Re: blip blop blah

by tapori Tue May 03, 2011 3:12 pm

Tracy Whitney wrote:here's the timeline:

he happened to go to india 4 years ago when boy-hunt was going on for her... he'd always liked her, but thot she's above his league in terms of looks and popularity... this visit though, she line-maaroed him a bit much over new year's eve, calling him in for coffee and so on. Then SHE proposed to him. Same night, his vigilant mom - who didn't know this yet - sat him down and asked him NOT to propose to her for family reasons. They hated her dad.

So he came back all confused.. kept talking to her, confused... finally two months, later he proposed back to her, when she said she can't wait any more... 2-3 months later, he told his rents... 2-3 weeks later, they agreed. 6 months later, she came here. He funded her MS, as he wanted her to study further and be independent. 6 months later, he found something deeply disturbing about her and wanted to break it off.. she cried and begged to keep the engagement, he agreed... 6 months later, they got married. 1 year later, she graduated. TEN months later, she finally got a job... 2 months laters, she made new friends at work... 2 months after that she went on an overnight trip. 1 day after that, she began showing tevars, told him to stay away from her, not touch, hug, anything... 2 months later (All the while him begging to do counseling), she got her H1 and she left him to live with a (female colleague). Said she'll rethink and come back in 2 weeks. But 2 weeks later, she rented her own apartment. One week later, he hacked into her email account. 1 day later he told us. And is now devastated.

tell him to move on there are plenty of fish. she used him to come to the US. he seems like senstive type who can be convinced with few tears and promises in bed.

by Guest Tue May 03, 2011 3:16 pm

artood2 wrote:The guy is a drunken mess and the bytch is off to a new ride. The "sorry" is always without any remorse, a protocol step. Some guys still suck it up.

I don't know why I am taking this so hard. To the point that I felt depressed last night. I myself did not have that much relationship with her like others did (i used to think she's too much of a kid to have any wavelength common enough to talk), but I am scratching my brains and r'bering all her visits to see if there was ANY sign that I missed. She NEVER seemed unhappy to me.. sometimes upset with him yes, but not too long, and never unhappy.

by artood2 Tue May 03, 2011 3:34 pm

People who contribute to others getting together in some way always feel a connection in there.

by Marathadi-Saamiyaar Tue May 03, 2011 3:49 pm

[quote="tapori"]

Tracy Whitney wrote:here's the timeline:
He funded her MS, as he wanted her to study further and be independent.

He achieved in what he had planned for her. He should be happy on several fronts. If she had done the same thing after a kid, it would have been messier.

by SomeProfile Tue May 03, 2011 4:11 pm

Tracy Whitney wrote:She NEVER seemed unhappy to me.. sometimes upset with him yes, but not too long, and never unhappy.

I don't know her. But she sounds like the kind of person who wouldn't be unhappy for long. If something made her unhappy, she wouldn't mope over it for any period of time. She would take immediate corrective action. Also, when new and better opportunities comes up, she would seize them and move on without remorse. She did that to her ex-boyfriends when she took up with your relative. Now, it is his turn to be left behind. She is a survivor.

Do you want revenge?

by SomeProfile Tue May 03, 2011 4:15 pm

I feel bad for him. He did the exact same things for her to support her and help her grow, that I would have done if a woman came into my life and acted lovingly. He was inexperienced in relationships, but I have a lot of experience. Still, I'd have been equally vulnerable and hurt. There is not a whole lot a guy can do to protect himself in these situations. Scary!

Only lesson I can learn from this situation is: People don't value things they get easily. So, don't give anything to a woman easily. Let her earn every single thing from you. That is a more balanced relationship. She will also value you more.

by tapori Tue May 03, 2011 4:18 pm

[quote="SomeProfile"]

Tracy Whitney wrote:She NEVER seemed unhappy to me.. sometimes upset with him yes, but not too long, and never unhappy.

I don't know her. But she sounds like the kind of person who wouldn't be unhappy for long. If something made her unhappy, she wouldn't mope over it for any period of time. She would take immediate corrective action. Also, when new and better opportunities comes up, she would seize them and move on without remorse. She did that to her ex-boyfriends when she took up with your relative. Now, it is his turn to be left behind. She is a survivor.

