residual A.P would feel even more disconnected to the culture of hyd with the language, food and customs even though it's supposed to be filled with majority telugu speakers. that would be true even now. so?

Would it be fair to ask those errabassu guys to prove their teluguness to Hyderabadis? I guess that was the author's point. Whatever happened to bhinnatvam lo ekatvam?

Most errabassu ppl are smart and savvy. They learn and adapt, not whine and whine. If they keep whining they remain the erranassu guys forever and whine forever. Btw, this kid is an ABC(yeah C)D kid from Kansas, not from some remote region in AP

Your post pretty much proves who is the confused soul. The point is not about adapting oneself rather having to prove his Indianness or roots in his case; Not sure why you keep referring it as whining, if anything this proves that the other party is as ignorant (or has as limited exposure) as this person on Indian cultural diversity.

MaxEntropy_Man wrote:

Kinnera wrote:

confuzzled dude wrote:

Propagandhi711 wrote:

confuzzled dude wrote:
I'd say majority of Telugus brought up in residual A.P would've felt similarly (about Naan, Garba); at least was the case 10-15 years ago,

majority of telugus brought up in residual A.P would feel even more disconnected to the culture of hyd with the language, food and customs even though it's supposed to be filled with majority telugu speakers. that would be true even now. so?

Would it be fair to ask those errabassu guys to prove their teluguness to Hyderabadis? I guess that was the author's point. Whatever happened to bhinnatvam lo ekatvam?

Most errabassu ppl are smart and savvy. They learn and adapt, not whine and whine. If they keep whining they remain the erranassu guys forever and whine forever. Btw, this kid is an ABC(yeah C)D kid from Kansas, not from some remote region in AP

why would a kansan-telugu be expected to know about bhangra and garba? he is a telugu from kansas. he says he knows more about carnatic music and telugu cuisine (expected), and i am sure he knows a lot about kansas.

Kinnera wrote:

MaxEntropy_Man wrote:

Kinnera wrote:

confuzzled dude wrote:

Propagandhi711 wrote:

majority of telugus brought up in residual A.P would feel even more disconnected to the culture of hyd with the language, food and customs even though it's supposed to be filled with majority telugu speakers. that would be true even now. so?

Would it be fair to ask those errabassu guys to prove their teluguness to Hyderabadis? I guess that was the author's point. Whatever happened to bhinnatvam lo ekatvam?

Most errabassu ppl are smart and savvy. They learn and adapt, not whine and whine. If they keep whining they remain the erranassu guys forever and whine forever. Btw, this kid is an ABC(yeah C)D kid from Kansas, not from some remote region in AP

why would a kansan-telugu be expected to know about bhangra and garba? he is a telugu from kansas. he says he knows more about carnatic music and telugu cuisine (expected), and i am sure he knows a lot about kansas.

Knowing more about carnatic music and telugu cuisine doesn't mean that he shouldn't know about or learn about bhangra and garba.

confuzzled dude wrote:

Propagandhi711 wrote:

confuzzled dude wrote:

MaxEntropy_Man wrote:http://www.8asians.com/2013/06/25/double-minority-south-indian-in-a-predominantly-north-indian-minority-community/

I'd say majority of Telugus brought up in residual A.P would've felt similarly (about Naan, Garba); at least was the case 10-15 years ago,

majority of telugus brought up in residual A.P would feel even more disconnected to the culture of hyd with the language, food and customs even though it's supposed to be filled with majority telugu speakers. that would be true even now. so?

Would it be fair to ask those errabassu guys to prove their teluguness to Hyderabadis? I guess that was the author's point. Whatever happened to bhinnatvam lo ekatvam?

MaxEntropy_Man wrote:he is a thinker. writes thoughtfully about things that matter to him:

http://www.8asians.com/2013/06/03/freedom-of-assimilation/

Kinnera wrote:

MaxEntropy_Man wrote:he is a thinker. writes thoughtfully about things that matter to him:

http://www.8asians.com/2013/06/03/freedom-of-assimilation/

Even Unabomber was a thinker, but the guy couldn't assimilate.

