Old emails

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

Was searching for some old email and I found all the emails that Sulekhinis sent me - all those handles that have long disappeared - all the way from 2003. Nostalgic.

I was shocked to realize that I was indeed popular among women and they trusted me. Those were the days when I did not post on religious politics.

Remember LJ (Max's favorite), Ritika, Scout, Wetsparrow, Maria (yep), Roja (this one has an amazing memory), and so on and on...?

I was actually searching for the earliest email from my schoolmates.

Hm...those were the good old days.

goodcitizn wrote:

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

Was searching for some old email and I found all the emails that Sulekhinis sent me - all those handles that have long disappeared - all the way from 2003. Nostalgic.

I was shocked to realize that I was indeed popular among women and they trusted me. Those were the days when I did not post on religious politics.

Remember LJ (Max's favorite), Ritika, Scout, Wetsparrow, Maria (yep), Roja (this one has an amazing memory), and so on and on...?

I was actually searching for the earliest email from my schoolmates.

Hm...those were the good old days.

Upps, you might have lost the Midas touch. Those names sure bring back memories!

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

goodcitizn wrote:

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

Was searching for some old email and I found all the emails that Sulekhinis sent me - all those handles that have long disappeared - all the way from 2003. Nostalgic.

I was shocked to realize that I was indeed popular among women and they trusted me. Those were the days when I did not post on religious politics.

Remember LJ (Max's favorite), Ritika, Scout, Wetsparrow, Maria (yep), Roja (this one has an amazing memory), and so on and on...?

I was actually searching for the earliest email from my schoolmates.

Hm...those were the good old days.

Upps, you might have lost the Midas touch. Those names sure bring back memories!

Yes... Now reading some of those emails gives me a different perspectives. I suspect an underlying "love" in those letters without mentioning it as such (they knew I was married) or using any crass language or anything sexual. As always I am a late realizer...  I counted some 22 different women...holy smoke.

I even have an email from VC before he became my enemy on "secular" discussion. He disappeared and Darwala showed up with almost similar views and I suspected for a long time both were one and the same. VC and I exchanged a few emails when you were in hospital on your welfare - you know around 2005-2006.  BTW, I exchanged quite a bit emails with many Sulekhans - Bataburger, Hemanth, Playtpus...

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

goodcitizn wrote:

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

Was searching for some old email and I found all the emails that Sulekhinis sent me - all those handles that have long disappeared - all the way from 2003. Nostalgic.

I was shocked to realize that I was indeed popular among women and they trusted me. Those were the days when I did not post on religious politics.

Remember LJ (Max's favorite), Ritika, Scout, Wetsparrow, Maria (yep), Roja (this one has an amazing memory), and so on and on...?

I was actually searching for the earliest email from my schoolmates.

Hm...those were the good old days.

Upps, you might have lost the Midas touch. Those names sure bring back memories!

Yes... Now reading some of those emails gives me a different perspectives. I suspect an underlying "love" in those letters without mentioning it as such (they knew I was married) or using any crass language or anything sexual. As always I am a late realizer...  I counted some 22 different women...holy smoke.

I even have an email from VC before he became my enemy on "secular" discussion. He disappeared and Darwala showed up with almost similar views and I suspected for a long time both were one and the same. VC and I exchanged a few emails when you were in hospital on your welfare - you know around 2005-2006.  BTW, I exchanged quite a bit emails with many Sulekhans - Bataburger, Hemanth, Playtpus...

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

Was searching for some old email and I found all the emails that Sulekhinis sent me - all those handles that have long disappeared - all the way from 2003. Nostalgic.

I was shocked to realize that I was indeed popular among women and they trusted me. Those were the days when I did not post on religious politics.

Remember LJ (Max's favorite), Ritika, Scout, Wetsparrow, Maria (yep), Roja (this one has an amazing memory), and so on and on...?

I was actually searching for the earliest email from my schoolmates.

Hm...those were the good old days.

silvermani wrote:

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

Was searching for some old email and I found all the emails that Sulekhinis sent me - all those handles that have long disappeared - all the way from 2003. Nostalgic.

I was shocked to realize that I was indeed popular among women and they trusted me. Those were the days when I did not post on religious politics.

Remember LJ (Max's favorite), Ritika, Scout, Wetsparrow, Maria (yep), Roja (this one has an amazing memory), and so on and on...?

I was actually searching for the earliest email from my schoolmates.

Hm...those were the good old days.

Didn't you portray yourself as a 70+ year old for a while back in those days(2002-2003)? All those emails were like letters to grandpa. Who doesn't love a grandpa who has good advice for every freaking situation in life?

