[poll] what do you value more?

by Guest Mon Nov 19, 2012 4:52 pm

Most of us here are *ahem* middle aged. After having gone full cycles of relationships, what's your stand? What do you seek more? Relationship or companionship? Can you go through life with good companions, related or not? Or is it meaningless without a named relationship? Are you in a relationship, but seeking companions? Do you have companions but missing the relationship component?

Vote away! Or share your views/questions in replies.

by Idéfix Mon Nov 19, 2012 4:54 pm

Please define the words relationship and companionship. Also please provide a "none of my beeswax" option.

by Guest Mon Nov 19, 2012 5:02 pm

Relationship = as defined by law and society. More legal.

Companionship = same functions as a relationship but not necessarily with a given name.

Example:

you are in a relationship with your spouse, but he/she is not the companion you are looking for. Or, you have a great friend/companion, but do you wanna marry him/her? Or if you are single, what would you go for, at this stage in life. Companion or spouse?

Great if the two are the same, but what if they are not. What do you seek more, even if one is not at the cost of another (i.e. say an extramarital emotional/physical affair).

None of my beeswax can't be an option, coz it is your business, heh.

by Guest Mon Nov 19, 2012 5:12 pm

i seek both...why do we have to pick one?

who's stopping you from having both :-?

by Guest Mon Nov 19, 2012 5:22 pm

That's great. But if u are seeking both sorta means u value relationship more. Coz it's the next step after companionship. You don't wanna stop at C. You want R too. So 7, ur vote is clear. You value R more. Smile

by Guest Mon Nov 19, 2012 5:23 pm

yes, ofcoz i dont wanna stop at C alone. and i dont want a relationship without companionship bcz then its useless.

so we cannot say i value one more than another.

i value both. equally.

by Guest Mon Nov 19, 2012 5:35 pm

seven wrote:yes, ofcoz i dont wanna stop at C alone. and i dont want a relationship without companionship bcz then its useless.

so we cannot say i value one more than another.

i value both. equally.

Ok. Sorry that wasn't an option that I put out, and on purpose. I think at every age, you want both. And great if you have it. So that's a nobrainer. Everyone will pick that. But in case you don't and that happens quite often too, you either seek the other thing, maybe with the same person or with someone else. Or you don't seek the other thing at all. And that's what I am trying to get at, how others think.

by Petrichor Mon Nov 19, 2012 5:40 pm

I wish life was simple.

I wish life had meaning.

I wish there was permanence.

I wish no one took offense.

I wish there were surprises.

by Hellsangel Mon Nov 19, 2012 5:43 pm

Why do you want to know?

by Maria S Mon Nov 19, 2012 5:43 pm

According to the description given by pollster Tracy..for my business (!), it's very easy- I'll vote for "Relationship". It's THE "most valued" on all levels- above ALL others!

When it comes to others, it's too easy too..I'll vote for the - not included Panini Press option..none of my beeswax!

This forum has been around long enough now..I want to be "valued" and expect some incentive-a free gift for answering polls (from the pollsters, founder of the forum)..looks like I am the only one who voted so far!

by Idéfix Mon Nov 19, 2012 5:44 pm

Natalia Romanova wrote:Relationship = as defined by law and society. More legal.

Companionship = same functions as a relationship but not necessarily with a given name.

Example:

you are in a relationship with your spouse, but he/she is not the companion you are looking for. Or, you have a great friend/companion, but do you wanna marry him/her? Or if you are single, what would you go for, at this stage in life. Companion or spouse?

Great if the two are the same, but what if they are not. What do you seek more, even if one is not at the cost of another (i.e. say an extramarital emotional/physical affair).

None of my beeswax can't be an option, coz it is your business, heh.

Relationship. I want the tax break. Companionship is for when I retire.

by Guest Mon Nov 19, 2012 5:45 pm

Maria, thanks for voting Smile

here's your flower, it's the biggest currency on such. Smile

by Hellsangel Mon Nov 19, 2012 5:46 pm

panini press wrote:
Relationship. I want the tax break. Companionship is for when I retire.

Are you sure you will get that with your man in the White house?

by Maria S Mon Nov 19, 2012 5:47 pm

Natalia Romanova wrote:Maria, thanks for voting here's your flower, it's the biggest currency on such.

Alrighty then..*reluctantly accepting the flower*.

by Guest Mon Nov 19, 2012 5:48 pm

panini press wrote:
Natalia Romanova wrote:Relationship = as defined by law and society. More legal.

Companionship = same functions as a relationship but not necessarily with a given name.

Example:

you are in a relationship with your spouse, but he/she is not the companion you are looking for. Or, you have a great friend/companion, but do you wanna marry him/her? Or if you are single, what would you go for, at this stage in life. Companion or spouse?