Kinnera wrote:'Boo hoo hooo! I grew up in a telugu ghetto, was never exposed to anything outside of that ghetto, I know nothing about the rest of India and hence feel like an alien in an indian club. So I whine, whine and whine and whine some more'
Tell this kid to append this article to a college application. His application is going to be dumped in trash without a second thought.

swapna wrote:

Kinnera wrote:'Boo hoo hooo! I grew up in a telugu ghetto, was never exposed to anything outside of that ghetto, I know nothing about the rest of India and hence feel like an alien in an indian club. So I whine, whine and whine and whine some more'
Tell this kid to append this article to a college application. His application is going to be dumped in trash without a second thought.

apparently, what shocked that student was that "the rest of india" -- indeed, all of india -- was represented by bhangra, garish lehngas, inane bollywood movies, and tandoori chicken.

he would be even more shocked to learn that your loftiest aspiration is to get a northindian to consider you worthy of some social interaction, even if that is aimed at finding out if you're as "dark and ugly" as the "typical" telugu he has in mind.

nevada wrote:He does make some valid points but some of his claims seem unbelievable. In small towns in the US, motel owners, gas station owners, etc are big sponsors of "desi" cultural events. Given that they are mostly Gujarati and Punjabi respectively, desi cultural events are Bhangra, Dandia, etc. I can't believe he never attended even one such event in his life.

nevada wrote:He does make some valid points but some of his claims seem unbelievable. In small towns in the US, motel owners, gas station owners, etc are big sponsors of "desi" cultural events. Given that they are mostly Gujarati and Punjabi respectively, desi cultural events are Bhangra, Dandia, etc. I can't believe he never attended even one such event in his life.

Secondly, his claim of not knowing "chana". The first time I heard "chana" was from my Andhra friend who called what we call "chole" as "kabuli chana". So it is surprising his parents never fed him any "chana" in his life. 

And then he finds the greeting "Namaskar" not to his liking? How different is it from Namaskaram or Namaste? 

But those details aside, I agree with the essence of what he says. He doesn't seem to like being categorized as something he is not. Some of us are more tolerant of others' ignorance of Indian sub cultures and he is not. That is his choice as much as it is our choice to "blend" in.

MaxEntropy_Man wrote:

nevada wrote:He does make some valid points but some of his claims seem unbelievable. In small towns in the US, motel owners, gas station owners, etc are big sponsors of "desi" cultural events. Given that they are mostly Gujarati and Punjabi respectively, desi cultural events are Bhangra, Dandia, etc. I can't believe he never attended even one such event in his life.

there is only so much time in a child's schedule between academics, sports, and other extra curricular activities. when it comes to choosing to spend time and money on cultural activities -- the choices are pretty clear, one has to pick some combination of bharathanatyam/kuchipudi, carnatic music, religious instruction and language classes and the bollywood thingamajig.  many parents i know give the bollywood thing a complete miss. OTOH many parents i know also give all the rest except bollywood a complete miss too. it completely depends on what the parents consider elements of their culture, that is worth passing on to their kids.  

having said all that, i do understand a certain pressure for kids to fit in and identify with the majority. after all they are children.  growing up is all about resisting that when it's in their better interest and to grow internally. looks like this guy's parents did a fine job in raising a wonderful young man.

Seva Lamberdar wrote:

nevada wrote:He does make some valid points but some of his claims seem unbelievable. In small towns in the US, motel owners, gas station owners, etc are big sponsors of "desi" cultural events. Given that they are mostly Gujarati and Punjabi respectively, desi cultural events are Bhangra, Dandia, etc. I can't believe he never attended even one such event in his life.

Secondly, his claim of not knowing "chana". The first time I heard "chana" was from my Andhra friend who called what we call "chole" as "kabuli chana". So it is surprising his parents never fed him any "chana" in his life. 