SomeProfile wrote:I was watching a video interview of Rajiv Malhotra a few days ago, and he talked about first publishing his articles on Sulekha and getting hundreds of thousands of views. I was surprised to hear that and did some Googling to discover that, yes, he had indeed published several articles on Sulekha! Apparently, Sulekha was a respectable forum at one point for Indians to come together, publish their thoughts, discuss opinions, etc. It could have turned into a popular and influential portal for Indians worldwide. But then, the short-sightedness, greed for near term profits and the utter incompetence of the site's publishers killed it.

When I first came across Sulekha, I realized that there were 3 or 4 distinct communities (may be there were more that I was not aware of) - the news fans who had long, raging discussions in comments under news articles, the blog discussion people who had their own discussions in the blog comments, the Coffeehouse crowd and the chat group. There was some overlap among membership among these groups, but otherwise, each group had its own star posters, conversation styles, sub-cultures.

One unique thing about Sulekha, which distinguished it from all other sites across the world was the abundance of respectable, educated and even good-looking Indian women who actively participated. Those of us who have been trolling Internet forums for many years know how rare this is - it is hard to find online forums, especially anonymous ones (not closed non-anonymous forums like Facebook groups), where Indian women actively and openly participate. It is more common to find forums where Indian women are rare and/or don't identify themselves as women. When I first started participating, I was also struck by how many women on Sulekha reached out to me on their own through private messages. This is an even rarer phenomenon on Internet forums.

Saamiyaar - don't be like an Indian adolescent from the last century who thinks a girl "loves" him if she merely looks at him. Most of the women thought of you as an agony aunt grandpa who was ready to give advice on everything from breastfeeding to marriage and career counseling. On a forum where every other male member seemed to be only interested in getting access to "the thing", the women found you in a nice safe grandpa zone and so wrote to you.

In retrospect, I think social community on Sulekha was killed more by the petty jealousies and gossip of the female posters, than by any sleazy behavior by the male posters.

goodcitizn wrote:

SomeProfile wrote:I was watching a video interview of Rajiv Malhotra a few days ago, and he talked about first publishing his articles on Sulekha and getting hundreds of thousands of views. I was surprised to hear that and did some Googling to discover that, yes, he had indeed published several articles on Sulekha! Apparently, Sulekha was a respectable forum at one point for Indians to come together, publish their thoughts, discuss opinions, etc. It could have turned into a popular and influential portal for Indians worldwide. But then, the short-sightedness, greed for near term profits and the utter incompetence of the site's publishers killed it.

When I first came across Sulekha, I realized that there were 3 or 4 distinct communities (may be there were more that I was not aware of) - the news fans who had long, raging discussions in comments under news articles, the blog discussion people who had their own discussions in the blog comments, the Coffeehouse crowd and the chat group. There was some overlap among membership among these groups, but otherwise, each group had its own star posters, conversation styles, sub-cultures.

One unique thing about Sulekha, which distinguished it from all other sites across the world was the abundance of respectable, educated and even good-looking Indian women who actively participated. Those of us who have been trolling Internet forums for many years know how rare this is - it is hard to find online forums, especially anonymous ones (not closed non-anonymous forums like Facebook groups), where Indian women actively and openly participate. It is more common to find forums where Indian women are rare and/or don't identify themselves as women. When I first started participating, I was also struck by how many women on Sulekha reached out to me on their own through private messages. This is an even rarer phenomenon on Internet forums.

Saamiyaar - don't be like an Indian adolescent from the last century who thinks a girl "loves" him if she merely looks at him. Most of the women thought of you as an agony aunt grandpa who was ready to give advice on everything from breastfeeding to marriage and career counseling. On a forum where every other male member seemed to be only interested in getting access to "the thing", the women found you in a nice safe grandpa zone and so wrote to you.

In retrospect, I think social community on Sulekha was killed more by the petty jealousies and gossip of the female posters, than by any sleazy behavior by the male posters.

Yes, I agree with the early years. What was your handle back then?

SomeProfile wrote:

Saamiyaar - don't be like an Indian adolescent from the last century who thinks a girl "loves" him if she merely looks at him. Most of the women thought of you as an agony aunt grandpa who was ready to give advice on everything from breastfeeding to marriage and career counseling. On a forum where every other male member seemed to be only interested in getting access to "the thing", the women found you in a nice safe grandpa zone and so wrote to you.

In retrospect, I think social community on Sulekha was killed more by the petty jealousies and gossip of the female posters, than by any sleazy behavior by the male posters.

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

Was searching for some old email and I found all the emails that Sulekhinis sent me - all those handles that have long disappeared - all the way from 2003. Nostalgic.

I was shocked to realize that I was indeed popular among women and they trusted me. Those were the days when I did not post on religious politics.

Remember LJ (Max's favorite), Ritika, Scout, Wetsparrow, Maria (yep), Roja (this one has an amazing memory), and so on and on...?

I was actually searching for the earliest email from my schoolmates.