I couldn't agree more

by Guest Tue May 03, 2011 4:32 pm

SP, guess you are right. specially knowing her dad, who is not such a great guy, she knows she has to fend for herself.. recently BIL was struggling with his job scene, changed 2-3 jobs in succession, and was stressed about it.. GC is not even near any scene... he kept beating himself over this, 'Now I am a loser to her, so she left me maybe in hopes to marry that american - who's studied from UPenn - and get a GC'.

btw, before he came into scene, she was exclusively looking for guys from abroad... that's how badly she wanted to migrate and leave her cheap dad behind. She knows an european language, and has been to Europe in her previous job in India.

All he regrets now is, that he got this girl into his family, and have them be hurt by her.

by Hellsangel Tue May 03, 2011 4:37 pm

Tracy Whitney wrote:

btw, before he came into scene, she was exclusively looking for guys from abroad... that's how badly she wanted to migrate and leave her cheap dad behind. She knows an european language, and has been to Europe in her previous job in India.

And she will leave the American after the required two years or maybe three if she applies to be a citizen herself.

by Guest Tue May 03, 2011 4:44 pm

no idea what she'll do, and the more I think about this, the more I don't want to care. The BIL is still on the good side of 30, and hopefully he finds someone good.

wish she had shown some signs she was gonna do it. she became part of the family, and e'body loved her... maybe this gives her a kick. to make sure e'one loves her while she's there, and then slip out.

by SomeProfile Tue May 03, 2011 4:46 pm

Tracy Whitney wrote:no idea what she'll do, and the more I think about this, the more I don't want to care. The BIL is still on the good side of 30, and hopefully he finds someone good.

wish she had shown some signs she was gonna do it. she became part of the family, and e'body loved her... maybe this gives her a kick. to make sure e'one loves her while she's there, and then slip out.

Come on... we gotta plot revenge!

by Guest Tue May 03, 2011 4:51 pm

best revenge is to live well. I like taking little revenges, and get more kick than I would get in taking bigger revenges. Like, when I was breaking up w/ my bf, I asked for my letters/cards back. He said he will return only if I read each and e'one in front of him. I agreed. I went with my friend, he came with his cousin. One by one he gave me the card, I read it, tore it, and dumped it in a pile. Then I burned the pile down.

you must be thinking what was the revenge here.. well, I wore a mini skirt to it. I knew he loved my legs... later on my friend was chuckling, 'you are such a dushta, the poor guy could not even look up in your face to see if you were crying or not, that's how much your legs dazzled'.

by artood2 Tue May 03, 2011 4:59 pm

Tracy Whitney wrote:best revenge is to live well. I like taking little revenges, and get more kick than I would get in taking bigger revenges. Like, when I was breaking up w/ my bf, I asked for my letters/cards back. He said he will return only if I read each and e'one in front of him. I agreed. I went with my friend, he came with his cousin. One by one he gave me the card, I read it, tore it, and dumped it in a pile. Then I burned the pile down.

you must be thinking what was the revenge here.. well, I wore a mini skirt to it. I knew he loved my legs... later on my friend was chuckling, 'you are such a dushta, the poor guy could not even look up in your face to see if you were crying or not, that's how much your legs dazzled'.

Was he showing off his hair, height, hands, voice whatever it was?

by mickeybrowneyes Tue May 03, 2011 5:02 pm

Tracy Whitney wrote:best revenge is to live well. I like taking little revenges, and get more kick than I would get in taking bigger revenges. Like, when I was breaking up w/ my bf, I asked for my letters/cards back. He said he will return only if I read each and e'one in front of him. I agreed. I went with my friend, he came with his cousin. One by one he gave me the card, I read it, tore it, and dumped it in a pile. Then I burned the pile down.

you must be thinking what was the revenge here.. well, I wore a mini skirt to it. I knew he loved my legs... later on my friend was chuckling, 'you are such a dushta, the poor guy could not even look up in your face to see if you were crying or not, that's how much your legs dazzled'.

As SP said - revenge time - you be the anchor and let your BIL wear the mini-skirt!
Not literally but, you get the drift...

by Guest Tue May 03, 2011 5:02 pm

artood2 wrote:Was he showing off his hair, height, hands, voice whatever it was?

He looked devastated. I made myself believe that he was thinking what legs he lost.. his fiancee was a shorty.. Twisted Evil

by artood2 Tue May 03, 2011 5:07 pm

Tracy Whitney wrote:
artood2 wrote:Was he showing off his hair, height, hands, voice whatever it was?