And then he finds the greeting "Namaskar" not to his liking? How different is it from Namaskaram or Namaste? 

But those details aside, I agree with the essence of what he says. He doesn't seem to like being categorized as something he is not. Some of us are more tolerant of others' ignorance of Indian sub cultures and he is not. That is his choice as much as it is our choice to "blend" in.

In my language (Pahadi), there is a saying for this type of guys who go out of their village or attend a good school in English medium etc. and then they start criticising and putting down unnecessarily their own culture, language and customs etc.,
"desi khota thane jayee aaya" ... "the local ass has been to the police station (to deliver goods for the police chief)."

nevada wrote:

MaxEntropy_Man wrote:

nevada wrote:He does make some valid points but some of his claims seem unbelievable. In small towns in the US, motel owners, gas station owners, etc are big sponsors of "desi" cultural events. Given that they are mostly Gujarati and Punjabi respectively, desi cultural events are Bhangra, Dandia, etc. I can't believe he never attended even one such event in his life.

there is only so much time in a child's schedule between academics, sports, and other extra curricular activities. when it comes to choosing to spend time and money on cultural activities -- the choices are pretty clear, one has to pick some combination of bharathanatyam/kuchipudi, carnatic music, religious instruction and language classes and the bollywood thingamajig.  many parents i know give the bollywood thing a complete miss. OTOH many parents i know also give all the rest except bollywood a complete miss too. it completely depends on what the parents consider elements of their culture, that is worth passing on to their kids.  

having said all that, i do understand a certain pressure for kids to fit in and identify with the majority. after all they are children.  growing up is all about resisting that when it's in their better interest and to grow internally. looks like this guy's parents did a fine job in raising a wonderful young man.

If he never attended a bhangra/dandia that is fine but atleast he would have seen fliers for such events at his local desi grocery store? It must have been remarkable circumstances the young man grew up in that he never came across the word bhangra until he attended that desi gathering at the university.

confuzzled dude wrote:

nevada wrote:
If he never attended a bhangra/dandia that is fine but atleast he would have seen fliers for such events at his local desi grocery store? It must have been remarkable circumstances the young man grew up in that he never came across the word bhangra until he attended that desi gathering at the university.

Well.. he grew up in Kansas not in New York It would've been perfectly OKAY if he didn't hear about Kuchipudi either, after all he was raised in the US.

Kinnera wrote:

Edit: I went through some secondary essays for med school admissions. One of the common questions for most colleges was the diversity question. Students need to convince that they can adapt to any kind of situation, are interested in learning new things and can get along fine with any type of diverse group. That's a huge thing! Seems like no whiners are encouraged or appreciated.

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

Kinnera wrote:

Edit: I went through some secondary essays for med school admissions. One of the common questions for most colleges was the diversity question. Students need to convince that they can adapt to any kind of situation, are interested in learning new things and can get along fine with any type of diverse group. That's a huge thing! Seems like no whiners are encouraged or appreciated.

Ohhh...you still doing it?... so are you applying for this year? Did you write the essays?

Kinnera wrote:

swapna wrote:

Kinnera wrote:'Boo hoo hooo! I grew up in a telugu ghetto, was never exposed to anything outside of that ghetto, I know nothing about the rest of India and hence feel like an alien in an indian club. So I whine, whine and whine and whine some more'
Tell this kid to append this article to a college application. His application is going to be dumped in trash without a second thought.

apparently, what shocked that student was that "the rest of india" -- indeed, all of india -- was represented by bhangra, garish lehngas, inane bollywood movies, and tandoori chicken.

he would be even more shocked to learn that your loftiest aspiration is to get a northindian to consider you worthy of some social interaction, even if that is aimed at finding out if you're as "dark and ugly" as the "typical" telugu he has in mind.

Do you even know anything about Indian clubs in universities? Bhangras are as popular as Bharatanatyams (and bharatanatyam fusions) and dandiyas and garbas (both from gujarat).