Hm...those were the good old days.

confuzzled dude wrote:

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

Was searching for some old email and I found all the emails that Sulekhinis sent me - all those handles that have long disappeared - all the way from 2003. Nostalgic.

I was shocked to realize that I was indeed popular among women and they trusted me. Those were the days when I did not post on religious politics.

Remember LJ (Max's favorite), Ritika, Scout, Wetsparrow, Maria (yep), Roja (this one has an amazing memory), and so on and on...?

I was actually searching for the earliest email from my schoolmates.

Hm...those were the good old days.

I dont delete any emails unless I was sked to - say with pics. None of these emails have any dirty secrets or anything to hurt anyone. These are not saved in any separate email. I use the same id for friends and relatives, and I considered these as friends. For instance, I still have my very first chat mate on my IM still talking - who I have never met. BTW, this email account have emails from a couple of class friends who are no more. So you see, I dont use and throw away my friends or backstab and hurt them - even if they became my enemies later (dont think anyone became one). Also, it took months of conversation and before I exev exchanged ids. In fact, I rarely asked anyone's id. I gave mine only after several months of confidence building. By then, they know my real persona.

I dont remember when I last made a new online friend (must be years). I have helped with net addiction in 3 or 4 cases, nagged a couple of them to study further when the chips were down for them, helped one from a forced marriage by her father (since married and has kid). So you see my presence here has been of some benefit to a couple of them at least.

Holding onto emails have no evil design bcz in my real life also I dont throw away anything.

Hmm.. why are you clinging to 12-13 years old e-mails?!

confuzzled dude wrote:

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

Was searching for some old email and I found all the emails that Sulekhinis sent me - all those handles that have long disappeared - all the way from 2003. Nostalgic.

I was shocked to realize that I was indeed popular among women and they trusted me. Those were the days when I did not post on religious politics.

Remember LJ (Max's favorite), Ritika, Scout, Wetsparrow, Maria (yep), Roja (this one has an amazing memory), and so on and on...?

I was actually searching for the earliest email from my schoolmates.

Hm...those were the good old days.

Hmm.. why are you clinging to 12-13 years old e-mails?!

seven wrote:Email them back n ask if they would like to join us here.

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

seven wrote:Email them back n ask if they would like to join us here.

Why would I do that? A couple of them followed me but quickly left. One from UK and another from US - a christian and a muslim (funny...rite?)

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

seven wrote:Email them back n ask if they would like to join us here.

Why would I do that? A couple of them followed me but quickly left. One from UK and another from US - a christian and a muslim (funny...rite?)

seven wrote:

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

seven wrote:Email them back n ask if they would like to join us here.

Why would I do that? A couple of them followed me but quickly left. One from UK and another from US - a christian and a muslim (funny...rite?)

Ping the Hindu women.

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

seven wrote:

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

seven wrote:Email them back n ask if they would like to join us here.

Why would I do that? A couple of them followed me but quickly left. One from UK and another from US - a christian and a muslim (funny...rite?)

Ping the Hindu women.

Nope. the one reason why I have friends forever is bcz I dont ask or demand anything from them and dont put them in any awkward situation by trying to recruit for anything.

seven wrote:

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

seven wrote:

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

seven wrote:Email them back n ask if they would like to join us here.

Why would I do that? A couple of them followed me but quickly left. One from UK and another from US - a christian and a muslim (funny...rite?)

Ping the Hindu women.

Nope. the one reason why I have friends forever is bcz I dont ask or demand anything from them and dont put them in any awkward situation by trying to recruit for anything.

Ok don't. I thought asking couldn't hurt. They're not going to Feel compelled To join if you asked if they were interested.

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

seven wrote:

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

seven wrote:

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

Why would I do that? A couple of them followed me but quickly left. One from UK and another from US - a christian and a muslim (funny...rite?)

Ping the Hindu women.

Nope. the one reason why I have friends forever is bcz I dont ask or demand anything from them and dont put them in any awkward situation by trying to recruit for anything.

Ok don't. I thought asking couldn't hurt. They're not going to Feel compelled To join if you asked if they were interested.

So that people like Flimmy and Rashmunullah can hound them out ?

seven wrote:

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

seven wrote:

Marathadi-Saamiyaar wrote:

seven wrote:
Ping the Hindu women.

Nope. the one reason why I have friends forever is bcz I dont ask or demand anything from them and dont put them in any awkward situation by trying to recruit for anything.

Ok don't. I thought asking couldn't hurt. They're not going to Feel compelled To join if you asked if they were interested.

So that people like Flimmy and Rashmunullah can hound them out ?

Very good point. You shouldn't ask.

seven wrote:I'm Sirius.Why don't you invite your friends. I asked mine n they don't like the idea.

garam_kuta wrote:

seven wrote:I'm Sirius.Why don't you invite your friends. I asked mine n they don't like the idea.