Great if the two are the same, but what if they are not. What do you seek more, even if one is not at the cost of another (i.e. say an extramarital emotional/physical affair).

None of my beeswax can't be an option, coz it is your business, heh.
Relationship. I want the tax break. Companionship is for when I retire.

Haha. Good one. I assume there are tax breaks for single people/parents too. But your cause is sweeter.

by Idéfix Mon Nov 19, 2012 5:48 pm

Hellsangel wrote:
panini press wrote:
Relationship. I want the tax break. Companionship is for when I retire.

Are you sure you will get that with your man in the White house?

Yes I am.

by Guest Mon Nov 19, 2012 5:52 pm

Natalia Romanova wrote:
seven wrote:yes, ofcoz i dont wanna stop at C alone. and i dont want a relationship without companionship bcz then its useless.

so we cannot say i value one more than another.

i value both. equally.

Ok. Sorry that wasn't an option that I put out, and on purpose. I think at every age, you want both. And great if you have it. So that's a nobrainer. Everyone will pick that. But in case you don't and that happens quite often too, you either seek the other thing, maybe with the same person or with someone else. Or you don't seek the other thing at all. And that's what I am trying to get at, how others think.

ok. samjhi. then my choice is clear. i vote companionship. bcz without it the relationship is useless. and companionship without relationship doesnt sound as bad as relationship without companionship.

so there. i can now cast my vote balle balle \m/

by Guest Mon Nov 19, 2012 5:53 pm

Hellsangel wrote:Why do you want to know?

Lol. Because I like to ask weirdo questions.

by Hellsangel Mon Nov 19, 2012 5:54 pm

So Gen Petraeus had a relationship with Holly P and Paula B provided him companionship?

by Propagandhi711 Mon Nov 19, 2012 6:02 pm

Maria S wrote:According to the description given by pollster Tracy..for my business (!), it's very easy- I'll vote for "Relationship". It's THE "most valued" on all levels- above ALL others!

When it comes to others, it's too easy too..I'll vote for the - not included Panini Press option..none of my beeswax!

This forum has been around long enough now..I want to be "valued" and expect some incentive-a free gift for answering polls (from the pollsters, founder of the forum)..looks like I am the only one who voted so far!

wait, are you a democrat by any chance?

by Maria S Mon Nov 19, 2012 6:09 pm

Propagandhi711 wrote:
wait, are you a democrat by any chance?

Are you a Romney Republican by any chance:)

I wish this forum was like the Cayman islands..I can just come by and have fun, call it a business expense and get a tax-write off!

by Propagandhi711 Mon Nov 19, 2012 6:22 pm

Maria S wrote:
Propagandhi711 wrote:
wait, are you a democrat by any chance?

Are you a Romney Republican by any chance:)

I wish this forum was like the Cayman islands..I can just come by and have fun, call it a business expense and get a tax-write off!

I'm not a republican - I'm a conservative

by Maria S Mon Nov 19, 2012 6:25 pm

Propagandhi711 wrote:

I'm not a republican - I'm a conservative

You mean socially or fiscally or both?

by confuzzled dude Mon Nov 19, 2012 6:47 pm

Maria S wrote:
Propagandhi711 wrote:
wait, are you a democrat by any chance?

Are you a Romney Republican by any chance:)

I wish this forum was like the Cayman islands..I can just come by and have fun, call it a business expense and get a tax-write off!

Ha ha ha! that was good comeback.

by Idéfix Mon Nov 19, 2012 6:52 pm

Maria S wrote:
Propagandhi711 wrote:
wait, are you a democrat by any chance?

Are you a Romney Republican by any chance:)

I wish this forum was like the Cayman islands..I can just come by and have fun, call it a business expense and get a tax-write off!

by Guest Mon Nov 19, 2012 6:55 pm

Hellsangel wrote:So Gen Petraeus had a relationship with Holly P and Paula B provided him companionship?

hmm, muddy territory. So let's see. If u r married, and seeking someone else, with the dreams of later marriage/kids, then u value relationship more. If no such dreams, then companionship. Guess one-night stands or random sex acts with random people don't count much, coz they are maybe better quality jerkoff sessions. In that case, hmm, u value relationship more? dunno. gray area there.

by Guest Mon Nov 19, 2012 7:00 pm

seven wrote:
Natalia Romanova wrote:
seven wrote:yes, ofcoz i dont wanna stop at C alone. and i dont want a relationship without companionship bcz then its useless.

so we cannot say i value one more than another.

i value both. equally.