The second part is your figment of imagination. Not everyone is as twisted as you are.

Edit: oh btw, lehengas are out of fashion now. The south indian half sarees (oni) are the current trend. Fashions keep changing and get recycled.

https://www.google.com/search?q=half+saree&client=firefox-a&hs=D7o&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&channel=sb&tbm=isch&tbo=u&source=univ&sa=X&ei=a3PWU_myAcypyATN3ILYCg&ved=0CD0QsAQ&biw=1920&bih=943

Kinnera wrote:

confuzzled dude wrote:

nevada wrote:
If he never attended a bhangra/dandia that is fine but atleast he would have seen fliers for such events at his local desi grocery store? It must have been remarkable circumstances the young man grew up in that he never came across the word bhangra until he attended that desi gathering at the university.

Well.. he grew up in Kansas not in New York It would've been perfectly OKAY if he didn't hear about Kuchipudi either, after all he was raised in the US.

It's perfectly fine if he didn't hear about Kuchipudi or Bhangra. But when he is exposed to those, he can at least show some interest and learn about them. If he is not interested in doing so, he can at least not whine and complain.

confuzzled dude wrote:

Kinnera wrote:

swapna wrote:

Kinnera wrote:'Boo hoo hooo! I grew up in a telugu ghetto, was never exposed to anything outside of that ghetto, I know nothing about the rest of India and hence feel like an alien in an indian club. So I whine, whine and whine and whine some more'
Tell this kid to append this article to a college application. His application is going to be dumped in trash without a second thought.

apparently, what shocked that student was that "the rest of india" -- indeed, all of india -- was represented by bhangra, garish lehngas, inane bollywood movies, and tandoori chicken.

he would be even more shocked to learn that your loftiest aspiration is to get a northindian to consider you worthy of some social interaction, even if that is aimed at finding out if you're as "dark and ugly" as the "typical" telugu he has in mind.

Do you even know anything about Indian clubs in universities? Bhangras are as popular as Bharatanatyams (and bharatanatyam fusions) and dandiyas and garbas (both from gujarat).

The second part is your figment of imagination. Not everyone is as twisted as you are.

Edit: oh btw, lehengas are out of fashion now. The south indian half sarees (oni) are the current trend. Fashions keep changing and get recycled.

https://www.google.com/search?q=half+saree&client=firefox-a&hs=D7o&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&channel=sb&tbm=isch&tbo=u&source=univ&sa=X&ei=a3PWU_myAcypyATN3ILYCg&ved=0CD0QsAQ&biw=1920&bih=943

duh! that's precisely what he blogged about.

Kinnera wrote:

Seva Lamberdar wrote:

nevada wrote:He does make some valid points but some of his claims seem unbelievable. In small towns in the US, motel owners, gas station owners, etc are big sponsors of "desi" cultural events. Given that they are mostly Gujarati and Punjabi respectively, desi cultural events are Bhangra, Dandia, etc. I can't believe he never attended even one such event in his life.

Secondly, his claim of not knowing "chana". The first time I heard "chana" was from my Andhra friend who called what we call "chole" as "kabuli chana". So it is surprising his parents never fed him any "chana" in his life. 

And then he finds the greeting "Namaskar" not to his liking? How different is it from Namaskaram or Namaste? 

But those details aside, I agree with the essence of what he says. He doesn't seem to like being categorized as something he is not. Some of us are more tolerant of others' ignorance of Indian sub cultures and he is not. That is his choice as much as it is our choice to "blend" in.

In my language (Pahadi), there is a saying for this type of guys who go out of their village or attend a good school in English medium etc. and then they start criticising and putting down unnecessarily their own culture, language and customs etc.,
"desi khota thane jayee aaya" ... "the local ass has been to the police station (to deliver goods for the police chief)."

It's one thing to blend in or not blend in, but another to whine, criticize and be sore about the ones they can't fit in with. Attitude matters.

