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by Nila Mon Jun 13, 2011 2:23 pm

I also want to add that even if he gets her back, he is so gonna dump her.

by Guest Fri Jul 08, 2011 1:50 pm

now it feels like - yeh to hona hee tha. bil got sacked today coz of lack of focus and performance at work.

I am feeling tempted to ask him get h4 via her. screw it, they are still husband and wife.

by charvaka Fri Jul 08, 2011 1:52 pm

He's got just 30 days to find a job, then? That sucks. I hope his employer will keep him on payroll for a few months while he looks for another job!

by Guest Fri Jul 08, 2011 1:54 pm

charvaka wrote:He's got just 30 days to find a job, then? That sucks. I hope his employer will keep him on payroll for a few months while he looks for another job!

yeah, they are gonna keep him on a payroll till the end of this month. And then I guess he has 10 more days?

Sister's reaction was perfect... 'ohhho, kod mein khaaj'.

by charvaka Fri Jul 08, 2011 1:58 pm

I think his 30 day clock starts on the day his employer takes him off payroll. He probably doesn't want to ask his wife for the H-4 thing, but someone should. In this economy it's very difficult to find another job in a matter of weeks.

by Hellsangel Fri Jul 08, 2011 1:59 pm

What is the moral of the story? Don't get into any emotional turmoil while you are on a temporary work visa?

by Guest Fri Jul 08, 2011 2:11 pm

Hellsangel wrote:What is the moral of the story? Don't get into any emotional turmoil while you are on a temporary work visa?

I guess so. Like they say, 'not everyone has the luck/luxury to cry'.

Guess it works differently for women. Atleast for me. Ever since the college days, I am able to work/study better when in emotional crisis. When the love life is going good, I would be too happy, distracted, or in a don't-care mode. With men, I guess most of them work better when things are happy at home.

Or maybe it's a matter of experience. People who have not had heartaches at a younger age, don't know how to deal with them or process them out.

I tend to get way more depressed if things are not going well at work. So do men.

by Guest Fri Jul 08, 2011 3:57 pm

Tracy Whitney wrote:now it feels like - yeh to hona hee tha. bil got sacked today coz of lack of focus and performance at work.

If he was subconciously looking to bottom-out - maybe he just did. Love gone; Money gone; job gone.
This could be the best thing that happened to him in the past few months...if he perseveres.

by Silhouette Fri Jul 08, 2011 4:39 pm

yeah, one does feel sorry for this person. unknown to him, now his misery is also a continually on-going saga on a message board online.

(lemme guess, he knows and consents to this online narrative of his life story.)

by Guest Fri Jul 08, 2011 4:54 pm

Silhouette wrote:yeah, one does feel sorry for this person. unknown to him, now his misery is also a continually on-going saga on a message board online.

(lemme guess, he knows and consents to this online narrative of his life story.)

hmm did your SIL gave consent to you to post here that she makes/serves the worst pallasam or whatever it is?

Anyway, you know me, and I know myself too. We both have known me for last 3 years. Guess we are beyond such questionings to me.

by charvaka Fri Jul 08, 2011 5:07 pm

Tracy Whitney wrote:I know myself

Ahha, so you do you know "self." Finally, thanks to Sillo, you have answered a question that TS asked you all those years ago.

by Guest Fri Jul 08, 2011 5:09 pm

charvaka wrote:
Tracy Whitney wrote:I know myself
Ahha, so you do you know "self." Finally, thanks to Sillo, you have answered a question that TS asked you all those years ago.

LOL. I may know myself, but do I know "self".

by Silhouette Fri Jul 08, 2011 5:30 pm

Tracy Whitney wrote:
Silhouette wrote:yeah, one does feel sorry for this person. unknown to him, now his misery is also a continually on-going saga on a message board online.

(lemme guess, he knows and consents to this online narrative of his life story.)

hmm did your SIL gave consent to you to post here that she makes/serves the worst pallasam or whatever it is?

Anyway, you know me, and I know myself too. We both have known me for last 3 years. Guess we are beyond such questionings to me.

come now, my comment wasn't that harsh. don't be so upset now. but it's interesting to note that you truly dont see the difference between stating opinions vs. divulging personal info.

oh and, if you had actually read my post, i said payasam is a horrible dessert no matter who makes it. my sis-in-law or yours.

by Guest Fri Jul 08, 2011 5:47 pm

well, you had said something like, 'When I met my SIL for the very first time, I thought everything was going fine until she served me payasam'.

It's not like I cannot see the difference. On one side of spectrum is someone like HA who never gives out any personal information. On other side are people who let their real names be known here.