Ok. Sorry that wasn't an option that I put out, and on purpose. I think at every age, you want both. And great if you have it. So that's a nobrainer. Everyone will pick that. But in case you don't and that happens quite often too, you either seek the other thing, maybe with the same person or with someone else. Or you don't seek the other thing at all. And that's what I am trying to get at, how others think.

ok. samjhi. then my choice is clear. i vote companionship. bcz without it the relationship is useless. and companionship without relationship doesnt sound as bad as relationship without companionship.

so there. i can now cast my vote balle balle \m/

we think alike. moreover, guess relationships come with a lot of overhead. too expensive, emotionally and financially, when all u really seek is probably a good companionship. atleast at a later stage in life... that's my take now. 10 years ago, i might have been shooting down this logic with ,companionship w/no commitment is a waste of time, etc etc.

by bw Mon Nov 19, 2012 9:30 pm

Natalia Romanova wrote:
seven wrote:
Natalia Romanova wrote:
seven wrote:yes, ofcoz i dont wanna stop at C alone. and i dont want a relationship without companionship bcz then its useless.

so we cannot say i value one more than another.

i value both. equally.

Ok. Sorry that wasn't an option that I put out, and on purpose. I think at every age, you want both. And great if you have it. So that's a nobrainer. Everyone will pick that. But in case you don't and that happens quite often too, you either seek the other thing, maybe with the same person or with someone else. Or you don't seek the other thing at all. And that's what I am trying to get at, how others think.

ok. samjhi. then my choice is clear. i vote companionship. bcz without it the relationship is useless. and companionship without relationship doesnt sound as bad as relationship without companionship.

so there. i can now cast my vote balle balle \m/

we think alike. moreover, guess relationships come with a lot of overhead. too expensive, emotionally and financially, when all u really seek is probably a good companionship. atleast at a later stage in life... that's my take now. 10 years ago, i might have been shooting down this logic with ,companionship w/no commitment is a waste of time, etc etc.

no emotions with a "companion"? what else is sought?

by Guest Mon Nov 19, 2012 9:33 pm

bw wrote:

no emotions with a "companion"? what else is sought?

emotions, hmm. Why not. Guess not enough to jump into ownership rights.

by Guest Mon Nov 19, 2012 9:34 pm

oh wow, 2 more votes, one for each side. no claims though. cool still.

by truthbetold Mon Nov 19, 2012 11:02 pm

NATs,
Great question. There was Telugu movie made in 1960s named doctor chakravarty. Based on real story, this movie explored the relationship and companionship issue in a greAt way.

A song written by Sri Sri summarizes the issue:
If some one loves you for who you are
If someone can tear up for you
having such a companion
That is wealth that is heaven

It sounds deep and lyrical if you can read itin Telugu.
It is one of the best moments of Telugu film history.
Some one like indophile or pp can take time to translate the whole song.

by Guest Mon Nov 19, 2012 11:07 pm

this movie? damn no subtitles... thanks for the post tbt, so what's your vote? or is it gonna be anon?

by bw Mon Nov 19, 2012 11:35 pm

companionship with no strings attached or a relationship?

... will depend on how rich the guy is and what he intends to do with the loot.

by Marathadi-Saamiyaar Tue Nov 20, 2012 2:53 am

bw wrote:companionship with no strings attached or a relationship?

... will depend on how rich the guy is and what he intends to do with the loot.

There is no such thing as "no strings" or "freebees" It is prudent to expect the unexpected and be prepared to face the unintended problems.

Of course, such an analytical person will not be going for any companionship - strings or no strings... Razz

by truthbetold Tue Nov 20, 2012 6:51 am

NATs,
Relationships is a special case of a social arrangement within the concept of companionship. Unlike C, the social contract of R obligates responsibilities. C is more fundamental, natural and enjoyable concept.

I see no conflict bet C and R. But if you insist, C would be my choice.

I will post the video of the song "manasuna Maasai" from doctor C later.

by Guest Tue Nov 20, 2012 8:52 am

Thanks for voting, TBT. Nice to see more and more view points on this, and what we really seek, which itself can change depending on where we are at what stage in life.

Will wait for your song. Will then badger all my Telugu peeps for translation. I might even pin down one to watch and translate that movie for me. Let's see...

by Guest Wed Nov 21, 2012 1:16 pm

Here's the song, Manasuna Manasai. Great song about the hero's yearning for a good companion. But at the end, the hero compromises to settle down with the wife he's not in love with.

by Guest Wed Nov 21, 2012 1:40 pm

Poll is now 6 to 3. Kinns u voted?

by Guest Wed Nov 21, 2012 1:48 pm

Natalia Romanova wrote:Poll is now 6 to 3. Kinns u voted?

Ya, i did. For companionship.

by Bittu Wed Nov 21, 2012 3:28 pm

I voted for companionship but would have voted for "meaningless drunken sex with disembodied vagina" if such an option existed in the poll.

by Guest Thu Nov 22, 2012 12:50 am

C is like charvaka. R is like rashmun. i am unable to decide who to vote for.

abstain.

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