Edit: I went through some secondary essays for med school admissions. One of the common questions for most colleges was the diversity question. Students need to convince that they can adapt to any kind of situation, are interested in learning new things and can get along fine with any type of diverse group. That's a huge thing! Seems like no whiners are encouraged or appreciated.

Kinnera wrote:Students growing up here don't have the north indian-south indian differences or biases unless they learn it at home from their parents.

confuzzled dude wrote:

Kinnera wrote:

confuzzled dude wrote:

nevada wrote:
If he never attended a bhangra/dandia that is fine but atleast he would have seen fliers for such events at his local desi grocery store? It must have been remarkable circumstances the young man grew up in that he never came across the word bhangra until he attended that desi gathering at the university.

Well.. he grew up in Kansas not in New York It would've been perfectly OKAY if he didn't hear about Kuchipudi either, after all he was raised in the US.

It's perfectly fine if he didn't hear about Kuchipudi or Bhangra. But when he is exposed to those, he can at least show some interest and learn about them. If he is not interested in doing so, he can at least not whine and complain.

You think this guy is whining too?
http://www.washingtonpost.com/local/education/traversing-two-dcs-from-dunbar-high-to-georgetown-university/2014/07/27/1409875a-1376-11e4-9285-4243a40ddc97_story.html

MaxEntropy_Man wrote:

Kinnera wrote:Students growing up here don't have the north indian-south indian differences or biases unless they learn it at home from their parents.

are students growing up here blind, deaf, devoid of taste buds, and so totally brainless as to be unable to discern differences between languages, accents, differences between musical styles, clothes etc?

Kinnera wrote:
So why is it such a problem? Students like what's enjoyable and what's easy to learn to do it themselves. Bhangras are popular because they are so energizing and fun. Bharatanatyam fusions are more popular than the classical numbers because they find fusions more enjoyable than classical. Dandias and garbas are popular because the steps are easy and anyone can learn them and dance. It's a group thing too and so all the more fun. Students growing up here don't have the north indian-south indian differences or biases unless they learn it at home from their parents.

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

Kinnera wrote:
So why is it such a problem? Students like what's enjoyable and what's easy to learn to do it themselves. Bhangras are popular because they are so energizing and fun. Bharatanatyam fusions are more popular than the classical numbers because they find fusions more enjoyable than classical. Dandias and garbas are popular because the steps are easy and anyone can learn them and dance. It's a group thing too and so all the more fun. Students growing up here don't have the north indian-south indian differences or biases unless they learn it at home from their parents.

They all know the broad differences. However, they dont argue and argue and recycle and recycle nor do they try to claim superiority over one another.

The parents tell their daughter the differences and who they should "associate with", with built-in hidden message of racial/linguistic differences. They are worried their daughter might bring home a UP Naarthie or a dark Tamilian.

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

Kinnera wrote:
So why is it such a problem? Students like what's enjoyable and what's easy to learn to do it themselves. Bhangras are popular because they are so energizing and fun. Bharatanatyam fusions are more popular than the classical numbers because they find fusions more enjoyable than classical. Dandias and garbas are popular because the steps are easy and anyone can learn them and dance. It's a group thing too and so all the more fun. Students growing up here don't have the north indian-south indian differences or biases unless they learn it at home from their parents.

They all know the broad differences. However, they dont argue and argue and recycle and recycle nor do they try to claim superiority over one another.

The parents tell their daughter the differences and who they should "associate with", with built-in hidden message of racial/linguistic differences. They are worried their daughter might bring home a UP Naarthie or a dark Tamilian.

nevada wrote:He does make some valid points but some of his claims seem unbelievable. In small towns in the US, motel owners, gas station owners, etc are big sponsors of "desi" cultural events. Given that they are mostly Gujarati and Punjabi respectively, desi cultural events are Bhangra, Dandia, etc. I can't believe he never attended even one such event in his life.