And then there are people like you who do give out personal details here and there, knowingly or unknowingly, but take a snottier stand when someone either ask them personal question or when stating such judgements (hate to use this word, thanks to TS). It's like you want to have the best of both sides.

I have seen you dissing jats within your own community, I have read your summer vacation with your cousins, your time spent in India, the city in India that you are from, or the food they make. You are the one who disclosed here when you got engaged, or when you went to get a tattoo or a nudist beach with a friend, or where you were shopping for your wedding. You have also said you have taken pain killers and what they do to you. I have even read some comments in the passing about your in-laws when participating in Tamil discussions.

I don't know if you realize it or not, but purely based on your posts, I do know a lot about you. And this even when I stopped asking you any personal question when you got miffed last year when I stated that I didn't know you got married while some other poster knew it.

You may contend that you were are merely stating opinions in most cases, but I do hope that you realize that while doing that, you yourself cross that very thin line when it comes to divulging personal info and info about others in your life.

And hence it doesn't make you too cool when you are passing your snotty comments. I can understand if HA exclaims 'TMI' to me, coz he practises what he preaches. But it's just harder to take such comments from someone like you who I see as pretty bindaas otherwise.

by Mr. T Fri Jul 08, 2011 6:23 pm

Tracy Whitney wrote:Lol. Yeah. He had brought her here. Her father had said point blank he won't fund her ms so he paid for it (this was even one year before they actually got married). They lived together ofcourse and he managed the rent. Marriage was all funded by his family and done with dhoom dhaam (he is an only child). He helped her find a job. Changed city, then state to where she eventually found one. Lost 1000s of $$ in breaking 2 apt. leases. Bought a new car for her. She's paying monthly installments but he had put down the 6-7 k. When he asked, 'when u had thought of leaving me already you should have atleast stopped me from changing states and incurring further losses', she acknowledged it and said with shrug, 'I'm sorry'.

So basically, she ran all over him !!!!!

by Silhouette Fri Jul 08, 2011 6:34 pm

looks like my comment pissed you off a lot. so apparently you have issues with the fact that i divulge my personal info on my own terms but refuse to oblige others when they prod. yeah valid criticism indeed.

you look ready to fight but unfortunately i lack the stomach for fights. so lemme just bid adieu now. however, to set the record straight for that ugh payasam, here's what i said. https://such.forumotion.com/t1610-si-s-can-t-even-make-kaju-katli-right#13662

by Guest Fri Jul 08, 2011 7:03 pm

1 I also divulge personal info on my own terms. And when asked questions that I don't want to answer I deflect them in my own way.

2 last year when you had got pissed at me it was on my comment which roughly said, 'i didn't know when sillo got married'. And you retorted roughly with 'i didn't know I'm suposed to inform you everything. Well you definitely did inform or how else would That poster know you are married. Or maybe he/ she was confused.

3 yeah it's normal to ask people personal questions when they usually give out personal information. At least for normal people it is normal. Actually I think it's more weird when you tell abou yourself to someone and they refrain from asking you anything personal. To me it means they either don't care or they love to take the high aloof road every time. So no need get judgemental.

4 what record are you setting straight? I didn't misquote you from that post.

5 I'm not fighting with you. I'm telling you what I feel. If you want to call this a fight than I guess I'll have to back out too.

by Guest Fri Jul 08, 2011 7:24 pm

Edit didn't go through. Welll you are changing the reason why I got pissed. Not becaue 'i critize that I can't you personal questions'. In fact since the last time iu got pissed I don't think I have. I respect peoples preferences.

I am pissed at your comment 'did you take consent from your bil before posting his story.' kind of ironic when just days ago you trashed your sils payasam on a public forum but didn't have the heart to tell her.

by SomeProfile Fri Jul 08, 2011 9:21 pm

charvaka wrote:I think his 30 day clock starts on the day his employer takes him off payroll. He probably doesn't want to ask his wife for the H-4 thing, but someone should. In this economy it's very difficult to find another job in a matter of weeks.

I don't think anybody should ask her. She should be cut off totally and finally from his life. This could be a blessing in disguise for him actually. Let him try his best to find another job here. If not, he might actually end up finding a much job (and a much better girl) in India. He should look at this as an opportunity to start afresh.

by Guest Fri Jul 08, 2011 9:57 pm

I think forget getting all poetic and the right-wrong, the prudent thing would be to go on spousal visa and find something worthwhile. At this state of mind he's is better off picking up the threads right where he lost them.

I have updates on this thought, but might post later when I am more composed. I was setting up a rat zapper today, forgot it's on, and put my hand inside to set the bait. Got solid ZAPPED on the left index finger. While daughter think it's sweet justice after having killed 3-4 mice in last 4 years, I am not that amused. Heart still pounding, and finger still hurting at the nail where it had zapped me. And the damn thing doesn't even work any more. Will need to order a new one.