He looked devastated. I made myself believe that he was thinking what legs he lost.. his fiancee was a shorty..

He did not try to show what you are missing?

by Guest Tue May 03, 2011 5:10 pm

[quote="artood2"]

Tracy Whitney wrote:
He did not try to show what you are missing?

That's the reason why he'd called me remember? To make me realize I was missing 'all the love', by reading my own cards/letters to him. But what was the point in all that.. he was already engaged... it was time to move on.

by Nila Tue May 03, 2011 5:34 pm

I think I will go get a strong coffee for me! TRACY!!! Smile

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by artood2 Tue May 03, 2011 5:37 pm

[quote="Tracy Whitney"]

artood2 wrote:
Tracy Whitney wrote:
He did not try to show what you are missing?

That's the reason why he'd called me remember? To make me realize I was missing 'all the love', by reading my own cards/letters to him. But what was the point in all that.. he was already engaged... it was time to move on.

haha... All's well that ends well.

by artood2 Tue May 03, 2011 6:59 pm

That's the reason why he'd called me remember? To make me realize I was missing 'all the love', by reading my own cards/letters to him. But what was the point in all that.. he was already engaged... it was time to move on.

The guy went mental, the gal went physical. guys, guys, guys : you suck Very Happy

by artood2 Tue May 03, 2011 7:24 pm

artood2 wrote:
That's the reason why he'd called me remember? To make me realize I was missing 'all the love', by reading my own cards/letters to him. But what was the point in all that.. he was already engaged... it was time to move on.

The guy went mental, the gal went physical. guys, guys, guys : you suck

duh.. teh green color has toned people down on this forum. No one picks up the bait. No popcorn moments yet.

by Guest Tue May 03, 2011 8:20 pm

let me understand this...ur life is very engaging...really interesting like a romantic novel.
so ur then bf was engaged to sm1 else and u both were breaking up and u were upset bcz of all this and wanted to take revenge and wore short skirt showing of your long legs and made him feel bad. he looked devastated and u thought its bcz his fiance was short.
wat happened next?

by Guest Tue May 03, 2011 10:48 pm

seven wrote:wat happened next?

Nothing much.. she's still a hottie by all accounts. Looks half his age even after having 2 kids. While my longs legs are quite thick, and supporting an equally thick body. The revenge was sweet, but sorta short lived.

by Nila Tue May 03, 2011 11:02 pm

Seriously...someone brief me the above story in two lines...thank you.

by Guest Tue May 03, 2011 11:33 pm

tracy's BIL's lifelong crush, 4 yr gf turned wife is leaving him for another guy. he is heartbroken and tracy feels blip blop blah.

by artood2 Wed May 04, 2011 1:00 am

Tracy Whitney wrote:
seven wrote:wat happened next?

Nothing much.. she's still a hottie by all accounts. Looks half his age even after having 2 kids. While my longs legs are quite thick, and supporting an equally thick body. The revenge was sweet, but sorta short lived.

That is the short and long of it then...

by Guest Wed May 04, 2011 1:04 am

Tracy Whitney wrote:best revenge is to live well. I like taking little revenges, and get more kick than I would get in taking bigger revenges. Like, when I was breaking up w/ my bf, I asked for my letters/cards back. He said he will return only if I read each and e'one in front of him. I agreed. I went with my friend, he came with his cousin. One by one he gave me the card, I read it, tore it, and dumped it in a pile. Then I burned the pile down.

you must be thinking what was the revenge here.. well, I wore a mini skirt to it. I knew he loved my legs... later on my friend was chuckling, 'you are such a dushta, the poor guy could not even look up in your face to see if you were crying or not, that's how much your legs dazzled'.

How old were you when this drama of reading the letter/cards, tearing them and burning them happened? Also, you read your private correspondence in front of two other people? What about his letters and cards to you? What dramatic end did they meet?

by artood2 Wed May 04, 2011 1:07 am

Must be young. After that there are just emails, ecards ....

by Guest Wed May 04, 2011 1:25 am

Tracy Whitney wrote:
seven wrote:wat happened next?