Secondly, his claim of not knowing "chana". The first time I heard "chana" was from my Andhra friend who called what we call "chole" as "kabuli chana". So it is surprising his parents never fed him any "chana" in his life. 

And then he finds the greeting "Namaskar" not to his liking? How different is it from Namaskaram or Namaste? 

But those details aside, I agree with the essence of what he says. He doesn't seem to like being categorized as something he is not. Some of us are more tolerant of others' ignorance of Indian sub cultures and he is not. That is his choice as much as it is our choice to "blend" in.

Kinnera wrote:

MaxEntropy_Man wrote:

Kinnera wrote:Students growing up here don't have the north indian-south indian differences or biases unless they learn it at home from their parents.

are students growing up here blind, deaf, devoid of taste buds, and so totally brainless as to be unable to discern differences between languages, accents, differences between musical styles, clothes etc?

differences=intolerance. the ni vs si feeling like we see here on such. i don't think they even know or care what constitutes north indian states and what constitutes south indian states and then polarize themselves and start hating each other. Unless the elders pollute their minds, they'll be fine.

Kris wrote:
>>> +1.  I would add that if these are kids raised here and are looking at narrower and narrower prejudicial parameters to define themselves, they are missing out on the broad identity this country gives. The parents do play a major role in this from what I  have seen locally.

Propagandhi711 wrote:

nevada wrote:He does make some valid points but some of his claims seem unbelievable. In small towns in the US, motel owners, gas station owners, etc are big sponsors of "desi" cultural events. Given that they are mostly Gujarati and Punjabi respectively, desi cultural events are Bhangra, Dandia, etc. I can't believe he never attended even one such event in his life.

Secondly, his claim of not knowing "chana". The first time I heard "chana" was from my Andhra friend who called what we call "chole" as "kabuli chana". So it is surprising his parents never fed him any "chana" in his life. 

And then he finds the greeting "Namaskar" not to his liking? How different is it from Namaskaram or Namaste? 

But those details aside, I agree with the essence of what he says. He doesn't seem to like being categorized as something he is not. Some of us are more tolerant of others' ignorance of Indian sub cultures and he is not. That is his choice as much as it is our choice to "blend" in.

ofcourse its everyone's choice to decide what offends them and what doesnt. however, going through life looking at every turn to find something that offends their delicate sensibilities belies a certain type of personality. this kid seems to that hypersensitive type.

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

Propagandhi711 wrote:

nevada wrote:He does make some valid points but some of his claims seem unbelievable. In small towns in the US, motel owners, gas station owners, etc are big sponsors of "desi" cultural events. Given that they are mostly Gujarati and Punjabi respectively, desi cultural events are Bhangra, Dandia, etc. I can't believe he never attended even one such event in his life.

Secondly, his claim of not knowing "chana". The first time I heard "chana" was from my Andhra friend who called what we call "chole" as "kabuli chana". So it is surprising his parents never fed him any "chana" in his life. 

And then he finds the greeting "Namaskar" not to his liking? How different is it from Namaskaram or Namaste? 

But those details aside, I agree with the essence of what he says. He doesn't seem to like being categorized as something he is not. Some of us are more tolerant of others' ignorance of Indian sub cultures and he is not. That is his choice as much as it is our choice to "blend" in.

ofcourse its everyone's choice to decide what offends them and what doesnt. however, going through life looking at every turn to find something that offends their delicate sensibilities belies a certain type of personality. this kid seems to that hypersensitive type.

Kansas City is fairly bog with the richer, technological corporations and most Desis living on the 25% of Kansas City that falls on the Kansas Side - Shawnee Mission, Overland Park, Olathe. The temple has been there for 20+ years and is fairly good sized and decently supported. There is that Univ of Kansas - Desi crowd of some 1000 students not too far.

Any clue if this kid is biracial and dad married a superior whitie chick ? That could explain his lack of knowledge of BASIC Desi cultural vocab.