Too many rat references lately.

by SomeProfile Fri Jul 08, 2011 11:48 pm

Tracy Whitney wrote:I think forget getting all poetic and the right-wrong, the prudent thing would be to go on spousal visa and find something worthwhile. At this state of mind he's is better off picking up the threads right where he lost them.

I guess I should not be surprised to read this...

WTF is prudent? Keeping honor and pride intact is a higher priority than anything prudent. It is not as if his survival is at stake. The world is huge and there are opportunities galore for a young person to make a life without sacrificing honor.

by Kris Sat Jul 09, 2011 1:54 am

Spoken like a true Roman! On a serious note, I agree with the sentiment overall, although I must confess that it is because there are practical alternatives. India does not look bad from a job market perspective and the change of scene may in fact do him some good. I hope things work out for him. The guy has been thru a harrowing experience.

by Hellsangel Tue Jul 26, 2011 11:18 am

OK. So what is going on here? Sorry, I really don't care about your history series.

by Guest Tue Jul 26, 2011 11:26 am

Oh.. one sunday when we were all out, bil took off to bar hopping. Met some random girl, and spent most of the night with her group. Came home 4:00 am. When he told me about, he was just laughing silly. Didn't tell me much as kids were there. I didn't ask him anything either. Yeah I can be discreet.

Other than that, he has got a consulting gig... somewhere, I am still not sure where it is... should be moving there next week.

by Hellsangel Tue Jul 26, 2011 11:27 am

Tracy Whitney wrote:Oh.. one sunday when we were all out, bil took off to bar hopping. Met some random girl, and spent most of the night with her group. Came home 4:00 am. When he told me about, he was just laughing silly. Didn't tell me much as kids were there. I didn't ask him anything either. Yeah I can be discreet.

Other than that, he has got a consulting gig... somewhere, I am still not sure where it is... should be moving there next week.

Ok. Remember what I said about getting over someone...

by Guest Tue Jul 26, 2011 11:45 am

He does have a solid support system. All of his friends got together in pushing his resume. This gig is coming via a friend. They will see him through I am sure.

Some astrologer said he will have another love marriage, and his ex will keep on dumping men, marriage or no marriage. His mom has done hai tauba with love marriages though.

by Hellsangel Tue Jul 26, 2011 11:51 am

Tracy Whitney wrote:His mom has done hai tauba with love marriages though.

His mom = Your MIL?

by Propagandhi711 Tue Jul 26, 2011 11:53 am

Tracy Whitney wrote:Oh.. one sunday when we were all out, bil took off to bar hopping. Met some random girl, and spent most of the night with her group. Came home 4:00 am. When he told me about, he was just laughing silly. Didn't tell me much as kids were there. I didn't ask him anything either. Yeah I can be discreet.

Other than that, he has got a consulting gig... somewhere, I am still not sure where it is... should be moving there next week.

yeah nothing like a bar skank to wash off the taste of an H1 skank. he's on the right track.

by Guest Tue Jul 26, 2011 12:05 pm

Hellsangel wrote:
Tracy Whitney wrote:His mom has done hai tauba with love marriages though.
His mom = Your MIL?

K's maami.

by Hellsangel Tue Jul 26, 2011 12:09 pm

Tracy Whitney wrote:
Hellsangel wrote:
Tracy Whitney wrote:His mom has done hai tauba with love marriages though.
His mom = Your MIL?

K's maami.

And he is your BIL how?

by Guest Tue Jul 26, 2011 12:10 pm

cousin brother-in-law?

by Rekz Tue Jul 26, 2011 12:41 pm

Propagandhi711 wrote:

yeah nothing like a bar skank to wash off the taste of an H1 skank. he's on the right track.

Do you have a story to tell ??? Love flop story???? I promise.will read every post and comment...

by Guest Tue Jul 26, 2011 6:52 pm

Tracy Whitney wrote:He does have a solid support system. All of his friends got together in pushing his resume. This gig is coming via a friend. They will see him through I am sure.

Some astrologer said he will have another love marriage, and his ex will keep on dumping men, marriage or no marriage. His mom has done hai tauba with love marriages though.

@ strong support system, good for him!!

@ some astrologer, everyone who gets dumped always turns to astrology/gurus/swamis. why is that scratch

by artood2 Tue Jul 26, 2011 9:43 pm

seven wrote:
@ some astrologer, everyone who gets dumped always turns to astrology/gurus/swamis. why is that

astrology/gurus/swamis/message boards/friends

they probably turned to half of them even before getting dumped.

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