Nothing much.. she's still a hottie by all accounts. Looks half his age even after having 2 kids. While my longs legs are quite thick, and supporting an equally thick body. The revenge was sweet, but sorta short lived.

u finish it in 2 lines when i am expecting details and u go on writing tracy puraan when i am expecting something like they were together for 4 years, dated 3 years b4 finally getting married Razz

by .|Sublime|. Wed May 04, 2011 1:44 am

blabberwock wrote:
Tracy Whitney wrote:best revenge is to live well. I like taking little revenges, and get more kick than I would get in taking bigger revenges. Like, when I was breaking up w/ my bf, I asked for my letters/cards back. He said he will return only if I read each and e'one in front of him. I agreed. I went with my friend, he came with his cousin. One by one he gave me the card, I read it, tore it, and dumped it in a pile. Then I burned the pile down.

you must be thinking what was the revenge here.. well, I wore a mini skirt to it. I knew he loved my legs... later on my friend was chuckling, 'you are such a dushta, the poor guy could not even look up in your face to see if you were crying or not, that's how much your legs dazzled'.

How old were you when this drama of reading the letter/cards, tearing them and burning them happened? Also, you read your private correspondence in front of two other people? What about his letters and cards to you? What dramatic end did they meet?

I dont know too much about all this but i think you are not supposed be injecting this amount of logic into the discussion at this point.

by charvaka Wed May 04, 2011 1:50 am

.|Sublime|. wrote:
blabberwock wrote:
Tracy Whitney wrote:best revenge is to live well. I like taking little revenges, and get more kick than I would get in taking bigger revenges. Like, when I was breaking up w/ my bf, I asked for my letters/cards back. He said he will return only if I read each and e'one in front of him. I agreed. I went with my friend, he came with his cousin. One by one he gave me the card, I read it, tore it, and dumped it in a pile. Then I burned the pile down.

you must be thinking what was the revenge here.. well, I wore a mini skirt to it. I knew he loved my legs... later on my friend was chuckling, 'you are such a dushta, the poor guy could not even look up in your face to see if you were crying or not, that's how much your legs dazzled'.

How old were you when this drama of reading the letter/cards, tearing them and burning them happened? Also, you read your private correspondence in front of two other people? What about his letters and cards to you? What dramatic end did they meet?

I dont know too much about all this but i think you are not supposed be injecting this amount of logic into the discussion at this point.

That's all I got to say on this topic.

by Guest Wed May 04, 2011 6:16 am

I was 19. Those cards were standard hallmark cards with hardly any more contribution by me. There was I think ONE letter that I'd written to him when I was just 15, when I was 'breaking up' with him the first time. Was so childish it was laughable at 19. No I didn't care 2 other people were part of it. Not like I was reading the cards aloud. I did read them aloud if it was some funny card. The personal parts, I would mumble and tear off.

Oh and I never saved any cards by him. There was never any privacy at my place. They would meet their end within 10 minutes of me receiving them.

by artood2 Wed May 04, 2011 12:16 pm

Ah.. 19. And you remember all this? Half the gray matter is black at that age.

by Guest Thu May 05, 2011 5:25 pm

so the update: after 4 days, she finally emailed me back.. saying she will call me when she's ready to talk and things are less volatile.

In a way I am happy that she atleast acknowledged my sms... I was really peeved about it... I had kept her for weeks when she'd come here, how can she forget that relationship, and many times in last 3 days, I had thot of calling her and reprimanding her for just that...

wondering if I should jump into this. I mean, if they are better separated, then why prolong the misery by making them come back together.

by Admin Thu May 05, 2011 5:29 pm

Tracy Whitney wrote:wondering if I should jump into this. I mean, if they are better separated, then why prolong the misery by making them come back together.

You should, even if only so that you can tell the tale and make this the second thread to cross 100 posts!

by Guest Thu May 05, 2011 5:30 pm

lol.. arre...

by Guest Thu May 05, 2011 6:31 pm

hmm.. she texted me the SAME message that she'd emailed me... maybe loha is garam... let me ask her to call me now.

by charvaka Thu May 05, 2011 6:34 pm

Tracy Whitney wrote:hmm.. she texted me the SAME message that she'd emailed me... maybe loha is garam... let me ask her to call me now.

Call her right now. This minute.

by Guest Thu May 05, 2011 6:39 pm

ya.. i texted her to call me 'now'... i do use the 10 year age difference to induce some dadagiri in our relationship... at the most she will snub me down, but atleat in that case I would be able to get some closure ...

funny how *I* am getting all hot and bothered over this, while my husband is all cool...

by .|Sublime|. Thu May 05, 2011 9:34 pm

Tracy Whitney wrote:
funny how *I* am getting all hot and bothered over this, while my husband is all cool...

men, i tell you! they have no idea. you better get him riled up and give him some flak about his uncaring attitude.

by Guest Thu May 05, 2011 9:53 pm

actually, I secretly wish BIL takes K if at all he goes to talk to her... K is one of the biggest sales persons I have seen (i.e. among the people who are NOT sales people by profession). He has utmost pursuasive powers, with the right amount of negotiations thrown in.

Once this cousin of his was joking with me, 'bhabhi, aap haath dhoke peechhe padne ki baat karte ho, aap ke to ye naha dhoke peechhe pad gaya tha, kab tak aakhir bachte'.

Only thing is, he needs to get 'interested' enough in someone elses problems... just 'hearing' about something does nothing to him, he has to SEE it.

by SomeProfile Fri May 06, 2011 12:03 am

Tracy Whitney wrote:actually, I secretly wish BIL takes K if at all he goes to talk to her... K is one of the biggest sales persons I have seen (i.e. among the people who are NOT sales people by profession).

Why do you wish for this? Do you want this K to persuade her to get back with your BIL? I thought you were more intelligent than that. Your BIL has had a fortunate escape. You should be encouraging him to forget her and move on to make a better life for himself. I cannot imagine how you can even hope for them to get back together. Seriously, are you the BIL's well-wisher or enemy?

The only person suitable for her is a douchebag like me. Frankly, even I am scared of her cuz I am not a douchebag some 67.5% of the time.

by Propagandhi711 Fri May 06, 2011 12:32 am

you underestimate yourself. but kudos on following this soap opera.

by charvaka Fri May 06, 2011 12:48 am

Propagandhi711 wrote:but kudos on following this soap opera.

We should add a poll to this thread: vote yes if you know the key elements of the story. I suspect half the male posters on this thread will vote no.[/quote]

by Propagandhi711 Fri May 06, 2011 12:52 am

I would vote yes on turning this into an e-novella with multiple writers adding their bit each week. wouldnt mind seeing someprofile as a regular guest writer, much like alec baldwin on SNL .

by Guest Sun May 08, 2011 10:54 pm

Here's another funny one from her... when he said I have not been able to focus on work that's how upset I am, she advises him, 'You should not bring your emotions into work, you know... Keep your personal and professional life separate'.

Yeah... ofcourse... the bytch rattles all her marital problems to her colleagues, and is most likely sleeping with one too, and preaches OTHERS to keep personal life separate from professional.

*k this was last of my bitchiness*

by Guest Sun May 08, 2011 11:01 pm

This is the email exchange between them

He: what does your name mean?
She: [some kinda flower]
He: something flirty
She: be careful, it's known for its thorns.
He: Oh, I don't care for the thorns, I am a big boy now.
She: Yeah I know you are a big boy Smile

what's the ch verdict?
flirt, one sided flirt, affair, innocent chatter?

by charvaka Sun May 08, 2011 11:08 pm

Tracy Whitney wrote:what's the ch verdict?

Your BIL is sharing too much info with you. He shouldn't be sneaking into her chat messages, and even if he did, he shouldn't be sharing them with you!

by Guest Sun May 08, 2011 11:09 pm

Tracy Whitney wrote:This is the email exchange between them

He: what does your name mean?
She: [some kinda flower]
He: something flirty
She: be careful, it's known for its thorns.
He: Oh, I don't care for the thorns, I am a big boy now.
She: Yeah I know you are a big boy

what's the ch verdict?
flirt, one sided flirt, affair, innocent chatter?

Who is "He" here? It is obviously a flirty chatter.

by Guest Sun May 08, 2011 11:18 pm

blabberwock wrote:

Who is "He" here? It is obviously a flirty chatter.

A [white] colleague with whom she went out for an overnight trip for a conference... an honor ex UPenn grad... a sorta geeky, dancer, and chubby (haha, chubbier than her), but seemingly smart fella... stalking his FB page, I gather he is into upanishad's and all... he has posted a sanskrit shloka on his page.... (bad news I guess, he is into Indian girls too, it seems)...

Talking about FB, this is funny... WE ALL can see his FB profile, but not my BIL, he has apparently blocked him.

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